EP143 Fearless Holiday Fix: Acceptance

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey. Just like I did get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, badassery, and loads of hell. Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 143, Fearless Holiday Fix, Acceptance. All right, all right, all right, mamas, yes! Just then, I was having a Matthew McConaughey moment. Maybe because I really love the topic that I am sharing with you this week and how it pertains to taking a fearless Approach to the holidays this year and well, frankly, just about any year that you want to be saying.

I honestly believe that now more than ever. We have a real opportunity to cross a bridge into true clarity, sovereignty, and freedom in our lives. So much of that comes from what we are going to be talking about in our time together today. Just in time for the beginning of the holiday season. And for me, that’s Thanksgiving here in the States.

And no matter where you are in the world, this shit’s gonna apply. And what we’re going to be talking about today is acceptance. And I know, at first blush, when you hear me say the word acceptance, you might think, what the fuck? What the fuck has happened to my on fire, take no prisoners, knock down, drag out, street fighter of a former prosecutor coach?

Has that bitch gone soft? If you freaked out for a second, I get it. We tend to see acceptance as retreat, complacency, or at worst, defeat. The acceptance I am talking about here is none of that. Not even close. Retreat, complacency, and defeat are positions of weakness. My ladies and I do not do weak. We do emotional, vulnerable, authentic, and real.

None of that is weakness. None of that shit is weakness. Even when you are down, You can still be steadfast in your personal power, which I believe acceptance is. In the context that I’m using acceptance here, it means conscious awareness of whole truth. Truth. Whole. Truth. When you accept something, you see it for what it is and nothing more.

You don’t hang stories on your truth. You simply see the objective whole truth and most importantly, you don’t buy into the belief that it will never change. You see things as they are in the present. That is acceptance. I love David R. Hawkins, MD’s work, Power Versus Force, and he talks about acceptance in a way that I think is utterly brilliant.

And he states, acceptance is not to be confused with passivity, which is a symptom of apathy. This form of acceptance allows engagement in life on one’s own terms without trying to make it conform to an agenda. With acceptance, there is emotional calm and perception is widened as denial is transcended.

One now sees things without distortion or misinterpretation. The context of experience is expanded so that one is capable of seeing the whole picture. Acceptance has to do essentially with balance, proportion, and appropriateness. Can you see already how much power you can have when you exercise acceptance?

Now, let’s make this applicable to your own life, particularly during a time of year so laden with opportunities. Remember last week’s episode we were talking about see the opportunity. This time of year is just absolutely rife with opportunities to exercise acceptance. So let me give you an example to make this tangible.

Let’s say you have a tough relationship with a parent. That parent, in your experience, tends to guilt trip you, potentially harangue you about your baby making endeavors, and a host of other things that drive you to want to sit in the corner chugging dairy free eggnog spiked with diesel. No matter how you have cajoled and explained your position, this parent keeps this shit up year after year.

You just don’t get your needs met in that relationship. Acceptance, in this example, Would simply be to say. This is how my parent is. This is the current state of our relationship, and I accept it. Certainly, it is possible for things to improve in the future, and it is my sincere desire that it will, and I accept things as they are today.

This also means that as an adult, I take responsibility for my well being. If being around this parent does not feel good, I give myself permission to do what’s right for me. I release all judgments, anger, disappointment, rage, or whatever. I can accept the present state of our relationship, see it for what it is, love myself and my parent at the same time.

Does that make sense? I want to emphasize the fact again that acceptance is not waving the white flag saying things will never change and you’re powerless. Not at all. Acceptance is an awareness of all the facts without the drama our ego loves to create. You can have a parent that treats you like shit, but that doesn’t mean they are shit, you are shit, and that there is no love between you.

Come on, we’re way more complex beings than that. Acceptance is simply this is where things are and I get to decide what to do, if anything, about it because as an adult who takes responsibility for the experience she creates, that’s what I do. Acceptance is not about letting anyone off either. It’s just, hey, that’s where this person is at, cool, it’s not for me right now, I’m open to things being different in the future.

I hope that you’re taking all of this in because acceptance is like an ace up your sleeve. It is a way of maintaining your own equilibrium while everyone else is stuck in the bitter infighting fueled by ego. When we choose acceptance, we choose a forward focus that keeps us solution oriented rather than mired.

In drama, here are some more examples to really get this in your bones, and trust me, this may, I mean, this may save your ass this holiday season. If your sister in law is useless at family gatherings, accept it and stop expecting more from her. Quit letting her drain your fucking energy. Take care of yourself and stop taking on so much to fill the gap.

Choose, from an empowered place, how you will respond in any given situation. You’re responsible for your own boundaries, baby. That’s also part of acceptance. If your nosy cousin won’t stop asking questions about your journey, accept that they’re nosy as fuck and lay down a much needed boundary. Put on your big girl pants and see the whole truth.

People show you who they are, so fucking b If you hate being around your family for the holidays, accept that shit. Quit hanging on to the romanticized notion of what holidays are quote unquote supposed to be and go fucking create your own tradition that will make you happy as fuck. Recharge your batteries.

and get you the hell out of the bitterness that is probably blinding you from the love you could have for your family if you stop trying to make them something they’re not. Do you get that? That is the most awesome thing about acceptance. It’s about seeing things as they are, no better, no worse, so you can get the hell out of your own way and get on with the business of living your life.

Acceptance, again, does not mean that things will never change for the better. It is simply an acknowledgment of how they are today. When it comes to this journey, accept that you’re on it. Don’t make it a death sentence or a crime against humanity. Just because you are presently struggling with your fertility doesn’t mean you always will.

See things as they are, with a non punitive, empowered focus on continuing improvement. There is nothing contradictory or Pollyanna about accepting the current facts as they are, with an eye on the gloriousness of what’s to come. Just think about how different your holiday season will be when you leverage the power of acceptance.

Notice how it feels in your body when you say, Dude, my brother is totally fucking lazy. He’s been that way all of his life. If he doesn’t do his part, that has nothing to do with me because I’m not picking up the slack. I take care of myself by doing only the stuff that feels good to me and I focus on the love in any given situation.

Any given situation! Think about how different you would feel if you could do that. And that feeling in your body when you can finally exhale because you’ve dropped the drama and committed to taking responsibility for your own experience? That feeling is the power of acceptance. And the coolest thing ever is that a side effect of practicing acceptance of others is you can get your hands on the Holy Grail.

Acceptance of yourself. And oh, that shit is glorious. So here’s an exercise to take what I’ve taught you here to the next level. Allow for acceptance. Step one. Make a list of five things you choose to accept this holiday season. Maybe your partner loves to get you socks. Maybe your uncle makes embarrassing speeches.

Maybe your best friend is always fucking late, or whatever it is. Make the list. Choose things that you know you are hanging onto like a barnacle on the side of the QE2. Make a decision about what you choose to accept and write it down. Step 2. Practice acceptance in those moments. See things as they are, the whole truth, not the drama.

Make space for seeing situations without the kabuki theater we create around otherwise objective facts. Is this easy? Fuck no! But everything I teach you is about having the guts to do what others won’t. You want to succeed? You want to trade your suffering for the elation that comes from beating the odds?

Then you have to do shit that sets you up for beating the odds. As I said last week, you can’t be in the 5 percent doing the shit that the 95 percent do. Quit pretending that you don’t want victory, mama. Go after it with your whole heart. Act with integrity to yourself and God universe source above all else.

The people around you. are adults. They can take care of themselves. You are an adult. So let go of the child brain that keeps you stuck in the servitude of people pleasing and the guilt grift other people love to toss your way. Smart women will document their progress with this. So in moments when you are tempted to crawl into the vortex of victimhood, you will say, Fuck no, I’m out.

And step three, text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me. Share the shit out of this. And while you’re at it, take a moment to give us a five star review. It will make you feel amazing to show your gratitude for this free content my team and I serve you with every week.

Love. A critical aspect of acceptance is taking the next step, paving the way for things to be different. Accept that fear and negativity have fucked with your head up to this point and are likely creating blocks between you and your baby. Then, make a decision to learn how to address them like a woman who succeeds from here on out.

Look, you wouldn’t have the desire in your heart to be a mom if there wasn’t a fuckin way to get there. Nature and God Universe Source Doesn’t fuck with people like that. There are no extra human beings and we all have a purpose. Part of yours is motherhood. Think about that. Think about where you could be 12 months from now if you live the way I am inviting you to.

What you do now, mama, could lead to your due date in the new year. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, Hell yes!

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Until next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

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