EP192 Baby-Making Breakthrough: New Behaviors

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Now that I had “the moment” and made 2 critical decisions, the last piece in this trifecta of Fearless fertility, was behavior. I’m going to share the new behaviors that I engaged in to press the fast forward button on opening myself up to receive my precious Boo, Asher just 12 months later.

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey. Just like I did get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, badassery, and loads of hell. Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 192, Baby Making Breakthrough, New Behaviors. Hey loves, whoo wee! Welcome to Part 3 in the Baby Making Breakthrough Series. If you’ve made it this far into this series, that’s a good thing.

I’ve held nothing back and we are going to go even farther in this episode because new behaviors are truly where the rubber meets the road. What’s interesting is they sound so simple, but they aren’t. Without the awareness I’ve described in part one and the two decisions I’ve shared in part two, what I’m sharing with you here Can’t happen.

It can’t, and it won’t. This is why I’ve designed this series in the way that I have. This is also why you just up and reading a few books, blog posts, meditating, and coming up with some super cool affirmations will never work on their own. You can’t will yourself past the way you feel. I hear women tell me all the time that they have the coolest affirmations ever.

But if you don’t actually feel those things or have the structure of a strong mindset underneath all of that, the first gust of wind that blows by your affirmations, that shit’s going to fall apart. This is why I teach what I teach and why I coach what I coach. If you don’t put distance between you and your stories as well as shore up the foundation of your thought, you will succumb to your saboteurs every single time.

Look, every time I look at my boy, I know how blessed I am, and I also know that if it was possible for me, it’s possible for you. I’m one of the most stubborn women you will ever meet. If I can change, so can you, but you have to do the work. There are no shortcuts other than learning from other women that have done it themselves and have proven they can effectively teach others to do the same.

Trying to figure this out on your own. With the mindset that created the problem in the first place is a long, hard road loves, which is why you’ve got to be smarter than that. As you heard me say in episode one of this series, once I realized that it was time to make an even bolder change, I was pregnant naturally with Asher within 12 months, October to October.

At that point, I was six years deep in my journey and the decisions I made in an instant. Brought him to me the following October. It was crazy. Six years of heartbreak resolved in 12 months. It was as if I had bent time and space, actually. But that’s what happens when you break out of the matrix of your own thinking.

First comes awareness, then comes a decision, and then comes what we’re going to be talking about today. New behaviors. This is why, my loves, we are opening the doors to fearlessly fertile, full throttle very soon. I will be walking women through the exact process daily that catapulted me into the most successful year of my fertility journey.

Which ultimately led to levels of success that, no joke, I thought were just for other people. It’s the foundation, structure, and consistency that took down the blocks between Asher and I for good. I’m so excited about this program because I will be holding your hand each step of the way every day. For 90 days, along with the coaching that is becoming legendary in the fertility world and a world class community of women that fucking get you as you live this journey and take leaps toward motherhood that others just can’t understand.

It’s sisterhood, tribe, and a community of high vibe women that are backing down for shit. From beginning to end, what my team and I have designed has got you covered, so 2023. Can be a landmark year in your life. And it’s all happening at the most critical time of the year. The first 90 days are fucking strategic.

My loves you get those down, right? You get those correct. You get your mindset, you get yourself structured. You have yourself on a trajectory the rest of the year. You spend reaping all of the goodness that you have sown in that first 90 days. It is so important. I mean, I cannot emphasize this enough. I lived it.

I know it. And I have seen what is possible in women’s lives when they make this commitment to themselves and don’t fucking back down. So for the women that raise their hands and say yes to this program, this will be a 90 days that they will look back on and say, yep, that is exactly when everything changed.

No more worrying about whether or not you’re on the right track. No more fear based choices. No more living in shame over what you desire. Your shady fertility past. And I say that with mad respect or being too much in my world. You get to shine bright sister, because that is how your baby is going to find you.

Oh my, I totally want to scream. I’m so fucking excited. Anyway, be on the lookout for that. And we’re going to be doing a four day challenge to go alongside this. That is going to be some of the best and most impactful information I’ve ever shared. So stay tuned, mama. Now, let’s break down the behavior piece of all of this.

In the last episode, I shared that I made two critical decisions. Number one, I made the decision that I was no longer going to tolerate any internal or external conversation that calling my boy in was impossible. I was no longer going to tolerate the idea that me having my son was not going to happen.

Internal or any external conversation. The second decision I made was that I was going to say yes to anything. I mean anything that could propel me forward into who I was becoming. I was becoming the woman that beat the odds. Neither of these decisions would have meant shit without the corresponding behavior, right?

That means that my behavior would have to align with the expectation that my boy was coming. And that I would say yes to anything that was going to propel me forward. No shrinking back because look, think about it. People claim all the time to believe in abundance, yet they want fucking discounts by when there are bargains, tip like shit, penny pinch, and, or make other gross excuses about money.

All of those things just reinforce a belief in lack. This is why fear based and price alone based decisions fucking suck. Smart people look at value, not price. Just as a side note. And people who are committed pay the price. They’re not expecting a free fucking ride. Especially when it matters. And especially when it comes to their dreams.

So, can you see how You know, people can think that they’re in abundance or tell you that they believe in abundance, but it’s their behavior that is going to separate them. It’s the same thing when people say, Oh yeah, no, I believe I can have this baby. But then you look at their behavior. And it is totally out of alignment with that, right there.

It’s where the rubber meets the road is in your actions. People can talk a huge game, but when you look at their calendar. And you look at their bank statement, that’s going to tell you the truth about what they value, how they spend their time and how they vote with their dollars. Okay. It’s just that simple.

Talk is fucking cheap. It’s the new behaviors that we’re going to be talking about that are super telling. And that is what is going to make all the difference in the world. So let me give you some concrete examples. So what exactly did my new behaviors look like? Okay. Number one, you know, back in the day, I had a cute little zippy sports car thing.

Okay. So instead of continuing to drive that shit around, I bought my dream SUV because I made a decision. I was going to fill it. I signed up for every training and seminar I wanted to go to. I was making investments in me and where I was headed. I also hired two of the very best coaches in the fucking world.

Game changers, and I still hire the very best to this day because of where I am going and what I intend to achieve in this life. And as another side note, if your coach isn’t investing at least 10 times what they charge you in their own coaching, you better start asking some questions. You gotta wonder if they believe in their own work.

Just as an insider, sad note. My husband and I, okay, another example of what we were doing is my husband and I started living again, we went out, we were talking about our dreams without shame, we were taking up space, we were actively working on ourselves. We took acting like the people we really wanted to be to the next level.

We put our money where our mouths were, okay? All of our conversations were about possibility, not limitation. We were disciplined. And that doesn’t mean we were perfect, but we made the conscious decision that our focus was on that. Not on limitation. We weren’t talking about how much money we spent. We weren’t talking about, oh, we’ve been on this journey for 4, 000 years and you know, people are going to think we’re crazy if we keep going.

We didn’t give a shit what anyone else thought because we came to the realization that this was our life. Okay. We also planned a blissed out vacation. Like we agreed that we would not say no to anything we wanted. Okay. We had this whole thing planned out, we were just gonna go and have an amazing time, and the whole theme of that trip was yes.

It also meant from a practical standpoint, eliminating people and things from our lives that were not a vibrational match. Now, that’s the way I say it. My husband wouldn’t say it was a vibrational match. But we just stopped hanging around with and allowing people into our lives. That just didn’t match where we were headed and that wasn’t out of anger or judgment, but was for the sake of our own growth.

Another thing that I consciously decided was that for me, it was first class or nothing. First class or nothing, baby, in how I showed up, how I traveled and what I demanded for myself. You know, I’d always had a super high standard as far as work product was concerned. Because I’m just that way, lovably type A control, freaky professional.

For me, first class and showing up first class was being honest about who I was and honest about what I wanted to share in the world and serving my clients at the highest level. If it wasn’t first class, it was nothing. There was no negotiating on that. Okay, now at first glance, this might look like a whole lot of bougie material changes, but what you have to understand about this is it’s not.

The material aspects of this are simply the physical manifestation of something that represented an internal shift in me. The internal shift was the condition precedent. There’s that lawyer shit again. But it’s true. These behaviors were a bold statement about who I was becoming so that the thoughts matched the behavior.

Again, this is why you can say as many fucking mantras as you want, but if you don’t actually feel those things to the degree that you will take different action, Fuck your mantras. Okay. You can, you can go on and on and say 5, 000 times a day. I’m going to be a mom. I’m going to be a mom. But if your behaviors don’t match that, if you don’t feel that, and you aren’t taking action in alignment with that, you’re not out there taking risks and taking leaps in the direction of that.

You don’t really believe that those mantras are as useless as the statistics that mofos try to trap you with. Okay. Until you think and feel different, you won’t do different. Okay. Let me say that again. Let me say that in the back row so the back row can hear it. Until you think and feel different, you won’t do different.

If you aren’t doing different, you can’t get a different result. Is this starting to make sense? Awareness, decision, new behaviors. Now, let’s make this even more practical for you. If you continue to act as if you are a dried up old bitch who missed the bus to Mama Town, how are you ever going to fucking get there?

You won’t see the bus when it rolls up, and you certainly won’t have the courage to jump the fuck on. You won’t do what’s required. If you continue to make yourself wrong for making investments in yourself and you use the lame, lack and scarcity laden measure that Joe shit the rag man uses to decide how much money you should invest in your dream, you won’t take the leaps that might be necessary to get you where you want to go.

Think about it. There are people in your life right now. Who will gladly invest nearly a hundred grand in trucks, SUV, cars, buying stupid shit that will not get them where they actually want to go. And we’ll in the same breath chastise you for investing in your journey as if they know anything. It’s insane.

I see a lot of women use money as an excuse, but they don’t realize that the money stories they were raised with were being told by people who probably never had the guts to fully live out their dream. Okay. This is massive. What are the primary excuses? That people use to not live their dream and I’m sharing this with you because you won’t change your behavior if you’re not aware of these excuses.

Okay. Time, money, other people, top three excuses that people will use to damn themselves to a misery and regret laden life. Don’t fucking do that to yourself. Okay. Anyone truly living their dreams and living an extraordinary life. Isn’t making anyone wrong for living their dream. because they actually fucking get what it means to do so.

Now, if you’re telling yourself that you’ve been trying too long, whatever the fuck that means, you won’t take the next step. Your behavior has to change, Mama. You must do different things. In order to do different things, you have to think differently. Or you’re just going to keep doing what your tired Aunt Mary does, or what other people in your family do, or what your friends do.

When you are actually and truly committed to success, the idea of doing any of that shit should be scary as fuck. Especially if you look at those people as much as you love them, and they are in the same place that they have always Think about that. Look, as of this recording, 67 women this year alone.

And these are just the women we know of. Okay. This happens all the time. Women will come out of the fucking woodwork and tell me a year later that they had their baby. Okay. This is the 67 that we, that we just happened to know about. Have gotten pregnant supported by what I teach and every one of these women did the fucking work to get there Okay to raise their awareness to make these Decisions and to change their behavior.

None of these women got lucky Okay, it is insane disrespect to them to just call them lucky. They made their own luck. And it started with them. And the vast majority of them did it within 12 months of doing this work. Okay, but in the end, whether it was 12 months or 24, do you really think they give a shit as they nurse their babies, look down at their bumps, and continue to dream about their future?

Not a fucking chance. I hope my loves that this series has opened your eyes and your heart to what is possible for you and why this time of year can be so Critical. You got the holidays coming. You got the questions coming. You got seeing people that you haven’t seen in a long time, and maybe you’re stuck in the same place as you were last year.

The decisions that you make now, the things that you’re thinking about now can change where you are at 12 months from now, there are going to be some women who will wake up on January 1st with no fucking strategic plan. They’ll allow themselves to fall back into the same old shitty get nowhere get there slow pattern, then wonder why nothing changes.

I want all of you to be the woman that knows where the fuck she’s headed, and has a foolproof plan, the structure, the consistency, the leadership, and the community to get there. If you want me by your side and you want the magic in your life that’s got the fertility world buzzing, then you got to make sure you are part of Fearlessly Fertile Full Throttle.

You won’t want to miss this. You, me, and incredible women from around the world for 90 days is some baby making magic. We got the receipts, baby. Receipts. Go check out my Instagram. Go check out my highlight reel. You’re going to be seeing the magic that these women have created over the past year. And you want to get some of that?

Join us. It’s some inspirational shit. And here’s the thing, I come from a place of believing that every woman that truly has it on her heart to be a mom is going to find a way. She gotta be willing to do the work. Can’t say mama doesn’t love you. My Fearlessly Fertile Method programs are for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for any of my programs, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Until next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

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