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In this celebration of 200 episodes of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, I will be sharing some hard won wisdom from 8 years of coaching women to fertility success, as well as 3 things you must know about making your dream of being a Mom come true. Don’t miss this. It’s all about YOU, baby!
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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.
I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43. Despite years of fertility treatment failure, I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.
It’s time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fiercely Fertile episode 200. Thank you, baby boy. This is our 200th episode celebration, and it’s all about you ladies. It’s all about you miracle mamas in the making. 200 episodes, can you believe it?
And I was trying to think of how many different ways I could say 200. 200. Ah, there is part of me that almost blew this off as any other day, but you know what? Fuck that. Being able to do 200 of anything, stay consistent as fuck, and make zero excuses is something to be celebrated. It takes grit, commitment, and the ability to conquer your inner bitch to achieve.
For that reason, I am taking the opportunity. To not only model this to you, but help you see how this journey is happening for you, and why your success on it ultimately comes down to you. Ooh, I know some won’t like the idea that your success or ultimate failure on this journey comes down to you, but it’s a truth you can’t outrun.
You can’t, and you won’t. And letting that cancer of victimhood run your life Is only a setup for the bitterest regret, which is why instead of celebrating my accomplishment here, we’re gonna turn it around and make it all about you, baby. Cause look, I got mine. I have my son. I’ve built a life and business of my dreams.
That gives me insane freedom and is an expression of my purpose. So I got mine. This is why I’m sharing it with you. So let’s use that experience and goodness for your benefit. And by the time you hear this episode, we will be careening forward toward the new year. So the timing is perfect. And as of this recording, we have 73 pregnancies.
In my coaching practice, that is not a fluke, it’s a fucking phenomenon, which is why what I’m going to be sharing with you today is so important. And I really hope you pay close attention. The days of blowing off mindset is just some woo woo fluff. They’re just over. They’re over. And with more and more data coming out every single day about the mind body connection and how critically important.
What goes on between your ears is in your own physiology and your own physical health. I sincerely hope that in the new year, you move mindset to the forefront rather than being the last thing that you look at. Because it is the thing that’s driving all of your choices. Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results.
You cannot get past it. It all starts as a thought. So if you want success on this journey, you got to get your mind right. Right. Now, to bring some order to a conversation that can go in about a thousand different directions, I will keep my remarks to three main points, so you can start mulling them over and decide what you will onboard for yourself in the new year.
Wise women will do all of these things, but I strongly encourage that if you are going to go ovaries to the wall in the new year, Check out my programs to help you with that because I teach faster and smarter ways of doing so that put DIY to shame. And by the way, DIY is for patient people. It’s for people not in any particular hurry to achieve their goals.
Look, Venus and Serena don’t do DIY before Wimbledon or Roland Garros. They fucking bring the best of the best coaches to help them because it’s fucking game time. I strongly encourage you to do the same if you have decided that this is your year and that you are leaving no stone unturned. And oh yeah, word to the wise, don’t wait until June to do that.
You will totally fucking regret it. Just saying. So check out my programs, particularly Full Throttle because a bunch of women have been beating down our door about reopening it and they missed the boat the first time. And we will be reopening it for four short days, so get on it, you’ll be getting a notice about it.
Can’t say I didn’t warn ya. So here are the three points I want to make in celebration of you, because as I said, this episode is all about you. So here’s the first point. You are in the most powerful position there is on this journey because your success or failure comes down to you. So step into your power, quit fucking around.
Now, this point that I’m making here about you being in the most powerful position there is on this journey is critical. Because as long as you make the people or experts outside of you. More powerful than you, you’re fucked. Plain and simple. I don’t care how many letters someone has after their name. If you give your power over to them, you are basically letting them decide what you will or will not achieve in this life.
That’s not you leading your journey. That’s you accepting the scraps that people throw your way. That is victimhood. You are in essence allowing people in circumstances outside of you to dictate your fate. Do you see the problem? If you’ve been on this journey long enough, you’ve wised up to the game that you have just as much chance as the experts do, I say that in quotation marks, of being right.
That means your voice matters. And ultimately, the buck stops with Mama! So much has been exposed in recent months about how much we’ve been played by Big Pharma and the Rockefeller funded warped medical system that profits from you being sick and dependent on them. Wake up! You have to be your own advocate.
I’m not saying that the medical system is the enemy. There are wonderful people out there doing wonderful work. You’ve heard a bunch of them on this podcast. What should be abundantly clear from the physicians that I’ve had on my podcast is they are fucking disruptors. They are about empowering their patients.
Not running some kind of medical tyranny. They are about sharing information. So people, human beings can make a fully informed choice. It’s partnership, not poor me. It’s about seeing yourself as an equal with every expert you invite into your journey. That’s what happens when you step into your power instead of worshiping at the altar of set protocols and abdicating your personal responsibility because the experts know best.
You start asking smarter questions, get engaged in your fucking life and find those that share your values so you can call in this baby. Fuck! Just last night I got a text from my now 53 year old miracle mama. She sent me pics. From her pregnancy shoot, and I just wanted to cry like a baby! She’s so fucking beautiful!
Not only is she a stunning woman, it’s her soul! It’s her spirit, her unwillingness to compromise or abandon herself because of her age or past failures. The reason why she’s having a baby at 53 is because she stepped into her power and didn’t let go of it. It’s for women like her that I have done 200 episodes.
When I think of every woman that I’ve had the honor of serving, it’s for them. It’s for them that I do this work even when I’m tired as fuck. It’s for all the women you’ve heard on this podcast since day one. That has beaten the odds because she invested more in herself than her fucking fear. When you change, your results change.
It’s just a law of the universe. Is it always immediate? No. But the kind of change I’m talking about doesn’t require immediate change. I’m talking about real change. Not just staying away from gluten for two weeks and then wanting to see miracles. It’s about doubling down on you and making a lasting, sustainable change.
It’s time to double down, Mama, because at the end of the day, you have to live with you and your choices. When you take the power position in your life, you are no longer a victim and you stop being a victim of this journey. That way you can be a victor. Can you see why stepping into your power is so critically important?
I hope so. And if not, just listen to that rant again. Remember, this episode is about a celebration of you and what’s possible. So, In order to do that, you have to see beyond the places where you are stuck. If you feel powerless, you have to understand that you are in a position of power. Should you be the woman who chooses to accept it?
Okay. That’s point one. The second point in celebration of you in this 200th episode is unfuck your feminine. In the eight years that I have been coaching women to fertility success, this topic is one that comes up with such insane consistency that it warrants me making this vigorous invitation to you now.
I hope you listen up to this one closely, because it’s key. You’ve heard me say this ad nauseum, so in an effort to drive the point home, I will just go ahead and say it again. Conceiving is all about receiving. You’ve got to be able to receive if you want to succeed on this journey. That means you have to be open to receiving the support you need to succeed, not block it with your bullshit.
That may be coaching, love from your partner, improvements to your diet, letting go of toxic relationships. Ending your lack and scarcity drama, leveling up your treatment team, taking a much needed break, asking for what you want, renegotiating your relationship with your spirituality, letting yourself express your creativity, and no longer holding back.
Think about what I just said. The feminine is the essence of what it means to be alive. You were born with this in you, but it’s been maligned over the decades as weak, flighty, untrustworthy, and a host of other fake news. Over the decades, we’ve been trained to take on more masculine traits to get ahead in our professions.
And the tragedy is, That it has made us so divorced from our connection to our innate feminine. Fuck the folklore about what it means to be feminine. I’m not talking about gender stereotypes. I’m talking about energy and the kind of energy that exists in all of us to be creative, spiritual, sensitive, admirers of beauty and expression, as well as nurturing and sensual.
All of this is in you right now. She’s just buried under decades of misogynistic programming that led you to believe you have to let go of this aspect of your nature to get ahead. Let this part of you come out so you can learn to trust each other. This is important because your feminine is deeply connected to your intuition and inner knowing.
How can you truly know? and trust the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you when you look at your feminine like a fucking stranger. See the problem? This is why I make the feminine a critical aspect of my coaching programs. When women ignite this, it’s like, boom, decide that you will unfuck your feminine this year.
This is in you, mama. This is in you right here and right now, but you have to let. her out. And if you’re thinking to yourself, feminine, what? Get your ass into one of my programs pronto. Okay. So let’s talk about point three and the celebration of you and, and, and really serving you here by bringing your attention to things that I, you know, you know what your attention really needs to be drawn to if you want to succeed on this journey.
So, point three is, what other people think, get over it, get over it. I mean this. When I look back on all the women that I’ve served in the past eight years, the ones that really took this to heart, crushed this journey so hard that they even surprised themselves. There is a magic that happens when you begin to realize that zero fucks is actually an awesome way of life.
It means you no longer live in second guessing and confusion. Living at zero fucks is a level that requires absolute clarity about who you are and what you value. It’s about holding those values ahead of everything else. Now, does this mean you turn into a full on sociopath who has no feelings for others?
No, it just means you don’t get pulled into the shiny object syndrome of distraction that comes from being worried about what other people think. Because in the end, they aren’t thinking about you. Newsflash. I have a feeling that you, you kind of know that, but maybe you need a reminder. Nobody’s actually thinking about you.
They’re thinking about you within the context of them. Okay, they’re thinking about themselves within the context of you. Here’s what I mean. I have seen more women dim their light out of fear of what their partner or family will think of them if they go out on a limb for their dream that it makes me want to puke.
They let other people’s fears drive their choices. And they fucking rationalize it was the right thing to do. Yeah, I totally want to give up on my dream of being a mom because you know what, if it hasn’t happened by now, it probably isn’t going to ever happen and you know what, I’m the most successful person in my family and you know what, this is about as far as I can get.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. They just completely go off the rails. And in the end, as the beloved Bob Proctor used to say, rationalizing is truly rationing lies. Sadly, most often to ourselves. So, what this is about, my loves, is stepping out of the matrix of what other people think, and it’s, it’s really tuning into your own inner guidance for discernment.
It’s about truth over fiction. The kind of fiction we’ve been fed about who we are. It’s about giving yourself a chance to develop the kind of faith and self that allows us to weather uncertain or uncharted waters. That are unquestionably going to show up in our lives. It’s about being autonomous, not an automaton statistics, time, age, and a host of other hangups that most people live by are less relevant to you when you don’t give two shits, what other people think.
Zero fucks is like a homecoming. Coming home to truth and the development of trust in yourself. Which you were born with! Babies don’t, don’t struggle with self esteem. That shit comes much later when other people try to fuck with you. You see, so much of what I’m teaching you It’s not about doing more shit.
It’s about doing less on your terms. It’s about doing the right things for you with less complication by other people’s bullshit. It’s about trusting the calling within you that God Universe Source gave you. This necessarily brings us to a place where I’m going to mention faith. Getting over what other people think requires you to find authority elsewhere, in a much higher place, I would say, than the consciousness of everyday people.
Most people live in survival mode. That’s not a place to create from. Just look around your life and you’ll see that. Most people live by an allegiance to fear, not aspiration. So if you aren’t careful, they will drag you down with them. When you understand that, you can see why caring what others think is a setup for mediocrity.
Because, as I said before, They aren’t thinking of you, not really. You are wiser to consider what you think and what you want. Most people don’t, because they’ve beaten that part of themselves down so far they can no longer hear but a whisper. And even that whisper they try to shut up. I hope you will invite that part of you back up, because it is truly a key to your success.
So when I think about the past 200 episodes, the, the women that appeared on this podcast, the physicians, the other experts, all of the people that are sharing their gifts here on this podcast, when I really think about that and process that. And consider what are three points that I want to give you right now, three things for you to consider.
So that as we start this new year, you can give yourself a leg up. You can give yourself a fighting fucking chance to create an entirely different result in this new year. These three points really came to the surface. And I know that a lot of this can seem heavy. But nobody promised that the life you truly desire would come cheap.
And if you’re still under the impression or belief that someone owes you something, it’s my sincere hope that this was the wake up call I intended. I want this 200th episode to be a milestone, not for me, it’s kind of what I do, but truly for you. As I said, I got mine and I got it as a result of having mentors in my life that love themselves and me enough to share their wisdom and propel me forward to my own success.
They were compensated handsomely for it. As it should be. But in the end, I’m not sure I could ever fully repay them. Other than by keeping my word to becoming the success I was born to be. I want the same for all of you. I want you to live your life with no regret. Knowing that you are being the woman you have to be to achieve the success your heart is summoning you for.
While you may think this journey is about your baby, well, sure, that’s part of it, but not all of it. Wise women see that this is bigger, so much bigger, and give themselves the chance to really step into all that’s meant for them. It’s all about you, baby. You most wonderful you. So start showing up like it.
And here’s to 200 episodes today and many, many, many, many, many more to come. It’s all about you, baby. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.
I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.
Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.