EP112 The Belief Experiment

Struggling to believe that you will ever be a Mom? Here is an experiment that will help you pump that up…for good. Steadying your belief isn’t pollyanna BS. It is smart AF.

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 112. experiment. Hey loves, I want to build on the work we did last week by inviting you to engage in an experiment with me. The most important thing is that you give yourself permission to do this experiment.

Your saboteurs will fuck with you, cause you to roll your eyes, or whatever boring shit that they do that is keeping you stuck right now. With that in mind, let me speak to the saboteurs directly. Listen up, saboteurs! None of the shit that I am about to share with this amazing woman that you inhabit. None of this is Pollyanna bullshit.

It’s about her making a conscious decision about how she chooses to live her journey. Okay? So shut the fuck up and let her do her thing. Okay. Now ladies, I’m talking saboteurs have been put in their corner. We’re gonna put them on pause so that they don’t mess with you. For the next few minutes. Now, it does not matter what anyone else says or thinks about what you’re about to do in this experiment.

They get to live their lives. You, my darlings, get to stay in your lane. Here’s why. You are extraordinary. And I’m not just saying that to blow smoke up your ass, because here’s what I know. Because I coach some of the most extraordinary women in the world. Physicians, lawyers. I mean, these are women, like, teachers, like, lifting up our youth.

Nurses, you know, right on the front lines. I mean, these are women who are at the top of their professional game. Women who give at the highest levels. I see it. I mean, women making a huge impact on the world. And what you have to embrace right now is you’re fucking extraordinary. If you’re listening to this podcast, chances are you do shit on a daily basis that most people would never do, or at least not with the care, the precision, and the thought that you do.

Okay, so bravo, okay, to my lovably type A control freaky professional ladies who crush shit. And who, on the regular, their 100 percent is probably everyone else’s 150%, and they have a super hard time giving to themselves. So what I’m going to be explaining is going to be challenging on multiple fronts.

Not from an intellectual standpoint, But from a truly get out of your comfort zone of constantly like in red line, constantly overgiving, overthinking, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So you get the picture. So that is basically the foundation upon which I’m going to explain this experiment to you. Okay, so there’s a couple things.

Let me remind you. Your saboteurs are going to be on fire. Okay. Totally checking you like all the whole time that you’re going to do this experiment. So that’s one truth. The second truth is you have to remember you are extraordinary. You are not like everyone else in the best possible way. Everyone is special.

I totally get it, but, but you’re extraordinary. Okay. So just tuck that into your back pocket as you are doing this experiment. Now also. As a side note, this presupposes, this whole experiment presupposes that you have control and you have a choice over how you show up to your journey, and you have to seriously question anyone’s motives who celebrates victimhood or makes it all warm and cushy for you to stay In a place, you know, damned well, is unworthy of you, okay?

So I’m inviting you to step into this extraordinary goodness. I’m inviting you to step out of any old broken down victimhood you have. Step away from anyone who would celebrate victimhood or, or think you’re crazy for being happy on this journey or, or living a really great life on this journey. Fuck all of that, okay?

You are bigger than that. Your dreams are bigger than that. And you are not going to get to where you want to be stuck in victimhood, blaming or all of that low vibrational shit. Your baby is above this. Okay, so you have to rise above it as well. So and and we don’t go for any enabling nonsense. It’s one thing to be disappointed or have a down day on this journey.

We all do. We all did. It’s it’s another to take up residence in that shithole. So what I’m going to be explaining to you. may run counter to how you were raised, maybe counter to how you’ve thought up until this point. But, hey, if you’re part of this community, this is all about the up level. None of this, as I said, is Pollyanna.

None of this shit is denial. This is all about you. And where you’re headed, because what you think and what you believe about what’s coming for you is critical thoughts, beliefs, actions, results, it’s logical and linear. You cannot get around it. And if you look around your life right now, you will see the result.

You will see it playing out in your life. And hey, women in this community demand better than that shit. Okay. And you know, and here’s why. Because they got some momming to do. They are living their purpose. The desire in their heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for them and for you and for all of us who desire it.

Okay. Even the wretches like me among them. So that’s why I know this experiment could work for you if you let it work for you. So here is the belief experiment. Step one, make a decision that for the next seven days, you will block out any shit that comes your way, that causes you to doubt, waver, or negotiate on your dream of being a mom.

All of that shit, cast it out like a demon, make no room for it in your world. Silence it. Say, thanks, but no fucking way I’m out. I’ve got some believing to do. Karate chop that shit out of your life. You will tolerate none of it. Someone starts to say something that interferes with your belief. Stop them mid sentence.

You don’t have to be rude. You just have to be firm and clear. Trust your gut. You know exactly when someone is about to sling a turd. You can feel the energy. This is a multi faceted exercise because you are not only proactively keeping negative shit out of your world, you are using your intuition to sense it.

Okay? So, here, let me be even more clear. Anything negative that comes into your world, you’re going to fucking reject it. Literally stop somebody mid sentence if they’re about to sling a crazy statistic. You just literally, as I did, make that annoying noise. I’m not listening to that. I am not listening to that.

You are going to create a protective bubble around you of belief. And here’s why immediately rejecting negative shit is smart. If you are not consciously rejecting something, you are subconsciously accepting it. That shit right there is a gold nugget. That wise women will tuck into their back pocket. A very important mentor of mine said that to me and I just, it blew my mind.

So you must be active and consistent with this. And actually, you know what, let me go back and I want to repeat something really important because it is that important. If you are not consciously rejecting something, you are sub Consciously accepting it, really get that in your bones. This is why, even though this experiment may be a little, um, out of your comfort zone and it may seem a little weird to like immediately reject something, this is why, this is the clutch move, uh, that is going to not only raise your awareness of how much negativity there is out there and how you have to consciously reject it, it is also going to connect you with the fact that you do have a choice.

A choice, ladies, a choice. To reject it. Okay. As I said, you must be active and consistent with this. The ladies in my fearlessly fertile method program know that I do this a lot in our conversations. And I know they all like probably were traumatized when they hear they heard that noise as it departed from my lips.

But it’s a good thing because we’re literally reprogramming your brain, uh, about what you’re going to take in. And it’s really important to keep this in mind that, you know what, this isn’t denial. Two things can be true at the same time. You can take in a piece of information and you can consciously reject it.

That’s not denial. None of that is denial. You are just simply making a conscious choice. It’s being crystal clear about what you allow in your life. Somebody else’s negative reality doesn’t have to be yours. You are intelligent enough to look above your present circumstances so they don’t become the cement shoes that sink your hauling mamas.

Okay, remember, this desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. It is a calling. All right, we don’t let other people’s bullshit and other people’s negativity knock us off our purpose. Step two. For this same seven days, you will flood your senses with things that bolster your belief.

You will only play music and podcasts that lift your spirit. You will take in no news. Those people. The mainstream media literally trade on your fear. Take none of it in. Trust me, if something really important happens, someone’s gonna come and knock on your door, or you will see the zombie horde drag past your window.

You will not miss shit. You will read books that make your heart sing. You will only take calls from people you trust will make you laugh, or who support your belief in your dream. You will spend time in the room you set aside for your baby. You will loud and proud proclaim the promise that you made to this baby.

Remember last week’s episode? Yeah, do that. If you are partnered, you will tell your partner that the only thing you will take in this week is awesomeness. About your journey. You are literally engineering everything around you and through all of your senses To support your belief get creative be bold Don’t forget to keep a running journal of all that you discovered during the seven days of this belief experiment You may be surprised at what presents itself.

And step three, if you love this podcast and the free content my team and I bring to you every week, take a moment right now to give us a five star review. Not only does it show your appreciation, it helps other women find this work. Love. Women who beat the odds on this journey, regardless of diagnosis or age, do so because they dare to believe.

And that belief is supported by their thoughts and their actions because thoughts and actions lead to your result. This is why what you think, what you believe, as in this belief experiment, is so critical. You have to cultivate it. It is so often the missing link of this fertility puzzle. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months.

And say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results, as 111 episodes, Speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of the fearlessly fertile podcast.

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.