EP181 Smart Women Celebrate Failure

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Want to do something super smart and uber punk rock on your journey? Start celebrating your failures. Not only will this shake you out of your journey-fatigue, it’s going to give you a rather gangster new perspective that can revitalize your resolve and make you resilient AF. Don’t believe me? Just listen.

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, badassery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 181. Smart women celebrate failure. Hey loves. I am super excited to be here again with you this week. And you know what? I’m going to keep this episode really, really short because what’s more important than the length of this podcast is really the idea that I’m going to be presenting you with today.

And look, it is going to be something that for some of you, you’re just not going to be able to swallow. And that’s okay. That’s okay. You don’t have to swallow it right now. But it is something that you are going to want to revisit if you are serious about this dream and you are serious about doing whatever the hell it takes to get to this baby that you know in your heart is meant for you.

Because here’s the deal. Any path to success is going to be absolutely littered with a junkyard of failure. You know, I’m not sure if it’s social media or, or what, but you know, everybody falls for this bullshit of the overnight success. There’s just no such thing. And when you really look back at anything that really mattered in your life, it took time.

It took some ingenuity and it really took a commitment to your vision. You know, and this is true, whether it was your education, it was your professional training, finding the right partner, really working your way through your career. We really can’t afford to be brittle and thin skinned when we’re truly committed to success.

So that applies even on this journey. Right. It’s really interesting. You know, sometimes, you know, I, I’m, well, not sometimes I, I have the good fortune of, of working with really ambitious women that are making a difference in the world professionals that are out there really making an impact. And it’s interesting to me because.

I know that this journey is not linear, but so many of us are like, so ready to put in the work for our career. We’re so ready to go through school. We do whatever it takes. We study till our eyes are bleeding, you know, right till our fingers are broken. You know, we, we just, we put in all this work. But on this journey, somehow we really start to forget this idea that, look, failure and things working out like perfectly all the time, it’s just not part of the deal, you know, in our professional pursuits, in our educational pursuits, it’s a little more linear, right?

It’s a little bit more foreseeable, but we are so used to doing the work, right? So you have it in you right now to shift your perspective, because one, something that I see all the time is like women getting beaten down after, you know, trying three, four, five times and it’s like, look, how many times did you fail on the way to your success in your career?

Right? Things did not always work out. And yes, this is your baby. I totally fucking get it. The stakes are different. But the analogy still applies. The stick with it ness still applies. And I’m pointing this out to you because, you know, sometimes in these moments of despair, we get like, oh, I don’t know how much more of this I can take, you know, I don’t know.

But it’s like, wait a second. You are a hard fucking worker. You are not just some, you know, scaredy cat that runs off at the smallest challenge, right? Think about where you’ve gotten yourself in your career. Yes, it is a different set of muscles. It is a wildly different skill set mentally to be successful in your career than it is on your journey.

You know, it’s something we have to learn. And which is why I teach women all over the world how to do it, you know, but you have it in you, you have the foundation, you have the raw ingredients. And so when you start working on your mindset for this journey in particular, you know, one of the first things that you can, you can possibly do to really do yourself a solid is start to celebrate your failure.

Why? Not only is it super smart and uber punk rock, but it’s really you giving the finger to fear. It’s you giving the finger to somebody else’s estimation about what is possible for you. It’s you giving the finger to the fricking statistics. You know, because a lot of times, like people just write us off or they just, you know, they don’t take us seriously until they see us in the rain coming back for more, not backing down, you know, and, and that’s actually a really important aspect of success is how you show up, how you respond to failure.

Because when you really start to change your mindset and rewire for success. You start to look at failure differently. You really do start seeing it as getting closer to the success, right? Nobody fails all the fucking time. If you keep swinging the bat, eventually you’re going to hit the ball, you’re gonna hit it out of the park.

And it’s truly about stamina. And the number one thing that will rob you of stamina Is getting so far down about your failure that you’re just not even going to want to try anymore. So a smart cookie is going to start celebrating her failures because she knows she’s getting that much closer to her success.

Now, not only is this about resilience, think about it. Who is wiser? Someone who failed 25 times? Or someone who just failed once. Think about that. And I know you’re like, Roseanne, fuck being wise, I just want my baby. And it’s like, wait a second, wait a second, wait a second. All right? Part of your role in being this child’s mother is to be their protector, to be the heart of the family, to show them the way.

Like, you don’t want to be showing your baby some shabby ass shit that you’ve never actually tested. You know, you’re thin skinned, you know, you’re gonna, you’re gonna. By your own actions, show them how to back down. No, you want to, this is your miracle baby. This is your baby that you’ve been pining for that, you know, is going to be amazing and you know, is going to be so special.

You don’t want to show them what it’s like to be weak. You want to show them. Mama is a mama bear and mama is strong as fuck and she’s gonna take care of her baby She’s gonna show her babies that just like mama you too my my sweetheart You can go out there and make your dreams come true Okay, and you know what the crazy thing is is when you’ve actually been in the ring You’re willing to fail you you revel in your failure like fuck Yeah, give me another because you know what I’m in it to win it When you’re willing to do that, you are going to be able to demonstrate to your child what it means to truly be a winner.

You’re not going to be showing them consolation prize, participation prize, bullshit. You know, you’re going to raise somebody who’s going to go out there, make a difference in the world and make their life count. Okay. So you’ve got to ask yourself, Hey, how am I approaching failure right now? What’s the truth about that?

And then turn it all around, mama. By starting to celebrate your failure, what do you love? About your failure, truly, because when you’re able to do that, I promise you, if your brain is on, if your brain is switched on and you’re serious about changing your mindset, you know you gotta change something, you’re gonna take a look at what I have to say here.

If you go and you make a list of your top 20 most embarrassing, ridiculous, heartbreaking failures. Go write them down and ask yourself, what does this tell me about me? Right? Think about that. Write down 20 or 25 because here’s the deal. When you look at those, you are going to start discovering something about you.

You’re gonna be like, wow, I am pretty resourceful after all. Wow, you’re like, I’ve totally shit the bed on X, Y, Z, and you know what? I got back up again. Wow. Okay, you know what? I might actually be rather gangster. Right? And this is going to revitalize your resolve, it’s going to make you resilient as fuck.

So, do yourself a favor right now. Do what I’ve suggested here, you know, and, and if you’re not ready to do it, totally cool. But you know what? If you’re serious about giving yourself the best possible chances to succeed, you really want to get the ball rolling on that, you want to, you want to try to get this baby in before the end of the year just because it’s fun, dude, go do this exercise.

Make a list of 20 to 25 of your most horrific failures. And then ask yourself, what do I love about this failure? What can I celebrate about this failure? What does it tell me? Who did I have to become to overcome this failure? Okay. Like, I mean, dude, there is so much warrior in you that you don’t even know it.

Okay. So. I’m going to love you enough to encourage you and to tell you just straight up smart women celebrate failure. Not only because it’s signaling to you that you’re getting closer to your success, but it’s going to show you a hell of a different history than your self sabotage pattern will want you to see because your self sabotage pattern, your saboteurs are going to tell you, look, you failed X number of times.

You’re worthless. Uh, uh, uh, uh, that’s fake news. When you really look at this and you think critically and you go down that list and say, what does this tell me about me? From an intelligent, not self pitying perspective, if you’re really look at this, what are the characteristics that you notice about yourself to get on the other side of that fucking failure?

It just may impress your ass. And it may put some, some wind under your wings. To get back in the saddle, to really look from here on out completely differently at failure. Instead of seeing it as final, you will see it as a motherfucking celebration. Cause you’re that much closer to this baby. Can’t say mama doesn’t love you.

And, if just listening to this is getting you fired up and you’re like, You know what? I want to see what all these women are talking about. I want to get some of that goodness. That all these amazing women are sharing with me on this podcast, YouTube videos, and I see all this good shit on Instagram, all the p sticks.

51 women! Loves, at the time of this recording, we’ve got 51 Miracle Mamas this year. And you know what? If you want to learn what I have taught each and every one of them, my Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. Look, mama, if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit, set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

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