EP118 An Ode To My Ladies In The Ring

If you are feeling invisible, unseen, or like you are running out of steam on this journey, let what I have to share here stoke the fires of your HELL YES. Time to recognize…YOU. Want to apply for my Quantum Leap Retreat? Click this link: https://fy227.infusionsoft.com/app/form/ff-sun-valley-retreat-aug2021-application

Hey, Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 118. And owed to my ladies in the ring. Hey loves. I’m so excited to be here with you this week and we’re going to be changing gears a little bit. I know that for the past few weeks we’ve been talking about being ready to receive.

You’ve heard from a bunch of my ladies beaten crazy odds. We’ve been talking about asking for help. And last week we talked about the power of being all in. So there’s loads of information. Coming from a lot of different directions, all about the way you think and, and inspiring you with other women’s stories, which is such a powerful way to learn, because we learn from story and we learn from other people setting examples and showing gratitude by showing the way.

And that’s what drives the work that I do. That’s, that’s what inspires the passion and the commitment and the emphatic way in which I teach it. Very unapologetically, because I see women overcome crazy shit all the time. So we’re going to switch gears and we’re going to get into another topic, but before we get to that, I really want to make sure that if you didn’t catch the invitation last week, that I give you an open hearted, wholehearted invitation to come spend three amazing days with me.

At my quantum leap retreat in Sun Valley, Idaho, August 1st through 4th. There’s something truly magical that happens when you get yourself into a room with other women who are deeply committed to having a quantum leap on this journey. It’s going to be about shaking things up and getting out of your, your normal environment so you can have that quantum leap.

Sometimes we have to break the pattern. Actually, we always have to break the pattern if we want to get past that rut and really open up a new level of possibility in our lives, we’re going to work really hard. We’re going to play really hard. You will come to Sun Valley. One way, and you’re going to leave with a completely transformational level of awareness.

So if you want to get out of where you’re at right now, you want to escape the norm and come to a truly magical place. Spend time with your mentor. That’s me and other amazing women. Get your application in my love. So I cannot wait to give you a hug in person at my quantum leap retreat, August 1st through 4th, get your application in.

Nobody leaves these events the same in the best possible way. So, so that being said, the way that we are going to be changing gears this week is I want to give you some credit. I know as a lovably type A control freaky professional woman who gets her shit done and people don’t have to ask you twice, you are used to operating at a level that, you know, you’re a hundred percent is like everyone else is 150 percent.

I get it. You operate in red line. You’re used to just being at your, the top of your game. Well, when we live that way for a really long time, you know, we, we try to tell ourselves that, ah, this is just what I do. I’m just really good at this. I’m a hard worker. I get what I want, but there’s a part of us that is starving to be recognized.

There’s a part of us that is just wishing that somebody would notice. All of the personal sacrifice, all of the things that you say yes to when everyone else is like doing lazy shit and eating cookies and watching TV, you know, you’re the one brewing the teas. You’re the one going to the appointments.

You’re the one sticking to your Adorably crazy strict diet or whatever it is that you’re up to. Okay. Like if you remember Tran and the conversation that we had, gosh, maybe about a month ago, but you know, making sure you got your mocks of sticks going in the right place. And you know, all of these things that we do in the name of the dream of being a mom and our purpose in being a mom, we do a lot of things that rarely get recognized that our partner, our friends, our family would just never understand.

You know, maybe if it’s the first time that you’ve had to give yourself a shot, and you’re like deathly afraid of shots, but there’s nobody else to give it, so you just fucking suck it up and do it. There’s grit in you mama. There’s grit and I want to take a moment to really recognize that you know mad respect to you as a woman who lived this journey as well and for a very long time I deeply understand that that quiet desperation that we can we can find ourselves struggling with at 2am while we google the shit out of whatever topic is, you know, top of mind at the time, but I see you and I hear you and even though our journeys may be different, the sentiment and, and that loneliness and that sometimes inexplicable, indescribable, not that we walk around with in our stomachs, just hoping, praying, waiting just for, you know, that, that glimmer of hope.

I’m tipping my hat to you. Because not only as a, as a woman who lived this journey, but as, as someone who, who was able to take my experience and, and use that experience and, and take the, the gift that Gus gave me and use it to teach other women. You know, there’s so much growth that we go through on this journey and in different chapters in our lives that, you know, when we’re growing at such a fast rate, when we’re challenged in so many ways, and we’re having to step up our game in what feels like, you know, a thousand different areas in our lives, very few people see that.

So I want to take this time to acknowledge you and really just take a moment to breathe with you. This shit isn’t easy, but living on your terms and living your dream. You know that there are no free lunches out there, and I want to acknowledge you as a member of this community These are you know, these are some gladiator fucking women out here women who say hell Yes women who say hell no women who know boundaries women who honor that that light within them They honor this calling of being a mom and they fucking go for it.

They may not know when they may not know how But they are driven as fuck. It takes a lot of courage to be in that place. And I want, I want you to acknowledge that with me today. Maybe it’s been a really long time since somebody acknowledged that, you know, geez, in order to stay on that diet for years, you are a gangster or, you know, you’re really like freaking superwoman for being able to stab yourself in the ass with a syringe full of progesterone and sesame oil.

And you have to, you know, stand there waiting to get that through the, uh, whatever enormous gauge needle that you happen to be using. But. You are already a success, whether you’re holding your baby today or not, I really want to acknowledge the part of you that has that stick with it ness, the tenacity, the willingness to ask for fucking help.

You know, whenever I think about the women in my Fearless Effertile Method program, these women that are so committed to their dream that they’re not going to let fear, their saboteurs, bad habits, or old bullshit stories stand between them and their babies. They’re really going for it. That’s in you too.

And so, I couldn’t think of a better way to round out this, this session of honoring you, acknowledging you, and telling you to keep fucking going. Other than to read a poem, yes, this hard ass bitch loves poetry, but there’s a poem and I think when you hear it, you’re going to understand why I love it because it definitely stands for women who are committed to making their dream of being a mom come true.

It’s everything about that, even though the context this poet wrote this and was quite different. But I’m going to share it with you. Maybe you’ve heard it before, but I hope that you can see it in today’s context, the context of being a woman on this journey, a woman who has the guts to take a stand for what she desires.

And I hope that in hearing these words, you’re going to see what a badass you really are. So here is my rendition of Invictus by William Ernest Henley. Out of the night that covers me. Black as the pit from pole to pole. I thank whatever gods may be for my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance.

I have not winced nor cried aloud, under the burgeonings of chance. My head is bloody, but unbowed, beyond this place of wrath and tears, looms but the horror of the shade, and yet the menace of the years finds and shall find me unafraid. It matters not how straight the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate.

I am the captain of my soul. This is your dream, mama. This desire in your heart to love and nurture and bring this amazing life into the world. I hope that you never lose sight of what you’re doing, even in the darkest moments where you feel like there’s no hope or you just want to fucking give up. I hope that you can look back on the way that you’ve lived this journey.

And take a moment to honor everything that you have become the strength that it takes to keep saying yes in the face of harrowing nose is Herculean and that’s no exaggeration. So no matter how many quote unquote failures you’ve had in the past, I hope that you’re going to use the fact that you keep saying yes to catapult yourself forward because the payoff.

is grand. The world is going to be such a better place with you as a mom. So keep going for it. And remember, you are the captain of your soul and that desire in your heart to be a mom, it’s fucking meant for you. And here’s an exercise to take what we’ve talked about here to the next level. Step one, identify five things that you have done in the past 30 days That you are super fucking proud of.

Whether anyone else notices, or anyone else saw, or whatever, pick some beautiful nuggets of awesome from the past 30 days. Write them down. And do a fucking victory dance when you read them. Step two, decide how you are going to use this awesomeness, this amazingness that you’ve created in the past 30 days.

Even if it was showing up to work on time, taking your supplements, whatever it happens to be, how are you going to use those wins? Those things that you can honestly be proud of. To propel you forward. And third, if you love this podcast and the free content that my team and I bring to you every week, take a moment right now and give us a five star review.

Not only does that show your appreciation, it helps other women find this work. Love one of the ways that you keep yourself moving forward on this journey is to stoke the fires of your hell. Yes. And it all starts with making the decision to live your journey fearlessly. And if it’s on your heart to have me help you get to that place, girl, I got your back.

My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases. Mind and body. I work with women who are committed to success to apply for your interview for this program. Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview.

There. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results, as you’ve heard here, speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results.

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.