EP211 The Fearlessly Fertile Mindset Assessment: Get Real About Where You Are Today

Are you telling yourself the truth about the strength of your mindset? A powerful self sabotage pattern goes something like this: “eh, it ain’t so bad.” But if you are still not getting the results you want on this journey, it’s time to think again. In this week’s episode I am going to walk you through an assessment 8 years in the making. This is gonna be GOOD!

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 211. Fearlessly Fertile Mindset Assessment. Let’s get real about where you are. Hey, my darling woman, I am really excited about the time that we’re going to be spending together this week because we are going to do something rather interesting.

I’m going to walk you through an assessment that my team and I put together last year that is really helping women understand the truth about where they are on this journey when it comes to mindset. Mindset is a subject that tends to be wrapped in a great deal of mystery. And while indeed it is subjective, after doing this work for eight plus years now, there are consistent, predictable, objective indicators.

That show your mindset needs attention. Sometimes all hands on deck level attention. But we tell ourselves, it ain’t that bad. Then wonder why we are still doing the same shit, with the same old pain, one year later. Yikes! If you are serious about turning things around on this journey, Serious about beating the odds and serious about taking full responsibility for doing what it takes to bring your baby home.

Turn this episode up, sister! This is why my ladies create incredible results for themselves on this journey, because they go all in. Now, what’s even better is my team and I went all in on this episode as well, because we created a downloadable version of the assessment I’m going to be walking you through today.

In fact, if you have not downloaded it already, Do it now. Because this shit’s eye opening. Click the link in the show notes to get the assessment, so that you can accurately score where you land, and can make better choices moving forward. Because that’s what this journey is all about. It’s about getting to where we want to be, and being better.

Now, in case you were wondering, this is why what I’m sharing with you today matters. Regardless of what you’ve been told or led to believe, The foundation of your success on this journey is mindset, your decisions to eat well, get sleep, get the supplements you need, have the interventions or support you desire, as well as your level of resilience and your discipline to keep going are all dictated by what you think and believe.

Mindset is where it all begins. You can easily trace pain and suffering that we create back to fear based choices. Which is why you’ve got to get your mind on board when it comes to this journey. Success has nothing to do with luck. It’s all about consistent behaviors that you engage in. Overnight successes are a fairy tale.

The truth is behind every alleged fairy tale were at least 100 decisions, big and small, that preceded a miracle mama calling in her baby. And this is a fact. It’s just a fact. And when you understand where you stand, the actual behaviors that can be blocking the good you desire, and how you might be making things 10 times harder than they have to be, when you understand that, you can start thinking and behaving differently, which logically leads To different results.

Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. If you’re doing all the things and still not getting the result you desire on this journey, and you are actually committed to having this baby, you can’t afford to ignore your mindset. Now, I say actually committed because many talk a big game, but back down when it takes them out of their comfort zone.

And when it means they have to grow, step up to the plate, and be honest about what they want. And when they have to make decisions that other people might not like. Because that’s what it takes to succeed. You have to become more than you are today. You have to be better. Your thinking has to change.

Mindset makes all the difference in the world because it changes the way you see the world. This is why world class athletes Aren’t always the ones that have the natural talent or physical gifts. Some of them just choose to be the best. Michael Jordan, you know him, right? He chose to be who he is. Some of these elite athletes and people that are change makers in the world They were willing to have more drive, stamina, and grit than others.

And, you know, and this applies to even people that were more physically gifted than them, or maybe more allegedly intelligent and all that goodness. You see this in the business world as well. People come to the United States with nothing. They build incredible businesses that bless them and their families, while you can also see those born into wealth that end up squandering it.

The best writers? Aren’t always the people with the most letters after their names. They’re simply the people brave enough to put their shit out in the world. There is enough opportunity out there for everyone. The question is will you make the play? Will you raise your hand? Will you stand the fuck up?

Success comes down to what you think and believe because You will see opportunities where others don’t, and you will have the stamina to stay in the game when others punk out. Now, I’ve given you this framework. So let’s start walking through the assessment that you can download. If you haven’t done it already, I’m going to remind you.

Go to the show notes for this podcast. Go to my link tree on Instagram. Or. Go to the email that announced this podcast episode to you and download it. Pause the recording because you’re going to want to have this ready. And as long as you’re not driving a car or operating heavy machinery, you’re definitely going to want to follow along with your assessment.

If you’re driving, pull over, download it. Don’t be a risk to yourself or anyone else. But either way, just download it. And let’s walk through this goodness together. So, couple rules to keep in mind as we go over this assessment, do not overthink this, and no judgment, don’t overthink and drop the judgment.

And here’s a word to the wise, do not answer these questions as if I am looking for a specific answer, I’m not, that’s not the case at all. You simply want to answer based on what is true for you today, not what you aspire to. Okay, that’s where we fuck ourselves over. We sugarcoat things. We tell ourselves lame things like, Oh, it ain’t that bad.

And we don’t see the block. And then we wonder why it’s another year and nothing has changed. See how this works. Don’t worry about numbers or point values. This isn’t a race to see who has the lowest points or highest points. This is simply. An assessment. It’s not a determination of your value as a human being or your prospects on this journey.

It is simply a tool. You’re going to have this baby one way or a fucking another. Okay, just answer with truth so you can see truth. So let’s do this assessment. Now, the first question in this assessment is how long have you been trying to conceive? That’s easy enough. Just circle your answer on the page or write down the point value.

Assigned to the amount of time you’ve been trying to conceive. Don’t ever think this. How long have you been trying to conceive? Second question. Number of treatments. I don’t care what kind of treatment you’re talking about. IUI, IVF, Clomid plus IUI, embryo transfers. IVF retrievals, like how many conventional medical interventions have you have again, just count them up.

Don’t overthink it. Just count them up. Don’t feel bad about it. Just count them up. The third question is what are the types of treatment that you have had? And here, we’re just looking at where you’re at on the spectrum. Have you only done IUI? Are you just getting started in this process? Maybe You know, regardless of how many cycles you’ve done, just circle or give yourself points for an IUI.

Okay? Have you moved on from IUI to IVF? Just circle that. Like, don’t overcomplicate this. Don’t make yourself wrong. Don’t overthink. Just where are you at on that particular spectrum as of today? The fourth question is your age, just mark where you’re at today, okay, and don’t be cheating on this particular question.

If your birthday is in the next three months, just round up, okay, I know that every fiber of your being does not want you to round up. But don’t be afraid. Own your age. It doesn’t mean shit other than helping us assess the pressure you might get or the pressure you might be feeling because of it, right?

This assessment is just about awareness. Awareness to support you. In really looking at what you need right now. And look, at the time of this recording, one of my Miracle Mamas is a gorgeous 53 and is holding her six week old son today. So bugger the idea that age is going to stand in your fucking way.

All right, the fifth question on the assessment is to determine your level of fear, doubt, and negativity. Now, be honest, You don’t have to split hairs here, do not overthink this, this is not the California bar exam where we’re trying to interpret the meaning of words. Just answer it from your gut. How often does this journey cross your mind?

How much time? Do you spend in any amount of fear, doubt, or negativity because of it? Do you feel consumed by it? Just be honest. Remember, the point here is to truly understand where you are with your mindset, so you can do something about it and you aren’t blocking the manifestation of your dreams. Okay?

Knowledge is power. So the third question on the assessment is, what is the impact your journey is having on your relationships? So you’re going to really want to think about this. Are you keeping this journey to yourself? No judgment if you are, we just want to assess. Like, what impact is this journey having on your relationships?

Okay? Just write down or circle what answer is true for you. Are you avoiding, concealing, or actively engaging in dishonesty with the people around you? Maybe a little bit of all of it, then give yourself a five on that. And you know the truth, okay? Remember, don’t sugarcoat this, because sugarcoating this and saying, ah, it ain’t so bad, is not going to help you.

That’s just going to set you up to keep repeating old patterns, okay? So just to the best of your ability, what is the impact your journey is having on your relationships? And I mean relationships generally, just lump them all together. What are you seeing yourself do in those relationships? Now, question number seven is one of my favorites.

What’s your level of, I’m not leaving without my baby. Be honest, be honest with yourself about this. What is the fire in your belly when it comes to this baby? What’s the level of that drive? What’s the level of that mama bear energy that I’m not leaving without my baby and look if you’re meh This is just as helpful as hell Yes My hair is on fire for this baby The more honest you are with yourself about where you are the more empowered you become Okay, and look if if you are meh today you get to be meh No judgment doesn’t mean anything about whether or not you’re having this baby.

You just want to understand where you’re at. Question number eight is how many alternative medicine therapies have you used? And I say alternative snidely because I’m not so sure that those things are actually alternative in the pejorative sense that that word tends to be applied with, such as Chinese medicine, Mayan massage, Reiki, past life regression, vaginal steaming, naturopathy.

Supplements, herbs, faith, healers, chiropractic, like, look, you name it, all of those things have value. And it just, it drives me crazy when people call those alternatives, because for some people, those are the primary treatment that they choose to use, and there’s nothing wrong with that. So just make note of how many alternative medicine slash therapies you have used.

No judgment. And look, hey, if you remember back to my story, I boil black chicken. So there is no shame on your game, girl. Bring on the mediums and all that stuff. There’s, there is certainly value to all of it. And last question is what is the state of your diet? Be honest. Are you flawless? Or are you good 50 percent of the time and beyond?

And, or, you know, do you actually eat like a 14 year old boy? Or 16 year old boy is what I put on the sheet. So, no shame in your game. Again, this is simply about giving yourself an opportunity to understand where you truly are. Now, At the end of this, just add up all your points. There is a total of 45 possible points.

Don’t freak out. Don’t judge yourself. A critical aspect of success is awareness. We just need to be aware of where we are so we can be better. And I approach this in a really light hearted, loving way. And I was inspired by the old, I was a child of the 70s and came up, you know, reading Cosmo magazine when I was a little girl and a teenager.

I probably shouldn’t have been reading that when I was a little girl. But anyway, that’s, that’s what I did. And I always used to love those, those quizzes. And you know, that’s the inspiration here. Like, look, no shame in your game. Let’s just empower you with some information. And look, this is, this is intended to be a loving way of just understanding where you are at.

Now, there are likely going to be those that agonize over whether I should have asked more questions or asked them in a different way. Look, figuring out where your mindset is doesn’t need to be more complicated unless you want to complicate things and thereby distract yourself with minutiae. And the narcissism of small differences.

I don’t think that’s productive or going to help get you on track more efficiently. This is also why I care very little about what might cause you to agonize between two answers. Just fucking pick one and move on. Like. Hey, it’s, you’re, it’s, again, not a race to be perfect, we just, this is simply a tool, okay?

And I say that with so much love, because the inability to make a fucking decision as simple as this is very telling, and should be an eye opener for you if you started agonizing, especially on the age question. Okay, if you’re like, I’m 43 and 3 quarters, and, you know And you’re reluctant, you know, to, to go into the 44 category.

What does that tell you about where you’re at when it comes to your mindset? Okay. I’m just loving you enough to call this out because look, I’ve helped women from ages 28 to 52. Alright, she’s 53 now, but like, it’s possible. What you want on this journey is possible, mama. I don’t care what anybody has to say.

So, I know that this might be an unfair cliffhanger, but I’m not going to share the interpretations of your score, or what your score means this week. You will have to tune in to next week’s episode for that, because It’s going to require more time than I want to take up here. The point of walking you through this assessment today is to help you understand where you stand today.

In next week’s episode, we are going to be using my fearlessly fertile Mama Macon Matrix To better understand what all of this can mean and what you can start doing as a result. Remember, if you’re serious about success on your journey, you are going to be focused on being better, not beating yourself up for the results that you got on this assessment when you don’t even know how to interpret them yet.

Okay? A higher number isn’t bad. It just tells us where you are. And that’s not good or bad, it’s just your truth. And if you’re smart, and I know you are, between now and next week’s episode, I strongly encourage you to think about your answers and what they reveal to you. Journal about them. Notice how these realities are showing up in your life.

Don’t judge them, just notice. I’m proud of you, Mama, for having the guts to ask the questions that we ask today. And to stay with it, it says a lot about you and where you can go on this journey. It takes a good degree of humility to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and be honest about where we are today.

In addition to where we want to be. In the meantime, the smartest thing you can do When you aren’t getting the results you want on this journey from your treatments, diets, lotions, and potions, it’s work on your mindset. Your success on this journey starts there. Be part of the magic that women from around the world are bringing to each one of their cycles by being part of my Signature Life program.

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Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying, hell yes.

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