EP218 Truth Bomb: 7 Days Of Absolute Truth

Want to supercharge your confidence and frankly just about every aspect of your fertility journey? Join me for an odyssey of absolute truth. This one is for women who are 100% committed to success. The truth will set you free, baby!

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 218, Truth Bomb, seven days. Of absolute truth. Hey, my loves. Oh, we’re coming on the heels of some really juicy content that we’ve been sharing with you over the past couple weeks. And so I want to give you something a little different.

I want something super active for you this week. And when I was thinking about what I wanted to share with you and how I could support you even more, I was inspired to challenge you to seven days of absolute truth. Because if you want to supercharge your confidence on this journey, and frankly, just about every other aspect of your life, Woo!

The truth will set you free, baby. And, you know, the instructions here are quite simple. It’s really about giving yourself permission to stand in what’s true for you. You know, there’s so much shame and shadowy moving around that we do on this journey and like, you know, like all this nonsense. There’s so much heaviness.

About this journey, and we hide so much of who we are, what we need, what we want to say, where we want to go, the things that we want to do, what we want to eat, like, there’s so much of a heavy cloud of perfectionism and shame and comparison, and all kinds of other vomitous crap. That we carry around on this journey that causes us to live on a completely different planet from our truth until it’s almost absolutely unbearable and then we just have a fucking breakdown and, and explode all over the people that we care about.

So I want you to set yourself up to do something different, which is why we are doing a truth bomb here. And quite simply, what you’re going to be doing this week if you are brave enough and care to take up this challenge is you are going to live. Seven days of absolute truth. Now that may seem kind of easy, but you know what?

It’s, it’s actually not like when you really look. At how much, like, white lies and dimming our truth and omission plays into how we get through every single day. It’s almost like a full time job, hiding your truth. Like, when you really look cumulatively at how often we hide what’s true for us, And don’t tell people what we’re really thinking.

Uh, you know, it, it’s a burden. Like, it blocks your energy. It sucks your will to live. And when you think about how precious your energy is on this journey and what it takes to hide what’s true, you’re like, dude, I have this constellation of other energy that I could be tapping into. To not feel so burnout, not feel so hopeless, not feel so helpless, not feel so fearful and doubtful and all the other crap that we go through.

Like, if you could free up the energy that you are currently using to conceal your truth right now, you could probably light up a city. And, like, open up this, like, giant floodlight to your baby. Okay? You got searchlights all the way up to heaven saying, Baby, mama’s heart is open. I’m not telling any lies or hiding what’s true for me anymore.

Whoop! You can come right in. And I know that sounds insane, but, you know, the The energy that we expend, like not living truth is just insane and this is your opportunity to really see that in action. So the exercise for this week is really simple. 7 days of absolute truth. Now the team has created a gorgeous 7 days of truth tracker that you can download.

Uh, the link to that beautiful resource is in the show notes for this episode. And go ahead, download it now, or if you’re following me on Instagram you can go ahead and go to my link tree to download that insane worksheet to go along with this incredible challenge because what this is going to do is help you compile real data that shows you that you can tell the truth and live to tell the tale, hold yourself accountable for doing this exercise, and have a powerful set of facts to show that when you do tell the absolute truth you have everything to gain.

So now that you know what the material is that goes along with this podcast, let’s talk about really what this exercise looks like. So I would challenge you, and I know you’re, whenever you’re listening to this podcast, I want you to start this the next day because you really want to start from the beginning of the day, from the moment your feet hit the floor, a commitment to absolute truth.

You will tell the absolute truth. Whenever you have an interaction with somebody and you know, and, and look, I want to be really clear about something telling the truth does not have to be confrontation. Okay. This is not licensed for you to be a complete and total asshole. What this is about is you taking back.

Your agency in your life and giving yourself a chance to love and connect with yourself enough to know what’s true. And I know that some of you listening to this are like, what do you even mean tell my truth? I don’t even know what the fuck that means. It’s actually really simple. So from the moment your feet hit the floor in the morning, you will tell the truth.

So, if your partner, you know, if you and your partner share a bed and they’re like, Hey babe, you know, how’d you sleep? And you didn’t actually sleep well, you’re gonna be like, Well, I didn’t actually sleep that well. Or, you know, your partner wants you to do something, you know, you’re both walking out to leave for work and your partner asks you to do something, and you’re like, Nah, I actually don’t feel like doing that.

I love you, but I just don’t feel like doing that. Like, you’re just gonna tell people the absolute truth. Uh, somebody asks you for lunch at work and, and you actually don’t really feel like it. And be like, hey, thanks for the invitation. Nah, I’m gonna be eating on my own. Or, you know what? If you’re not actually grateful for that invitation, you don’t even have to say the part that says, hey, I’m thankful for the invitation.

Just say, nah, I’m gonna be eating alone today. Or whatever. Or, I already have plans with Lucy. Uh, or whatever. Just tell the fucking truth. Okay? Instead of making excuses and coming up with all kinds of fiction to, to hide or explain away why you feel why don’t you just stand in the truth of what you feel.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation or you don’t have to explain why you’re alive, right? That’s what we tend to do is we, we explain ourselves like, like we owe somebody an explanation. And it’s super fucking tiring and presupposes that you have to give anyone an explanation. Like, it always puts you behind the eight ball.

So, all seven days, you are going to be telling the truth. And I know that at first, you know, I’ve given you some pretty benign, uh, examples up to this point, you know, telling your partner that you didn’t sleep well, dealing with a, you know, invitation to lunch, but where this starts to get challenging is if, like, let’s say you’re having a conversation with your, your doctor this week, you’re going into treatment or whatever, and your doctor says, hey, you know what, it’s really time for you to move on to donor eggs, and the truth for you is, nah, nah, bruh, I’m not ready for that that like instead of just sitting there and tolerating a conversation that you’re not ready to have if you happen to not be ready to have that, you know, donor eggs are fucking amazing and you know, they’re great for for those that feel called.

But let’s say in your example that that’s just not where you’re at, that, you know, instead of hemming and hawing and, and trying to, you know, protect somebody else’s feelings, which, I mean, that’s kind of silly anyway, because you’re not protecting anyone when you don’t tell them the truth. In fact, you are dishonoring them.

In a lot of ways, presupposing that they can’t handle the truth, okay? You know, I almost said the Jack Nicholson, You can’t handle the truth, right? But the reality is, is we’re all grown ups. When you’re dealing with grown ups, act like a fucking grown up and tell them the truth. It’s so much easier to just tell people the truth than carry on the fiction that burdens you, it sucks your will to live away, and just creates so much of a nightmare.

So, take a look at your week, okay? Whenever you happen to be listening to this. Take a look and look at your calendar, look ahead to see what you have and make a decision that for the next seven days you are going to be telling the absolute truth. Now, as I mentioned a little bit before, and it really bears reinforcement here, you are not responsible for how other people interpret your truth.

You cannot be responsible for that. But you do have a responsibility to yourself, to be honest. And if you don’t want to go out to dinner with friends, just tell them and you don’t have to tell them in a mean way, you don’t have to give them 75 reasons why you don’t want to go, just say, hey, you know what, I’m not up for it tonight.

Boom. Okay, even if they come back and, you know, wave all kinds of things in front of you to try to get you to go, if you’re really set on not going, and it’s true for you that you’d rather stay home, then fucking stay home and tell them. At work, this could be super interesting because aside from the benign example of going out to lunch, you know, you may have a situation where you are in a conference and or a meeting and you realize that something that somebody said just actually isn’t true.

Instead of playing office politics, which are total fucking bullshit anyway, speak up. Say what’s true for you. Unburden yourself of this nonsense of not being who you really are and speaking your mind and trusting that your expertise is valued. Okay? Everybody has expertise in their profession. And maybe it’s time that you fuckin told him.

Now, again, I can’t stress this. It’s not about totally upending the apple cart and, and acting like a total fuckin maniac for the seven days. It is simply telling the truth. You can be super kind in the way that you tell the truth. You can be measured in your voice. And you don’t have to go straight up Genghis Khan on people.

You can just say, no, actually, that isn’t true. I’ve done the research and, and that information that is being presented does not appear accurate according to what I’m doing. You know, or my research. You know, you can easily say that and it, you know, if somebody wants to interpret that as confrontation, well, that’s up to them.

You know, your intentions are clean. So why hide the truth? The same is true if, if you happen to have, uh, complicated interactions with friends and family. So let’s say you have somebody’s baby shower coming up and you’re like, fuck me, you know what? I, I started listening to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast.

I’m really starting to work on my mindset. I know I need to get my ass in that eight week program that everyone fucking raves about, uh, but I’ve got my interview next week. But you know what? Somebody is like inviting me to their freaking Baby shower, and I’m just not up for it. Then, what you can do, if you happen to be doing that during the 7 day challenge, is to say, Hey, I’m not going to be available for that event.

Okay? You’re not available because you’re doing something else. You’re going to do something you actually want to do. And saying you’re unavailable is not a lie because you are not available for that event. You are going to go do something that feeds your soul. And you don’t owe anybody any, any sort of explanation whatsoever.

Just tell them, nah, I’m not available that day. Done. No further explanation. If somebody wants To get more information about what you’re doing, tell them, Hey, my plan is to sit on the couch and read an Agatha Christie novel with a glass of wine. That’s what I’m doing. If that’s what you happen to be doing.

And, and they may look at you crazy and they may, like, start accusing you of being a total, complete asshole. Or they may, like, wonder if you fell and hit your head. Whatever the case may be, that’s on them. That’s their supposition. That’s their drama. That’s their absolute, you know, jumping to conclusions.

And invalidation of what feels right to you, but that’s none of your business. So truth bomb baby, seven days of absolute truth. And you know, these are just the instructions that I’m giving you. If you care to accept this challenge, but you know what? You’re smart, you’re creative, you’re resourceful, you’re whole.

Add to this if there’s something more that you want to do with this or your expression of truth is like a little bit different or you feel like, hey, I only want to express absolute truth when it comes to my friends because that’s where I need it most. Then rock on with your bad self. What I’m giving you is a starting point, but if you really want a gold star for this exercise, you are going to drop truth bombs.

In your life in every aspect of your life. Here’s why it’s how you build trust with you Okay, we think that our problem is trusting other people No, our problem is trusting ourself and and knowing that we will do right for us Regardless of what is going on around us that we will be true to ourselves.

We will speak our truth We will take care of ourselves when we do speak that truth And that we will be our own ally every time. Because half the time that I hear women struggling with their confidence on this journey, having shitty boundaries and not following through on what they say they’re going to do, it’s because they don’t trust themselves.

They put so much emphasis on trusting other people and other people having authority in their lives. Nah, nah, ladies. The time is now to bring that trust home to mama, because that’s where it deserves to live. So, that’s what I have for you this week. Truth bomb, baby! Seven days of absolute truth. Don’t overthink this, don’t overcomplicate it.

Just go fucking do it. If it feels right to you and you’re in a great place, go do it. And even if you don’t feel like it, like you’re in a great place, like, fuck it! You may need this kind of a swift kick to your bullshit in order to get out of that, to see that you can trust you. Because when you trust you, trusting other people, trusting God, universe source, trusting life becomes so much easier.

Thank you. I on the van’s aunt. And if you want to take this to the next level, my fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases. Mind and body. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you kind of gaping hole in your strategy Get your ass over to www.FromMaybeToBaby.com And apply for an interview for this program there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true We got the receipts baby receipts Their results speak for themselves. Can’t wait for you to be one of them till next time. Change your mindset, change your results.

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