EP122 HOW You Think = Life/Death of Your Fertility Dreams

Sounds a little dramatic, and it’s true. Are you aware of the thought patterns that are presently BLOCKING you from fertility success? I’m going to walk you through a kick-ass series of questions that will help you identify dream stealing thought processes, so you can give them the boot. Guaranteed to make even your peskiest Saboteurs nervous.

Hey, Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 122. How you think equals the life or death Hey loves, I know that title sounds all dramatic and shit, and generally I like to keep the level of drama in my life low, but when it comes to living your dreams in this life, it’s worth being a little emphatic about, wouldn’t you agree?

Now, before we get into the topic that I’m presenting you with this week, I want to remind you that enrollment for my Quantum Leap Retreat, August 1st through 4th in Sun Valley, Idaho, is open. This is going to be an intimate group of super awesome women who are going to go deeper, farther, and faster. Shit, they’re coming for a Quantum Leap on their journey, and that’s exactly what they’re going to get.

So get your application in soon, doll. You don’t want to miss this. The way you think is everything, and it all starts with that precious brain of yours. So if you know you’re ready for a quantum leap, it’s time to get one baby. Join us in Sun Valley, Idaho. So this week, my loves, I want to give you a simple invitation.

I want you to think about the way you think. And let’s use some critical thinking skills here, ladies, because look, let me be clear. Critical thinking isn’t necessarily criticism. It’s taking a step back and looking at every situation. Objectively, let me say that one more time. Objectively, because that means you got to be willing to take a step back and look at the whole picture to be a success at anything in this life.

You must be willing to engage in some loving self evaluation, loving being the operative word my loves. So I’m going to walk you through a series of questions that I am really wanting to evoke. A really thoughtful response in you, like really resist the temptation to be like, Oh, fuck this. I’m not going to listen to this.

Like, look, all that is, if you find yourself doing that, that is your pattern clinging like with every last breath to a shitty like grip on your life that’s going to deny you of the things that you truly want. So just watch out for that. And, and be willing to have an open heart and open mind through the process of evaluating these questions, because we all have patterns.

Like we are all in patterns and you have to ask, is the pattern working for me? Is a way that I’m thinking, is that strategic? Is that actually going to get me what I want on this journey? And so that’s the real impetus behind everything that I’m sharing with you here. So just keep that in mind. Open heart, open mind.

And you know that like everything else I do on this podcast, like for like a bazillion and five episodes that we have, not really, but you know, it feels like it’s a bazillion and five, but you know, this is always done from a place of love. So you have an opportunity here to face some very real shit, break some really ridiculous patterns that you could be stuck in.

Okay. Cause that’s what smart women do as smart women. We have to be willing to look beyond our own nose. To see what’s really going on, we have to get out of the pattern, get a 36, 000 foot view of what’s really going on in our lives so we can be fucking strategic instead of repeating broken down, pointless stories that just keep us circling the drain, okay?

So that’s the perspective that I’m going to be sharing with you as we go through these questions. Here we go. Is the way that I am thinking breathing life into my dreams or is it sucking the life out of my dreams? Is the way that I am thinking setting me up for victimhood by putting the responsibility for my choices or how I feel onto other people?

Is the way that I’m thinking leading me to be open to receiving? Conceiving is all about receiving, you gotta keep that in mind. Is the way that I am thinking causing me to vilify people who have differing opinions on this journey or engage in other disempowered snowflakery that distracts me from the fact that I am the gatekeeper of my experience on this journey?

Is the way that I’m thinking, riddled with the same well intentioned but lack in scarcity fear based color within the lines shit that mom and dad gave me, that I have yet to seriously question? Is the way that I’m thinking leading me to immediately go into anxiety in the face of any uncertainty? Is the way that I’m thinking telling me That I have to put my life on hold or push my relationship to the fucking brink in order to get what I want on this journey.

Is the way that I’m thinking blinding me to the fact that I am an adult and get to do shit my way? I’m inviting you to consider questions like this so you can see the fucking pattern. Because until someone points it out, it just feels normal to you. You think that this is just the way that things are, or way, the way it has to be, when in fact you could create an entirely different experience on this journey if you could just wake up.

To the way you think when you think about the way you think and see the pattern, you can get out of the emotional torture we put ourselves through by letting our minds run wild, like unruly, undisciplined children, but he likes those kids run it through a restaurant or through the store like that. Don’t let your mind be like that.

And this is crucial because you could be blocking opportunities Solutions and information that could make all the difference in the world on this journey because your mind is running you instead of you running your mind. Seriously, every single woman who has appeared on this podcast has touched upon the same thing.

Think about how different a day on this journey would be if every little thing that came your way didn’t have the power to fuck you up. Think about how different a day on this journey would be if you weren’t living in the fucking past or by notions that no longer apply to you because you’re a fucking grown ass woman, not some whiny, take no responsibility, basic bitch.

That’s not who you are. That’s certainly not who you are if you’re listening to this podcast. And think about the imagery here, the way you think is going to determine whether you are a woman in charge of her world on this journey or if you’re going to be the mascara running down her face, one shoe on, can’t find her keys, talking too loud, hot mess when shit goes sideways on this journey, because shit goes sideways a lot on this journey, really get a sense of that image, who do you want to be, the woman who got her shit together or the woman who’s like, Crying, looking for her keys, you know, and, and this isn’t about criticism loves this.

This stark contrast here is to really empower you to make a better choice. We all have moments when you might want to And then there are going to be other moments where you’re like, Oh, fuck that. I’m not, I’m not going to be that. I’m going to be the woman that’s in control. And neither is necessarily better or worse in any given situation, except you have to ask.

And, and like, and the way to answer this question is to really look at your results. You have to ask yourself, which one is going to work for me here? Because there are certainly going to be moments like where you might want to be that person, the hot mess. But you have to ask whether or not you want to take a residence there as that’s a huge move That’s a smart woman’s move is to ask, you know and be willing to marshal which she actually wants to be and this is why Understanding your pattern are really looking at the way that you think is so critical because what if in your soul?

You’re like, ah, there’s I’m not gonna be a hot mess, but you don’t even recognize that you’re in that place This is why we take the time to do these exercises and really gather the kind of awareness that can change everything on your fertility journey. And look, you know, being a mom is part of your purpose in this life.

It’s why you’re here. It’s why you feel the longing in your heart. And when you really get that and you get the gravity of that, you, you let it really sink in. You won’t take the way you think for granted. You won’t just fall back on what you’ve always done, especially if that shit is not effective. You know, you really got to get clear on that.

You will insist upon better. Like, when you really understand why you’re on this journey and why you’re doing what you’re doing, you will insist upon better. You will awaken that fearless mama bear energy inside of you because if you’re, you are really serious about being a mom, you’re going to fucking need it.

You can’t afford to show up to motherhood all wet noodle and shit. Your kids need your leadership. They need your backbone, they need your empowered feminine ferocity, the loving, the vulnerable, the nurturer, the leader, and the fucking junkyard dog when she needs to be gloriousness. All of you, all of you.

So think about the way you think, mama. It’s an awesome truth to have working for you, not against you. You’ve got to make your mind. work for you, not against you on this journey. So here’s an exercise to take what we’ve talked about here. To the next level, step one, ask yourself the questions I posed above.

Now, I know I went rapid fire on that and that’s totally fine, but I want you to trust your instincts because there will be one or two questions that triggered you. And that’s really important because we have to get smarter instead of running away from the shit that triggers us. Grown ass, you know, grown up, panty wearing women don’t just run when they get triggered.

Um, that kind of snowflakery is not going to serve you on this journey. If you want to break patterns that are keeping you stuck and creating blocks between you and your baby, you can’t afford that mess. And so If there were a couple questions that really got under your skin or made you say, huh, start with those questions really dig there because, you know, there’s a Jordan Peterson said something the other day in a post that I really loved.

And it’s like that place that we, you know, we’re triggered by or the place that we don’t want to go is actually where the real gold is. And that’s clearly not a direct quote. I kind of, I kind of made a mess of Jordan Peterson. And what he was saying, but you get the point is that you have to be willing to look at the thing.

Like if you’re getting triggered, you have to ask yourself, well, if I’m getting triggered by that shit or that question made me feel like I got stabbed in the heart, what does that tell me about me? Cause it’s not the other person. It’s not the person posing the question. It’s your reaction to the question.

And that in and of itself is a pattern. So that really serves you love. So you don’t have to answer every single question, but you know, I, I strongly encourage you to consider them, but go first to the ones. That really got under your skin because they’re going to be, they’re real amazing teachers and they’re really going to help reveal the pattern.

And what’s great is, you know, awareness is the first step toward lasting change because once you see the pattern, you damn sure ain’t going to unsee it. Okay, and that’s, that’s a huge gift. Step two, what are you going to do about it? Make a decision that you’re going to fucking do something about the pattern that you uncovered.

Because look, the patterns you discover in, in doing this exercise, they’ve been there for decades, for show. But that’s no excuse. You have a, you have an opportunity here to decide. Are you going to let them stand between you? And your baby, you really got to look at that because only you can answer that.

And only you can live with the consequences. Everyone around you, they get to go home. They get to go live by their own patterns. They’re not thinking about yours. So you’ve got to be a really wise, uh, historian here loves. You got to be a really. wise detective here when you’re looking at these things and say, okay, I identified these patterns.

Now, what the hell am I going to do about them? You got to be better mama, because anything less is unworthy of the fearlessness that is inside of you. You were born with that shit and it’s fucking awesome. You wouldn’t have this desire in your heart to be a mom if it wasn’t meant for you, but you know, deep down, you are, you are very aware that If you’ve got blocks, you know, they’re there.

You may not know what to call them. You may not know exactly what they are, but you’ve got to follow your instincts. If you feel like you are blocked, if you see that you’re triggered by certain questions or, you know, certain things are like, Ooh, ah, ouch, you’ve got to really dig around there and, and that can be a super telling thing.

So do the work mama, you were born with this shit. You, you’ve got fearlessness within you, but you cannot let. These blocks are these fucked up patterns stand between you and your baby and step three. If you love this podcast and the free content, my team and I bring to you every week, take a moment right now and give us a five star review.

Not only does that show your appreciation, it helps other women find this desperately needed work gaping hole in most women’s strategies is the way that they think and paying attention to the way that they think. Love, what you think and believe is everything. It’s what makes all the difference between a life well lived and a life of bitter regret.

You cannot afford to do that. We got one go round on this merry go round love. So you got to keep that got to keep that at the forefront. You want to know that you gave your all when the chips were down. We all know when we’re stuck in a rut. But women who win on this journey make the decision to get the fuck out of it and be better, not just for themselves.

for their kids. It all starts with making the decision to live your journey fearlessly. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body. I work with women who are committed to success to apply for your interview for this program.

Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. And you’ve got to know, love, if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.