EP178: When Things Get Scary, Double Down

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In uncertain and scary times, the average person will make fear-based choices that suck. But, when you are committed to success, you simply can’t afford to do that. I am going to share exactly why doubling down instead of running for the hills is what women who beat the odds do—particularly on this journey.

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Transcript:
Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly Fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 178. What to do when things get scary. Two steps to secure your success. Hey loves, it has been on my heart for a minute to chat with you about uncertain times, in an uncertain world. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, buried under six feet of concrete, you know damn well it kinda seems like a clown world out there.

There’s a lot of strange things happening, a lot of scary things in the headlines, and even if you’re like me and don’t watch the news, it’s all over social media, and people are talking about it. Now, before I really started taking full responsibility for the results in my life and thinking critically about what was going on around me, I have to admit, I just took what others in quote unquote authority said as fact.

It’s kind of embarrassing to admit, but fuck it, it’s true. If someone with a white coat wearing glasses said it was fact, then I pretty much bought it. Back when I watched the news, I never even questioned whether those talking heads were trying to manipulate me. I figured everybody out there was like me.

Had some integrity and felt an obligation to tell the truth. I know, super fucking naive, right? But then, I woke up. Waking up to my personal sovereignty and power was one of the greatest gifts my journey gave me. Short of my son, of course. But that’s what becoming an outlier will do. You see, according to the statistics, having my son naturally should have been impossible.

This really caused me to start thinking in a whole new way. I mean, I learned a lot of shit and that that really helped me call my son in, but actually seeing with my own two eyes, what was possible for me, then teaching it to other women. And their eyes opening, it really continued to expand my own thinking.

So let’s talk about that. Most of the time, we don’t stop and consider what our unconscious position is. Okay, put another way. We don’t think about what our basic assumptions are when we aren’t actively, critically thinking. I’m talking about the position you take when you aren’t actively thinking. For example, if someone came running up to you and said, I just saw a cop shouting that there was a zombie horde heading this way.

Would your natural inclination be to immediately run? Or do you stop and ask actively in a critically thinking manner? Wait. Who is this cop? Are they really a cop? How do they know there’s actually a zombie horde? And how do I know this person isn’t having some kind of psychotic break? Or do you just run?

Part of you may be saying, Fuck off, Roseanne, I’m not sticking around to find out, and that’s cool. But you have to ask yourself. Do you want your first response to in any given situation where someone’s trying to scare you or someone’s trying to get your attention? Do you want your first response to be one of fear and flight?

Or is the better situation or position curiosity? You see, particularly in times when shit’s uncertain, both on this journey and in our daily lives, there’s a huge price to pay if your go to response is always fear. You start making short sighted decisions that suck. You might get ushered into situations that suck, and you might unnecessarily assume that shit’s far worse than it actually is.

None of that puts you in a position of leadership in your life. You’re constantly reacting instead of consciously responding according to your higher faculties. The biggest risk you run by staying in that mode is you get tired and burnt out fast. There’s only so many times you’re going to run from the zombies before you say, fuck it.

That spells disaster for your level of resilience. I see women burn out on this journey because their resting position in their daily lives is fear. Now, that’s not my ladies, because they learn to be better than that. Seriously. But many times women come to me in a situation realizing that if they stay in that fear based place, they are at risk for giving up and living in regret.

Nobody wants that shit. That shit’ll destroy your life and leave you one bitter bitch. Dude, I’m telling you, please, this is why mindset is so important and why you have to cover your bases. You don’t ever want to look back on this time in your life and know deep down you went cheap, gave up too soon, and that you let the opinions of others rob you of the dream.

Or even worse, you let your partner bully you out of the dream, or that you let money decide what you did or didn’t do. There’s always a way, mama. There is always a way. You don’t want to be a sad bitch who has a hundred justifications and people to blame for why she gave up, but when you read between the lines, you see plain as day, she’s a regretting motherfucker.

That shit breaks my heart. In the end, we all make our beds and we have to lie in them. So you better make sure your shit is tight, right, and true. So when things get scary, there are two moves that I go to. One, I think critically about what I hear. I mean really critically. Who is giving me this information?

Have they earned my trust? Do they know what the fuck they’re talking about? Have I done my own research? And what does my intuition say? As far as I’m concerned, God Universe Source, a. k. a. Gus, gave me the faculties to be a lion, not a sheep. So ain’t no one getting my hackles up unless I decide they need to go up.

Critically thinking. And not just accepting what someone tells you without running it through your own BS meter will save your ass. Seriously, think for yourself. And if you decide to take what someone is saying seriously, you got to look at their results, not just their credentials. Are you being told you have less than 1 percent chance, but that doesn’t actually jive with your heart?

That means something, mama. Go look at my Instagram. Just a few days ago, a 46 year old woman who had a less than 1 percent chance of conceiving on the eve of a fuckin donor cycle finds out she’s pregnant naturally and credits my work for helping her get there. Her words were exactly this. I always believed I could be the exception.

Go read it for yourself, baby girl. It’s in my highlight reels. If that doesn’t inspire your ass to trust yourself, I don’t know what will. And you know what? That woman’s baby girl is eight months old now. Fuck! On the eve of a donor cycle, mama pulled a rabbit out of a hat. She kept her heart and mind. Open and look what happened.

She was right. So that’s the first move. Think critically about what you hear. Second move. This is the second move that I always go to. Double down on my vision. My journey taught me well and the success of my clients reason forces this shit daily. Nobody trumps my vision. I go back to the vision I have for my life.

my family and my work. Nobody hijacks that shit with their fear porn. Fuck that. Does that mean that I get shit right all the time? Hell no. It just means that I have come to trust me to take care of me and not abandon me. When you stay grounded in your vision, mama, you don’t find yourself miles off course trying to find your way back having wasted time and resources because your ass was distracted.

You double down. Okay? You gotta double down. You gotta make every move you make count when shit is uncertain. See, people get weirded out about gas prices, recession, etc., and think they have to contract, be cheap, and cut corners. You When it comes to this journey, sister, you can’t afford to do that. In fact, you gotta do the opposite.

You double down because each cycle counts. Each cycle is precious. And you want to do your very best because there’s so much at stake. Is this making sense? When things are uncertain, every step you take must be conscious and putting your best foot forward. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, but you gotta be working at being better.

Remember what last week’s episode was all about and the week before that, okay? Seriously, with the 20 percent when you factor in food, gas, and other commodities, not the 8 9 percent fucking fairy tale the government is trying to sell you, you’ve got to show up. Each cycle bigger and better in baseball terms, every at bat matters.

You focus on the outcome, not the price because you’re willing to pay the price because you want the fucking outcome. This is why making choices solely based on money, which you can always make more of. is a recipe for regret. You fucking pay it. This is true even if you’re trying to conceive naturally.

If you can give yourself the best possible chances of getting pregnant naturally, why not give it your fucking all? Mind and body, right? Save your ass the need to do IVF. See why this mindset check is so important? When times are uncertain, and the world is uncertain around you, you have to fucking double down on you.

That means stay true to your vision and show up like a fucking boss lady, prepared as fuck, and ready to do whatever it fucking takes. My ladies do this on the regular, which is why I am not so secretly calling them one percenters right now, because they kind of get the finger to scary statistics on the regular.

So these are the two steps, love, that are going to truly help you secure your success when shit is blowing up all around you. Two steps. One, think critically. Two, double down. This is what will secure your success when things get scary. We see this shit play out all the time outside of this journey as well.

Think about it. When the market goes down, the sheepy scaredy cats sell. While the lions are waiting on the sidelines, see the advantage and fucking seize it. It’s just the way nature works. When you think critically and double down on your vision, you will see opportunities that those running around like chickens with their heads cut off, won’t see.

Your hand will be steady and your moves will be calm and flow like fucking Baryshnikov across the dance floor. You stay in flow, not fear. We’ve been sold so much fear and disempowerment over the past couple of years, it’s time for us to rise up and reclaim our sovereignty as women, as mama bears, and as those made in the image of God, universe source, let no human beings, quote unquote, authority be higher than the authority that God universe source instilled in you.

When you tuck this in your back pocket, your success is no longer uncertain. The world may be, but your success isn’t. You simply make it a matter of when. Being clear about the true authority in your life, mama, isn’t hubris, it’s fuckin faith. Faith in God, universe, source, faith in yourself, and faith in the truth that lives in your heart.

Love, in times of uncertainty, when everyone else is going left, let the line within you lead you right. When everyone else is contracting and constricting, you expand and grow. At the end of the day, the truest peace on this journey comes from knowing you have your bases covered and that you are truly doing your best.

Thinking past fear, doubt, negativity, all of that bullshit that gets slung cheap and way too fucking easy. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.

I work with women who are actually committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com, and apply for an interview there. My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Fair results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on the journey, baby girl, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying, hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.