EP109 276 Days. Use Them Wisely

With Q1 coming to a swift close, are you poised to use the rest of 2021 to set yourself up for success? Let me teach you a plan for moving forward on this journey, no matter how tired or worn out you might feel. Get excited Mama, you’re having a baby!

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 109, 276 days, mama. Use them wisely. Hey loves! OMG! Can you believe that by the time you are listening to this episode, we have only 276 ish days left in the year? I know that hearing me say that may make you want to scream, FUUUUCK ROSANNE!

Quit reminding me that time keeps moving forward and I am still on this journey! However, it is exactly for that reason That I am bringing this to your attention as we bring Q1 of 2021 to a close, this is the perfect time for you to reflect on where you have been to this point, what you have achieved in the first quarter of this year and have a plan for moving forward.

We do this shit at work. Why not do this in our lives? Let me tell you why we have such a hard time doing this in our lives. It’s so much harder than when it comes to our work, because doing a retrospective of where we’re at, when it comes to our profession, I mean, that’s kind of easy peasy. We do it all the time, but when it comes to our own lives and where we are with our own personal goals, totally different story.

Doing an honest retrospective on where we’re at brings us face to face with the truth in our own lives. No one likes that shit, particularly if you know you have not been living up to the promises you made to yourself at the beginning of the year, which is a mere 89 or so days ago, whether you like it or not, it’s fucking powerful information.

I love you enough to keep this front and center because it keeps you connected with the reality that you have the power to be the CEO in your life. You get to decide here and now how you will use the remaining 276 ish days of this year. The last thing you want to do is wake up and half the year is gone and nothing has changed.

Here’s what you have to know about all of this. If you aren’t where you want to be on this journey, you still have time to make the changes that could put you on course for having some truly extraordinary things happen by the end of the year. The choices you make today have a ripple effect in your life.

What do you want to say to yourself at the end of the year? More often than not, it’s the chances we didn’t take that we regret. And as you probably know from your own life experience, regret is a bitch. Time is a non renewable resource, unlike money. If it’s time to pivot, doll, pivot. If what you’re doing is not working, fucking change it.

The most powerful resource we have for good is between our ears. Your thoughts and beliefs are dictating everything you do or don’t do. It’s through your actions or inactions on this journey that you get a result. This is simple math and whether you like it or not, it applies to all of us. This is a great equalizer on this journey.

You can have two women trying to conceive one with a strong mindset, who knows how to think on this journey. And one who just parrots statistics, regurgitates negativity, and allows her state to be dictated by outside circumstances. Which of the two do you think is actually setting herself up for success?

We’re talking about giving herself the best possible chances. Everyone is looking for a guarantee, which is a waste of fucking time because there are none. Except you can be your own guarantee for success. I have yet to meet a woman for whom being a mom was a non negotiable who did not find a way. Not one.

This is why the way you think is critical. Notice that I’m stressing the word think. Now I’m going to say something that might get your back up a little bit, but that’s actually kind of the point is to break the pattern. The reality is, is that most of us are not. We’re stuck in patterns, routines, habits, all kinds of stuff that’s based on the past.

We’re just doing what we’ve always done. We’re not actively thinking, consciously thinking about the way we choose to think and what we choose to believe on this journey. We get stuck in thought loops that are based on past experience, folklore, urban legend, and what other people tell us. Here’s what you have to know.

Women who win on this journey think, they think they are resourceful and they think. So let’s do some of that now. I want you to think back to when you started this year. What promises did you make to yourself? And if you didn’t make any promises to yourself. Ask yourself, why? Why were you unwilling to make a promise to yourself about how you would live this journey?

For some of you listening, it will be because you were afraid you wouldn’t keep that promise, so you didn’t make it. If that was you, my love, hey, no reason to feel bad. Tons of us have done that in the past. The question you have to ask yourself is, How’s that working out for you? How was not setting a goal or putting a stake in the ground about what you want, how did that work for you?

And it’s true that some of you may say, well, it worked great for me because I didn’t have to feel any pain. Well, and that’s totally fine too. Just know. That there is a consequence for not setting goals. The consequence typically is you don’t ever get there. You don’t set yourself up to get there.

Floating along in your life like plankton isn’t a great plan long term. But hey, maybe that’s where you’re at right now. And that’s totally cool. In any event, you have to ask, where are you today with reference to where you want to be? What have you learned since the beginning of the year? What do you choose to celebrate?

Cause remember a retrospect such as we are doing now, isn’t intended to be all bad. If you’ve read either of my books, you know, that I stress whole truth, not half truth. There will be some good shit you’ve done since the beginning of the year. So give yourself a chance to see where you’ve been, learn from it, and rejoice in the good shit, woman, because undoubtedly, there’ll be some.

I know that when you are tired or feeling like all you get is bad news on this journey, doing this work is going to feel pointless. But if you’re serious about making your dream of being a mom come true, you must exert discipline over the part of you that just wants to be lazy and wallow in the shit pit.

I get it. I spent a lot of time in the shit pit myself, but I also know from having created incredible success on my own journey and coached women all over the world to success on theirs. I know for a fact that you have to exert discipline. At some point you got to get out of the lazy rut or the scared rut or the tired rut and get going.

And Hey, if you needed any inspiration for that, did you listen to last week’s podcast with Robin? That woman was on a journey to her dream family for fucking 15 years. That is a number that would scare the shit out of most of us. But if you want extraordinary results, you have to be extraordinary. You’ve gotta be wiser than the sheep out there that will just throw their hands up at the first sign of resistance.

Fuck that. When you have a big dream, which being a mom is for you, okay, this is part of your life’s purpose. When you have a big dream and a big call on your life, you cannot afford to play small. Two hundred and seventy six days, mama. Make the promise that you will use them wisely. So here’s an exercise to take this rant to the next level.

What will you do with the next two hundred and seventy six days? Step one, actually do the retrospective work. That I am suggesting here, what have you learned over the past 90 days on this journey? Did you show up the way you promised yourself and perhaps your partner? Perhaps your family, perhaps this baby that you are calling in?

Did you do what you promised them you would do? Where did you fall short? What do you want to celebrate? What are you proud of? Take the time to do this step. Step two, make a plan for how you choose to live the next 276 days. What changes do you know you need to make? Is it time that instead of trying to fumble through this mindset shit on your own, because that’s what you said you would do at the beginning of the year and didn’t follow through, that you get your butt into my Fearlessly Fertile Method program and learn this foundational game changing element of the fertility journey that most women fucking miss?

Make a decision about what needs to be different, my love, and make sure to write out your plan. Studies have shown that when you have a written plan that you can see in front of you, you are 70 percent more likely to follow through on it. Identify the changes that need to be made and you’ve got to make sure mindset is one of them.

It is everything my love. It is truly everything. And write it out. What is your plan for the next 276 days? And third. If you love this podcast and the free content, my team and I put out every week to support you on this journey, take a moment right now and give us a five star review. It’s a powerful and virtually effortless way to show your appreciation for our work and love.

The time to change the course of your fertility journey is now over the past 90 days, I’ve been sharing ideas with you about raising your standards on this journey, the mantra to end all mantras, the cure for being afraid of making mistakes, boundaries, breaking the destructive cycle of your excuses. And you’ve heard a bunch of my ladies sharing their successes.

All of this is possible for you. It starts with your decision to live this journey fearlessly. Decide that you are going to use the next 276 days wisely. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes! To covering their bases, mind and body.

I work with women who are committed to success to apply for your interview for this program. Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is you’ve heard has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Don’t let the block between you and your baby be you. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.