EP215 Excuse Buster: Money

Are fears about money–that aren’t even yours–clouding your decision making on this journey? If you are currently using money as an excuse to not be, do, or have the things you need to succeed on this journey, turn this episode up. You may find that what you think is “saving” you money is costing you dearly in the long run.

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 215. Excuse Buster. Money. Mama, I am so glad that you’re here, and we’re going straight into the second episode of this three part series on excuses and busting those fuckers up. Last week we started with the subject of time, and I gave you context about why I am doing this series, and how important it is to stop squandering your time and resources with excuses.

As I said last week, if you’re not 100 percent committed to being a mom, this series is pretty much not for you. That preface is not a judgment. Just listen to episode 214, Time is Precious. And if you’re not all in on something, fuck it. Because you will spend your time arguing with me, making excuses for your excuses, rather than taking in the lessons I’m sharing from my experience and that of the women I have helped all over the world for the past eight plus years.

And my ladies are gangster successful. And if you have listened to this podcast for any length of time, You’ve heard the stories of my ladies from early in the podcast until now. You will see a through line of what I am teaching you here. You either want that kind of success or you don’t. No shame or blame, it’s just a reality.

You’re either in or you’re out. And by the way, if you are digging this series and you really want to go deeper with it, Maybe you even want to make a workbook of what we’re talking about here, because, as I said, these are actually the top three excuses that people use to murder their dreams. We created a worksheet for this episode as well, so there’ll be three worksheets that you can create a workbook for each one of these episodes.

So, Look, we just click the link in the show notes to get your copy of that worksheet. We are delivering value left and fucking right, ladies. And you know what? Bravo to my team. They rock. Now, if you are committed to being a mom, here’s why investing your time in this episode is smart as fuck. Money? Is the lamest and probably most provably false excuse that we use on this journey.

Money is fucking everywhere. Do you have to do shit to get it? Yeah. Do you have to trade value in exchange for it? Yeah. Does it mean you might not be laying by the pool all day or engaging in the illusion we refer to as weekends? Yeah, possibly. And on the note of the illusion of weekends, that was inspired by Downton Abbey.

Mr. Austin and I were rewatching some of our favorite episodes, and there was one where the Dowager Countess Violet Crawley looked aghast at dinner when someone referred to a weekend, and she was like, what’s a weekend? It’s an interesting and rather clever, astute Observation because when you really love your work, you love the people you are surrounded by and you’re really engaged in your life.

You aren’t really living for weekends because you’re your life is kind of cool every single day and weekends while indeed they have a different feel to them and different routines. You’re the same person. You think the same thoughts. It’s just another day. I thought that was interesting to point out since episode 214 was all about time, right?

And when you take control of your time, you make time for mindset, every day can actually feel like a weekend. And as I said, I know the routines are different, but that energy that you bring, that weekend energy, you can actually have that any day of the fucking week if you chose to. See how powerful mindset is?

Now, back to the matter at hand. So, this whole series is about the top excuses that people use to destroy their dreams. Namely, the excuses that they make to avoid working on mindset, and, you know, which is essentially the thing that helps you achieve the dream, okay? And when people are not bitching about, well, I don’t have time for that, the other thing that they’re bitching about is, I don’t have money for that.

So, when it comes to mindset and the excuse of money, Here’s what you need to know. One of the smartest things you can possibly do is invest in expertise. Investing in expertise means you don’t have to read thousands of books, attend hundreds of seminars, invest in the hundreds of thousands, your coach. If they are actually good has invested in their own coaching and you don’t have to make the same mistakes your expert made in their own life.

What you are investing in is getting all of that fucking goodness faster, smarter, and frankly, at a less expensive rate on all levels than if you try to do that shit DIY. Experience has value. Client success has value. Using time wisely has value. Doubt that? Remember what I taught you in episode 214, the first in this three part series.

Why squander your time trying to figure it out when you can learn from someone that has done the thing you say you want to do and has proven they know how to teach others how to do it? And their clients and their clients success prove it. Why? Why would you waste a precious minute on this journey trying to figure it out with your unchallenged, limiting beliefs hijacking your brain at every turn?

How successful could you possibly be with that ridiculous shit running the show? You never work out harder than you do when you have a trainer. You never create meals at the same level as you would under the tutelage of an accomplished chef. You will never discover your blind spots in the same way you would with a coach that knows exactly what they’re fucking doing and isn’t there to sugarcoat shit.

It’s about efficiency. Sure, you can take the fucking scenic route to get wherever you want to go. And certainly that has payoffs of its own. But when you’re trying to conceive and it’s been years and you scored a 23 or higher on my fucking mindset assessment, do you really care whether or not you see another tree along that scenic route?

Or do you want to just make the fucking moves you need to make in order to get and stay pregnant? This principle Of investing in expertise, it also applies to the treatments that you’re doing to the, the supplement provider that you’re going to, to the nutritionist, you’re going to, you are literally paying for their expertise because you don’t know how to do it yourself.

Okay. So the excuse that people use, well, I don’t have the time or I don’t have the money for it. What you can’t afford to not make the time. And you certainly can’t make the excuse for money because what you’re doing right now isn’t working. Okay. So bottom line. If you want to actually stop worrying about money and this journey and, and mindset and all of the things, all of the excuses you’re currently making about the money you allegedly do not have.

If you want to stop worrying about money, go out and fucking make it. Plain and simple. Need money. Go make more of it. You were born with gifts and talents that far exceed what you are currently doing today. Okay, I’m going to say that again. You were born with gifts and talents that far exceed what you are currently doing today.

Go make money if you are complaining about money. If you have the luxury of time to worry about money or complain about it, you have time to fucking work. Now, I know, remember, episode 2, 14, I was honest with you, I was straight up. This is going to be triggering. But you can’t get past the truth of what I’m saying here.

And I can already hear the whining, But Roseanne, you don’t know my story, dot, dot, dot. I don’t have to know your story. I love and respect you enough to tell you that your story is tired and boring. There are people out there right now with missing limbs, with significant mental challenges, some who barely speak the language, came from outside of the United States and are fucking hustling.

There’s a shop I saw not long ago here in Texas near where I live that sells only crafts made by those. with down syndrome. Think about that. These people are not at home feeling sorry for themselves and worried about what they don’t have. They are not making excuses, they’re making beautiful crafts to sell.

And bring joy to people in this area. They’re out making something of themselves. They are offering value in exchange for money. Look at the elderly working as shop greeters, tutoring kids, and otherwise providing useful service. They aren’t bellyaching about what they don’t have. They are out making money, baby.

Drive for Uber. If it makes sense for you, shop for Instacart. If you are able bodied, have a dream of having this baby, get your ass to work. The best thing ever is that it doesn’t have to be hard. It can be fun as fuck. And whether it is, is 100 percent up to you. On top of all of that undeniable truth, there are loans fucking everywhere.

Do you need to qualify for them? Yep. Could the interest rate be higher than normal? Sure, but they are there. And if you get out of your own way, you can get one. When you have a big dream, you have to be more resourceful than conventional wisdom about money. Conventional wisdom about money doesn’t take into account your struggle with fertility.

It’s apples and fucking oranges. And if you need to deviate from your financial plan for a bit while you do what it takes to have this baby, trust me, it’s fucking worth it. Am I a financial advisor? Nope. I’m sharing what I did and what made me successful when it made no sense for me to be successful.

It’s the same shit my ladies do and look at their stories of overcoming. It’s un fucking deniable. The other two things that you need to know when it comes to the lame fucking excuses that people use to not work on their mindset. We’ve talked about time and now we’re talking about money. And this is so true because it, it actually, it applies to so many different aspects of our lives.

Not just the way that you’re approaching mindset, Oh, I can’t, I can’t do this or I can’t do that when it comes to my mindset. It’s also going to be the way that you approach your treatments, your diets, and your lotions and your potions. You are either coming from abundance or you’re coming from lack and scarcity.

And the choice is yours. So the other two things you need to know are one, your stories about money are not yours. They came from someone else, likely a caretaker. In your family and you were hearing this garbage from the time you were extremely little Okay, chances are you probably heard some bullshit even before you were born about money Okay, this likely came from someone that was in fear about money Used it possibly to manipulate others or thought of money as being a scary thing.

This is a fact, okay? Babies are not afraid about money. Babies do not have money stories. We do not pick up money stories until later in life. Mostly from our families of origin. So your stories about money are not yours. Two, your judgments about money, your stories about how easy or hard it is to get are not truth.

They are your perception that you turn into your reality, which is why they are at best your truth, but not the objective truth. The objective truth is that anyone who is willing to do what it takes can make money. The question that takes us on a high speed elevator to truth. is how bad do you want it?

If you let money stand in the way of you getting what you need to have this baby, whether it has to do with mindset, treatments, diets, or anything else that you need to be successful, you don’t want this baby bad enough. And you may really hate me for that one, but I care enough to call you out. So just let that sit.

I know that got a little scorchy, but hey, Hey mama, you want to win on this journey? You got to get to the straight dough. You cannot be beating around the bush. All right. Money is the fucking lamest excuse anyone uses on this journey. It’s bull shit. And to help you start to push past that nonsense. We are going to do an exercise that consists of three questions.

Be sure to follow along with the worksheet we created. And it’s in the link in the show notes or the email that announced this episode. So here goes, remember, do not overthink, just answer the fucking questions and trust your gut. And the title of the worksheet is, What’s the Whole Truth About Money? So the first question that is on this beautiful sheet is, What are the stories I tell about money?

Like, really, be honest. And, and you know what? I don’t care if you have looked at your money stories in the past. It’s time to re look at them. Okay? I did a series on recession proofing, gosh, toward the beginning of the year. And it’s insane how much fear mongering is going on out there about money. So, it’s time to revisit your money stories.

So, what are the stories that you tell about money? The second question on this is, what is it costing you to hold on to these stories? What is it costing you? What is the impact on your life by you living by stories of lack and scarcity and money is hard to make and money is for other people? Like, how is it impacting your journey?

Are you not being resourceful? Are you not going out there and shaking your ass and working and doing whatever it takes to have the money that you need? Or are you just on the couch, laying around, expecting it to fall out of the sky? What is it costing you? Alright? Do you have shame around money? You know, have you not forgiving yourself for some things that, you know, situations you may have had with money in the past?

Because you know what? If you don’t deal with those, they’re fucking with you now. Okay? And that could cost you your baby. Plain and simple. And then third, what is my manifest money plan? This is where you have an opportunity to start thinking about what are additional ways to bring revenue in, To your home.

Okay, take it on a few extra projects at work. You know, do you have a side hustle working in somebody else’s business? You know, what are the ways that you can bring more money in? Because look, one of the smartest things I ever heard from the dear and late Bob Proctor is, you never lower your standard of living to meet your income.

You raise your income to meet your standard. Of living. Everybody thinks that clipping coupons and, and, you know, skimping and scrimping here and there is somehow going to move them forward. All that’s doing is reallocating the money you have. It’s not generating anything new. It’s not generating anything new.

Okay, so if you want to get out of using the excuse of money, which again is the lamest fucking shit ever You’ve got to think past what you know today. You have got to come up with a plan How do I bring more in and I know you’re smart. You’re super smart And the challenge is, you know, Hey, think of 10 additional ways that you can make money right now on your worksheet.

What are 10 additional ways that you could make money, right? Are there things that you maybe like you don’t really care about anymore and you, you want to sell them? How could you bring more revenue in? Are there side projects, side hustles that you can be doing? There are gifts and talents. Remember I said that earlier, you have gifts and talents that far exceed what you’re doing now.

And that doesn’t mean that you have to work harder. Some things come really naturally to you that you can give to other people in exchange for value, right? You got to be smarter. Quit making the excuse of money. Want more of this goodness? The smartest thing you can do when you aren’t getting the results on your journey from your treatments, diets, lotions, and potions is your mindset.

You got to get help with your mindset because your success on this journey starts there. And you get to be part of the magic that women from around the world are bringing to each one of their cycles by being part of my signature live program, the fearlessly fertile method program. And it is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success in the journey, baby, you got to keep it all in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success till next time. Change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the fearlessly fertile podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you when it comes to your dreams. Keep saying hell yes.

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