EP186 Is the Past Blocking Your Baby? You Get A Do-Over: Ms Dreamy’s Story

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We all have things in our past that we aren’t particularly proud of or wish we could have done differently.  But, can that create block to our baby NOW? In this episode, Guivini (aka Ms. Dreamy) will share how heartbreak from the past almost kept her from having the experience of motherhood that she truly […]

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I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 186. Is the past blocking your baby? You get a do over, Ms. Dreamy’s story. Hey loves, I’m so excited to be here with you this week sharing yet another story of amazing triumph from one of my miracle mamas.

And I really hope that you are taking all of this goodness in. We are knee deep in a series of really extraordinary amazing uplifting, inspiring stories from women who beat the fricking odds. And we share these stories with you. And these women are so kind and generous to share them because we learn best from story.

And when we can connect with people and we can see ourselves like, wow, If it happened for her, it can happen for me. There’s things in my life that could be up leveled. There are ways of thinking that I could take on. And when we allow ourselves to model this new way of being and take bits and pieces of inspiration from other people’s stories, It makes what we want in this life so much more accessible.

And look, it’s not hard to find stories of misery and, and despair and negativity. All you have to do is jump on the average fertility message board and there’s a fucking abundance of all of that. What we have here is something truly unique. An opportunity to see real women making real change in their lives.

Regardless of the number of years of education, how high they’ve risen in the ranks of their profession, or how many letters come after their names. These are real women with real stories of triumph, and it is our sincere hope. I know it’s mine, and I certainly know it’s theirs. That you’re taking the inspiration and love with which this is all given.

Now, Ms. Dreamy’s story is one that I just, man, I am so honored and thrilled to be sharing because, well, and Ms. Dreamy is her nickname because she, she dreams big, but Guavini came to me at a time when she really was at a crossroads, and she was in a place where her personal history was one of some heartbreak and struggle, and she found herself in a place where she really was getting a do over in her life.

And that included finding love again and having another chance to have the family that she truly wanted to have. And, you know, I love that she’s going to be sharing her story because so many of us run around with this made up notion that we only get one chance in this life. That if we don’t get everything perfect, then we fucked it all up.

And what Ms. Dreamy’s story stands for is the proposition that we all get a do over. And chances are there are some of you listening to this. That are beating yourself up for past choices. Maybe being in relationships that weren’t awesome. Maybe some personal choices that you made in the past that are still haunting you.

Ms. Dreamy and her story, really, I hope, is going to be the, the fire under your ass to get over that nonsense. Let it go. You are lovable. You are worthy of having what you want. And we all deserve a fucking do over. Okay? The idea that any one of us is going to make it through our lives perfect and never making a mistake, I don’t know who’s perpetuating that nonsense.

I come from the position that if somebody’s telling you that you have to be perfect in order to get somewhere, it’s probably because they’re trying to fool you. And they’re trying to keep you under their thumb. As a proponent of personal freedom and absolute believer that a woman, if she has something on her heart, she’s going to fucking figure it out.

I hope that you’re going to take everything that Ms. Dreamy is sharing here and run with it. So you too can create your own do over. So here is my interview with the amazing big hearted, kind, generous, and incredibly dreamy. Ms. Dreamy, this is a moment that I think both of us have been looking forward to for some time now.

So why don’t you start off by just sharing a little bit about how you found yourself on this journey? We’ll start there. Like I started listening to your podcast back in, I want to say 2019. So it was, I know every Tuesday you’ll dropped a new episode on the podcast. So on my walks, I will listen to it and stuff like that.

But, you know, do you listen to it? You get the hype, but you’re not like ready yet to make the job.

And for some reason, I just like kept gravitating to where it’s like listening every Tuesday. Without thinking, okay, I’m actually going to do it. We have one day. And obviously as I’m sure everybody that listens to your podcast goes like, oh, there’s no way I’m going to pay a fertility coach. I can do these on like a, my own project type of thing.

And then I think back in, there was one time where I did inquire about it. And then I’m just like, well, I’m not really ready or whatever. And then just kind of kept on coming back and circling back until one day I saw your book. And I saw your book and the reason why I’m not getting pregnant, started reading it.

And then I was like, okay. I definitely need to do it. Like, this is the time where we’re gonna do it. And as I got more and more into the journey of like, yes, like, is motherhood my calling? Am I ready to be a mom? And all those questions kept coming. You know, and I started the IVF process. That’s when I had a, like a rude awakening that I wasn’t ready.

But I wasn’t ready, completely ready. If I wanted to do this, I was going to need all the help that I could get. And that’s basically how I ended up sending you an email, got an email back saying, well, you know, you have requested the service before and you didn’t, you kind of didn’t make a move. Are you sure you’re ready this time?

And I was like, Oh, self accountability right there. We start from the get go Ms. Dreamy. We do not play games. I was like, Oh, okay. I see, I see you calling me on my, calling me on my stuff. And, um, so I, you know, I let it sit for a little while. And then I said, okay, all right. Yeah, I think I’m ready. And obviously I talked to my husband.

And I told him, listen, I am scared, you know, there’s a lot of things I need to face that I don’t think I’m ready to face without a professional help, pretty much. And if we’re going to really going to do this, I’m going to need everybody on my team that I can get, including you, acupuncture, chiropractor, you know, what’s it called, a, um, nutritionist.

I mean, Vitamins supplements. I mean, anything that I’m going to need a whole army behind this project, because it’s not going to be easy and you can’t count on your husband being the only source of your health, it’s impossible to make it happen with them themselves are going through some stuff too, and they don’t know how to support us in certain things.

So they, yeah, so it’s impossible to make this. project come through without additional help. So, and the truth, to face the truth, that you need help. Yeah. Well, and it’s, it’s interesting because I’m curious about how, like, because when you started IVF, had you been trying naturally for a little bit? Yes. So I had the surgery for, I had a tubal ligation when I was 26.

So I was thinking I was done being a mom. So that’s how Miss Dreamy came about. My nickname came about because of a, I would say a nightmare of motherhood experiences. that I went through and that kind of put me on a lane where like, this is never going to be for me. I mean, motherhood is not for me. It wasn’t meant for me.

And I kind of just steer away. But when I met my husband, which is Mr. Dreamy, I had a, something gave me like that, allow me to dream of the possibility of being a mom

and actually be the mom that I was born to be, not the one that I That I thought I’d fail on so I allow myself to go to certain consultations like fertility consultations and stuff like that and then tell you, you know, your MA, what is, what is it? MNH numbers and stuff like that are low, kind of give you all this, you know, statistics and all those horrible news.

So I said, you know, I’m going to try it. I’m going to try to do the tubular reversal. So I did the tubular reversal and it didn’t really take. So everything works, but it didn’t take Like, we thought it was going to, it was going to work. So I did the stem cell process, where they inject stem cells into your ureters, your cervix, your ovaries to kind of make them like a rejuvenation of your ovaries, pretty much, which is a very intense procedure, but it’s worth it because that’s one of the reasons I thought it failed, but it didn’t.

It’s one of the reasons why our IVF was successful in certain ways, because it kind of gave him new cells, rejuvenated my cervix and things where they were going to implant the baby. So it did help at some point, not how I wanted it, but it did help. I love what you’re sharing because it’s, we all deserve second chances in our lives.

Right? Like sometimes when we think one door is closed, another one is opening and it requires a level of self love and humility to allow that. I mean, that’s one of the most remarkable things to me about your story, Miss Dreamy, is that you loved yourself and you loved the dream. Enough to do what it takes.

I mean, that’s mad respect to you. Like, I mean, I, I love and respect you already, but even just kind of revisiting that story, you know, we’re so hard on ourselves and we are so, you know, the way that we move through our lives can be so destructive that we only have one chance. And if things didn’t turn out the way that we wanted them the first time that we missed it.

Right. And that’s just made up. I, you know, it took me 13 years of therapy because I did have to go to therapy. So it took me 13 years, but I was then completely done. I still kept on self sabotaging. I could, I still kept on, you know, that guilt trip in the guilt. And, and it’s just like, you kept on getting yourself far and far away from what you actually your whole being is calling you to be, and it’s very hard to fight it.

It’s very hard to fight it. But, when it came more, it came more alive when I was going through this journey. That one of the reasons why I was being so careful, quote unquote, or being wise, which meant I was being fearful. Like I wasn’t being wise, I was being fearful. Because of, you know, because of. The past history, and I was just very frightened, like frightened with the process of becoming a mother.

So I had to come clean to my husband and said, listen, like, there’s still a lot of things I would love to give you that child that you so much want, and I want to, but there’s a lot of past issues that I still need to work on, and I don’t want to bring this baby. Basically my dream baby into a very broken heart.

Oh, wow. Yeah, it’s a very dysfunctional broken heart. You can’t bring something new and put like, the Bible says, you can’t bring new wine into old wine skin. Like it’s impossible. It cannot be done. Wow. Wow. So, everything that I, I invested in my body when it comes to homeopathic supplements, diet, you know, everything that we put ourselves through is going to be useless because still in your heart and in your mind.

You still replaying all your failures regardless. And it’s just not gonna, it’s just not going to work out. So you have to, at some point you have to face the music and say, I need help. And that was it. And I had to come, I had to say, and during my sessions, I had to say, I feel guilty. Because I’m having another child and I don’t know if my other two kids are ever going to come back and look for me and look for their, their birth mother and they’re going to say, well, she made her own life and have her own kid and never thought of me or just guilt.

And when it came to it, it was just, it wasn’t working for me and it wasn’t working for this baby that’s coming baby. Right. And, um, So I had to face that. The second challenge I had to face was, do I want to get the help of somebody else when we got donated eggs? Because it wasn’t working. They already told us, well, the, you know, the, what’s called the IAF, IAF fertility doctor mentioned them.

It will be best if you guys decide to go with somebody else’s ex. So that was a shock. And I, I think in one of the sessions, you mentioned, well, what’s the end? Like becoming a mom. And accepting the gift of somebody else, that another woman that is able to give this ex to you or becoming or way to this journey more and more, like, what is your first priority?

And regardless, you’re still going to be their mom. You’re still going to be the mom. So I had a, I was another one we have, I wasn’t ready for it. Because here you are, you’re thinking I’m gonna have this baby, we’re gonna get pregnant, you know, I’m gonna see those two lines on that stick, and everything.

But it changes everything. It makes you feel like you’re failing your own because you’re accepting somebody else’s gift. Because you have to go and purchase eggs to become this mom. And I had a, I just, you know, I couldn’t face. And in 2022. Without knowing if, if I was going to be a mom or not. And I, at that point, I didn’t care who gifted, what banks did I have to go through?

What country did I have to fly to? Because the end of, at the end of time, you’ll do it as a mom. You’ll, if your child needs you. You fly out of the country, you take money from your 401k, you come out with the resources because that kid needs you. And for me, that was it. Who cares about my pride? Who cares about the way people will pretend if it’s my kid or not?

It’s my kid. I’m carrying my child. This is my blood. He’s carrying my own cells. And at the end, my child was calling me

and I just kind of let go. Like you said, let go and jump. If it doesn’t work, then it wasn’t that way. Your baby’s supposed to arrive, then your baby will arrive in another way. And I think I was so apprehensive to the idea of like, it needs to be my own ex. It needs to be my own DNA, it needs to be this.

And you mentioned in one of the sessions. It doesn’t. Babies come in different ways. They decide to show up the way they decide to show up, not the way you think they should show up. And I didn’t want to slow my process anymore. I just didn’t want to slow my process. I didn’t want to slow my process five years and not dying having to find out that I still had needed, donated eggs.

So, I didn’t want to. Even though there’s mothers that are 50 and, and they’re look awesome.

You have your own story. You want to do it your way. And yeah, and I just didn’t want to wait. I just, I feel like I self sabotaged myself 16 years already. What was I waiting for? Right. Yeah. I think one of the things that is so compelling about your story is willing to make peace with the past. And then putting yourself in a position where you say, Look, there’s still this broken heart of mine.

I need to take care of this. I mean, what you were saying was so wise. It didn’t matter about the treatments, the diets, all of the lotions and the potions. If you were okay in here, you have the wisdom to understand that that needed to be addressed. That’s massive. And then you take it the next level. I remember, I remember when you were in the program, that you were kind of open either way, but something was happening inside of you.

You cut your hair, like, I mean, all of this stuff was happening for you. And it was an unfolding. It was almost like an awakening for you to make peace with all of these things. So that you could be open to receiving this baby. I mean, it doesn’t surprise me that your baby was like, boom, like the minute you, you healed your heart.

Cause you were so brave in the program. Like you were always there. You were always asking questions. You were always doing the work. It was very obvious to me that you were so committed. And I think that was, not only was it. fascinating to watch the change in you. I remember you’re like, you’re going to hear from me.

You’re going to see my piece stick and you’re, you know, I’m coming for this, you know, I’m going to be on the podcast. Like, I remember you saying exactly those things. And then you sent me a message and then you showed me your beast. I mean, like, it’s just incredible. So tell us a little bit about what it was like to really take care of yourself in this way, because it’s massive, Ms.

Dreamy, because you, you know, all those years ago, when you had that other experience, you weren’t taking care of yourself. And who you became now is just this. is this light? So what is it like to, to really take care of yourself in this way? What made it different? I think I was more willing to accept the help and to know that from my past, the lessons that I learned from my past, Where that if you’re not okay, it’s okay to say you’re not okay, but get the help, you know, you can’t have your pity party for five minutes, have that beauty party, call that girlfriend, eat that ice cream, but or have that cocktail, whatever.

But the very next day you have to come up with a plan of how you’re going to get yourself out of this. And I think that was part of my lessons learned from the past and that nothing seems the present does not dictate your future. It just doesn’t because I went back to college to finish my undergrad at 35 who goes back to college at 35.

You? I did. Of course I did. Then I went for my master’s. Then I did an internship, like international internship, I did an internship in Germany, I did an internship in Argentina, you know, I traveled by myself. So I did all these things and they were past experiences. So but when it came to motherhood, I just was hitting a wall.

I had to believe, first of all, I had to believe that I could be a wife and get remarried and find an actual good partner. So that was my first challenge, because every time I, every time I When on a date, I was like, do I actually see this person as a parent or do I don’t see it as a parent? Just in case I have a baby.

But I had never until obviously I met my husband and he gave me that. So when I talked to him and I told him about motherhood and my experience and I had to tell him about my past and everything. The first thing he said. I thought, I thought at that moment he was going to break up with me and I was going to get single again and be on that dating horrible pool, right?

He said. You know, you just didn’t have the resources and the support that you needed. And so I was like, Oh, he is dreamy. And he said, and I know that you will be a wonderful mother. I could not choose another mom better than you for my kid because of your past experiences and how you overcome those challenges.

So I was like, Oh. Man, when he said that, that was a saving moment grace for me because he healed part of the wound. So like how wounds heal. I think it’s just one layer after another layer after another layer. I am not a doctor. Don’t call me on this, but there’s little things that happens through your life that make you heal the wounds.

And that was one. And then, you know, step two, let’s get married. Step three, let’s buy a house before the baby comes. You know, and then step four, oh man, I thought I was ready, but I’m not, and it’s okay. Now, what do I need? I need help. I need help on this end. I need help in getting the fertility coach. I need help on getting all my army behind me so I can make this dream come true.

Man, that’s when I think I mentioned I was like, I want my MIT baby. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha! I want my MIT baby. Yeah, yeah. I think you could put on like a NASA shirt. Like, I think you could put, like, your NASA baby, or something like that, too. Yeah, I know. What am I not? See, his actual, like his mural is all about NASA.

His mural and his nursery. For baby Evan, it’s all about NASA. And that’s right. You’re having a boy, having a boy. Yeah. So I was like my baby, everything. And it’s just like facing also, like, I think one of the challenges to, to get through this journey was facing the interviews with your act owners. I know a lot of moms are, are going to listen to this podcast or are going to listen to this.

It is the most challenging way because your, your mind tricks you, your mind tricks you, but regardless you, you do the self talk, you do the self calming, you do the everything to go ahead and do. And it’s just, it’s very hard as a woman to accept another woman’s help. But if that’s the way you’re going to become a mom, and your baby’s going to show up that way.

Then he’s going to show up that way. Wow. He or she is going to show up that way. But don’t, I think I would be advised that don’t step back just because, you know, we have such a stigma about donating eggs. And we want everything, no I want it natural, I want my own egg. And sometimes, you’re just swimming against the waters.

When your baby’s right there just waiting for you, just, you just need to cross that bridge. And for me, it was the interviews were brutal, the accepting of somebody else’s help. Now, here I am accepting help from you, from the IVF, accepting all these things. I’m going through this hormonal because I had to align myself to receive that gift, not only physically, mentally, and emotionally.

But, you know, you have to align yourself to receive that gift. And then you have to align yourself to receive. The goodness of that gift. And then when we actually did hearing the stories of people like, Oh my God, we got 13 eggs. We got this one cohort, two cohort. Then we did the insemination or no, they put the eggs together and then they fail, right?

And you don’t have no eggs, no embryos, no, nothing. You were left with nothing. And just hearing those stories, I was like, Oh my God, we only have one chance. Um, and then obviously we only got six eggs out of those six eggs. We only were left with I think through the process we’re left with four, then we were left with three, and then we were just left with one.

That was it. One. My husband and I were like, okay, so we send, we, it’s, it’s a frozen. So we had to freeze the egg because we had to test it. We had to freeze the embryo because we had to test it. So we tested the embryo and he was, he was fine. He was a solid 4AA grade, which grades doesn’t matter. Whatever, it’s going to stick regardless.

It’s going to stick. But for us, we were like, oh man, we have a prying egg here and a primed embryo. Okay. So we had seven attempted circles to have this idea. And for whatever reason. It was either the hormone that wasn’t there, that lining that wasn’t perfect, day of the transfer, something went wrong, the thyroid went crazy.

It was just, you know, I had to prepare again, then I had to come in circle again. And that physical mental strength that it comes with it, man, I, we women go through so much. I’m not going to stop here because it’s not, yeah, it’s not just graduating from, yeah. from your program is the actual application of your program that makes you, that makes you know whether you’re actually did learn the lesson or you, or you didn’t.

You sat through egg donor interviews. You passed. Okay. Like you, you made it through, you learned. I mean. So yeah, so I had to change my mind through the accepting of the egg of actually going and getting eggs. Two, looking for banks, three, sitting in interviews with the donors, possible donors, being wise enough to see who is the one, you know, who talks to my heart, who talks to my heart and my gut, and who do I really feel is the one, right?

And then the calling on the umbrella, just every, I can’t remember how was it. I think it’s every third day or something. Oh, we got one embryo. We got two embryos. We got three. Oh, one died. The other one didn’t make it. Then the other two, you know, and you’re like, and constant stress, you see that phone number come out and you’re like, no, what’s that going to tell me?

And in the back of your mind, you’re thinking all my exes are, all my chances are going to be gone. Like, you know, just start thinking all this thoughts. But when they told me one. I was just, okay. Okay. And I remember one of your lessons said, it only takes one.

And then the seven cycles fully falling, you know, something falling through either, you know, something. And then also, you know, the IBF clinics suggesting other type of testing, meaning that I think it was era or era. Which is a mock transfer. And I was like, are you kidding me? I already done five serious cycles.

I lost it. There were times where I would lose that. There’s no, I wasn’t like, oh my God. What did Roseanne will do in this moment? No, no, no. I would lose it too. We’re all human. In hormone therapy, progesterone, estrogen, Kyber, uh, Kyberhide. They were not in my life. Because you have to have a certain diet, obviously, that sugar weren’t in my life.

So imagine, like, you are going to lose your head. You’re gonna lose your head. You’re gonna lose your shed. Yeah. Like, look at all of this, though. Like, you know, everybody thinks that You know, donor eggs are the quick fix, right? Like clearly you’re demonstrating that it is still a journey in and of itself because what you’re describing here is coming to a place of peace that you were willing to accept the gift.

And then once you’re in it, having to decide who, you know, who spoke to your heart, who spoke to your gut. And so even when you have that gift, there’s no guarantee because no went through seven attempts with all kinds of crazy things happening and you were left with one donor embryo. But you had to have the inner ability to say, okay, it only takes one.

Like it only takes one, like you could have gone off the, you know, the deep end completely, but you had within you the resources and the resilience to be able to say, I’m going with this. And so when they did the mock transfer, uh, one of the things that were mentioned saying, Well, you know, everything was perfect and it looks like, you know, everything is smooth, everything is going to go well, measurements are going to go well, this baby is going to go straight.

And, you know, we’re kind of like, they did like a marking kind of thing. And, and that’s when I said, sometimes you don’t know what you did in the past that is going to come and help you. And I think one of the part was that stem cells. that helped me to maintain that, you know, to, to have that new cervix look like and the part where they implant the baby.

I can’t remember. I’m sorry. I’m no, no, you got pregnancy brain. No, it’s a part where they were going to put the baby and how my ovaries didn’t My ovaries reacted pretty well to all the hormone suppressants and hormones and stuff like that because I had done some previous work that in that I thought it wasn’t, didn’t work.

But when it came to, when it came to the IVF, the actual transfer, it helped. I love that you’re sharing that because what you’re showing, you know, because we tend to get really binary in things. Oh, it worked or it failed. But it’s like every little thing that you do along the way is pushing you closer and closer to what it is that you want.

You know, it’s like stop saying things are a waste. Stop saying things didn’t work because you don’t know that. No, you don’t. Because something could have, you know, you can set something new in motion that you just can’t see. Exactly. Wow. And I didn’t saw that at that moment. And obviously I had to do that when I did the stem cell research, there’s it’s not really to recommend it now in the United States, but in Israel, Japan and other countries are very acceptable and They, you know, it works a lot of the times.

And so that was another thing where I say, I didn’t care what country I’m going.

I’m bringing my baby home because we cannot limit ourselves to a certain square. Like we can’t limit ourselves in order to bring our baby, our dream baby to it. We can’t just limit ourselves to one country. The world is so vast and it, and there’s so many help out there that is just why you’re willing to pay for and how much are you willing to go by how many miles are you willing to travel by how many things are you willing to do.

And you can go to Chinatown and your local. Yeah, like I did or actually go to japan and do this, you know, or go to Israel where is the innovative meds and they, you know, whatever is that you need to do, it’s that resources there. It’s the part where you allow yourself to do it or not. So I, so true. And I went for the stem cells and the tubal ligation, I went to Mexico, I met the surgeon the day of.

Which I don’t recommend, but it was good. The reason why is because I had other friends that had used and recommend this and I had seen the fruits. I have seen success. I have seen their babies and I have seen them pregnant. So that’s why I risked myself under COVID. And flew to Mexico, Guadalajara, which I’m Mexican.

I’ve never been to Mexico, Guadalajara. Never been to the hospital, never been to the surgeon. All I know in the search of my baby. That’s all I know. In the search of my baby. I am so blown away by you and your resolve. Because, you know, a lot of people tap out. They just tap out. They’re like, oh, you know, the road is getting rough.

But it’s like when you have that fire in you and you’re like, No, I want this baby. I’m not leaving without my baby. You’ll travel the globe to make it happen. Something that you said, I hope every single woman listening to this. will remember what you said and the way that you said it. We are the only ones that limit ourselves were the only ones that put us in that box and you miss dreamy, like everything that you’ve been through in your life was setting you up for this moment, a moment of decision to say, am I going to be the woman that finds out I’m like a woman that loves herself and loves her dream enough to let go of her ego, to open her heart, to ask, what do you know?

To stop caring about what other people think and care more about what she knows to be true. Mm-Hmm. . For soul to forgive. To be . Yes. To, you know, to forgive yourself. To forgive other people. To be open to receiving the love. From Mr. Dreamy. I mean, he, he goes down in history. I think, I think he’s going down in history as truly Mr.

Dreamy to love and support you for who you are, all of who you are, and you were so like, I love what you said that that was one part of healing the wound and that on these layers. I mean, I don’t know if that’s how, how wounds heal, but my guess is that’s probably pretty damn close. So, but the analogy is, I think, so applicable and it’s so real.

So, here you are today. How many weeks pregnant are you? 32. 32! You’re within spitting distance of seeing baby Evan. Okay. Yeah, 32. So, what would you want the women listening, if you were going to give women some nuggets of wisdom, you’ve given us a lot, but if you were going to give us Some additional pieces of wisdom from your life story from your journey.

What would you want people to know? One is call yourself a mom. Call yourself a mom because Just picture your baby. Like, like I said, if my baby was here next to me and I’m not saying if you ever like if he needed something, your kid needs something, you’re going to get on that mama bear energy and you’re going to go get it.

You don’t care what doctor, where you bring them from, who. cares if you have to meet somebody on the alley, who cares, you know, you go get what your child needs, you Facebook group, you know, whatever is you put yourself in this, in this superhero cave kind of thing, and you get it. So why not put that mentality inside of you saying, Hey, my kid meets me.

My kid is here already. Your, your kid is somewhere. You just need to jump the hoops and, and do it and just go for it because you’ll do it when physically your child is here. But just because your kid is not there physically, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Spiritually, spiritually. So that’s why I was like, Oh, if I need to leave myself, my ego away, you’ll leave your ego away.

If I need to, if I need to travel a couple miles, you’ll travel a couple miles. Because at the end is like what you mentioned, it’s like, is it more important to have that title becoming a mom, like have that title in your life of mom of, you know, whatever your child name is or the way you think your baby should arise at some point, you’re going to have to cross that bridge.

And I hope that you choose my hope and prayer. Why I did this podcast is that I hope you choose right. I hope that you choose your baby. over all the obstacles. That’s it. That’s incredible. And that’s, I mean, and you’re speaking from experience and you’re speaking from the kind of wisdom that only comes from actually doing the work, you know, cause it’s really easy for people to say, Oh, you know, just, you know, blah, blah, blah, but you’re, you were in the trenches.

Ms. Dreamy, you did the work. You didn’t hide behind, oh, that’s too much, or I’m too old, or I’m too fucked up. Like, you crushed all those things. And you, you gave yourself the second chance at the, at a family that is, you know, it’s so amazing to see this, like, I just, I just couldn’t be happier for you and Mr.

Dreamy. And so thank you so much for what you share and blessings to you and this beautiful family and your proof that miracles. happen. And you know, you’re, I think you’re also going to be inspiring some women to maybe rethink, you know, holding back, where are they holding back? And what are the things that they’re not allowing themselves to have?

And how are they making themselves wrong? Because we do that really well on this journey. We tend to make ourselves wrong for what we want. So for being here with me, Miss Dreamy. I love you. I’m so happy for this. for you and the family. So keep me posted love. Yeah, I’ll send you pictures of the baby when he’s born.

Thank you so much. All right. Have a wonderful day. Love’s wasn’t Ms. Dreamy’s story just absolutely inspiring. I hope that if there was any doubt in your mind about the power of second chances and giving yourself grace, And having compassion for younger versions of yourself that maybe made choices that you wouldn’t necessarily make today or that were haunting you for so long.

I hope that she and her joy today and her baby Evan that is being born any time now as of this publication, that you can see that when you give yourself grace, You open your heart and allow yourself to receive, regardless of what’s happened in the past, something truly magical can happen. And we are just so proud of Ms.

Dreamy and what she’s been able to create in her life. So, it’s my sincere hope that you will take all that goodness and find a way to let it lead you in your own life. And if you want to learn what I taught Ms. Dreamy, my Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes!

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