EP219 Mother’s Day the FEARLESS Way

Feeling queasy about Mother’s Day? Let me teach you something much smarter than feeling sorry for yourself or drowning your sorrows in garbage mimosas. Together we are going to declare a NEW truth on your journey–and you will be shouting it from the rooftops. Saddle up, baby! You are going to do Mother’s Day, the FEARLESS way.

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 219, Mother’s Day, The Fearless Way. Woman, woman, woman. Alright, here we are, at the start of a week that can be like nails on a chalkboard for you when you are living this journey. It’s Mother’s Day week here in the States.

While, yes, this day is supposed to be about celebrating our own mothers and motherhood in general, unless you’ve had a lobotomy, it unquestionably conjures up thoughts in you about what you don’t have yet. Your baby. While everyone is enjoying their brunch, chances are you might be holding back tears or waving at the waiter for another Mimosa, please!

Or perhaps both. I totally get it, and I want to propose something way smarter than staying stuck in pain and the booze you think will numb it, because it won’t. I want to help you approach Mother’s Day the fearless way, because look, the shit going on in your head is the one thing you can control on this journey, and it’s time to get it together, mama.

Life is too fucking precious and short for you to squander your time in woe and misery. Every day that we spend on this journey consciously, intentionally, and in expectation of what we desire is a day, well, spent. Those are the days that bring us closer to what we want. We want more of those and less of the shit that keeps us replaying the rhapsody of old wounds.

Feel your shit. And move the fuck on. Two things can be true at the same time. You can have your pain, and be in the faith filled expectation of the good to come. Don’t be the sad sack that gets stuck in one gear, because that isn’t conscious. And it isn’t you in your power. That’s submission, not surrender.

As human beings, we have the incredible power of choice. We can choose the thoughts we think, the ideas we entertain, and the company we keep. We create our reality. So let’s get about the business of creating your reality as we move through this Mother’s Day week. Now, what makes this, the fearless way, is we are going to make a declaration.

Instead of giving any energy whatsoever, to what we don’t have, our focus is going to be on what you are calling in. You see, what you give your attention to grows. If you focus on what you don’t have, that shit only gets bigger. You begin to see it everywhere. It gets your mind share. When, instead, you focus on what you desire, you give your life affirming energy to that, and the undeniable power of your intention shapes your thoughts, and therefore your choices, and bingo, your fuckin results.

This is logical and quite linear. Your Mother’s Day declaration is an anthem. It’s a celebration of what you know to be true. Regardless of your current outside circumstances, we think our current circumstances are a predictor of what is to come, when they absolutely are not. Unless, of course, you make the decision to stay stuck there.

Your circumstances are temporary and transitory at best. So why not raise your voice and have your heart sing for this baby? This is not some twisted delusion. It’s a fucking decision. We will call this your Mother’s Day Promise. To help you with this, we’ve created a Mother’s Day promise page for you to download it.

You can go to the link in the show notes or in the email that announced this episode, use it to follow along intentionally and craft the most outrageously glorious Mother’s Day promise you could ever imagine. So let’s get down to business. Your Mother’s Day promise is comprised of three critical parts, which I will talk you through now.

Your MDP can be any length. But it must have three parts to be effective, okay? These three parts that I’m going to be teaching you. Use your creativity. Open your heart. Speak your truth in this. This is not intended to be an exercise in mother, may I? Pun intended. Be bold, get big, apologize for nothing.

This MDP is yours and yours alone. Get freaky with your mama in the making self. Get messy. Have some fucking fun. You can’t really do this wrong unless you fail to check your work and make sure that all three pieces are in place. And I expect that the hundreds of thousands of women listening to this will create hundreds of thousands of versions of this.

Toss perfectionism out the window as we work. Okay, so get out your Mother’s Day Promise Worksheet. And here’s the first step. Let’s, once and for all, end Mother’s Day misery as you live this journey. In this first step, I want you to declare what is yours. Fucking declare it. We aren’t tiptoeing through life like mindless sheeple.

Declare what you desire in this first step. Make a statement. on a piece of paper or your MDP worksheet about what you desire on this journey. Declare it like you are calling that mofo in, like you know it’s coming and you are ordering all the bells and fucking whistles to go with it. You want the Lux package and you aren’t leaving without it.

And yeah Gus, Gus meaning God Universe Source, I will in fact take the cherry on top. Now here’s how that might look. You might write down in this first step, because remember this is the first step of three steps, Your declaration may be, I’m having this baby naturally in the next 12 months. I also want a brand new car to drive this child around in.

I, I want to negotiate teleworking or, you know, work from home scenario for half my work hours. And I want to be able to date my partner once a week, uh, during my pregnancy and that becomes our new way of being. I mean, like, it can be anything that you want and you want to be specific and you want to think about as much as you can.

You know, this is why I, in the example that I gave you, it was how you wanted to get pregnant, the time frame in which you want to get pregnant. As well as the work scenario and the scenario in your relationship, you want to really think this through. Think about all of the moving parts in your life. And look, again, what did I say a few moments ago?

This is not about perfection, but this is about being thorough and really giving yourself as many options as possible. Now, you may even have a refinement in that declaration that says, you know what? I declare that I’m having this baby naturally and If I decide somewhere during that 12 month period where I am focusing on getting and staying pregnant that I desire to get some additional support, meaning IVF, IUI, whatever it is, that you give yourself that leeway as well, because what this declaration is about, you’re essentially making a promise to you and this child that you’re coming after them, you’re, you’re coming for them.

Like the wild mama bear you are. You are coming to this from a place of having made a decision. You are not going to punk out. You’re not going to be this woman who doesn’t follow through with what she says. Like, how many lamos do we run into, you know, during our regular lives of people who say they’re going to do something and they don’t, or they ghost you, or they give you bullshit.

Excuses for why they’re not going to do something that they said they wanted to do right. It’s repulsive. It’s fairly disgusting. And so when you are making this declaration, you are not making that declaration from weakness and a lack of integrity. You are making the declaration from that place in your heart that knows that you have power within you and that you’re not fucking around and you’re not going to allow yourself to be one of those people.

Who does not keep their word, who does not do what they say they’re going to do, because it’s gross and you’re not living that way. And when it comes to your dreams on this journey, you expect nothing less. You are going to be the woman who follows through. You’re going to be the woman that keeps her word.

And you are going to be the woman of integrity. Okay, you’re not going to ghost yourself. All right. So write your declaration. That’s step one. Step two, get laser focused on your reasons to believe in the dream. Now, in the second part of your MDP, I want you to get sure as shit about your reasons to believe in this dream.

Why do you believe in this dream? What are your individual reasons? I’m not repeating this because I have nothing else to say. I’m underscoring your need to know your Reasons. It doesn’t matter what the hell anyone else thinks, does, or says about your dream. What are your motivating factors? What do you put one foot in front of the other every fucking day on this journey for?

Right? Why do you do that? Why do you get up and do the things you do to help you conceive? If you don’t know your why, or your why is not compelling enough to you, you won’t do the shit that needs to be done. It has to be uniquely you and a reflection of the truth you have bottled up inside you. Not doing this step is why many women on this journey will quit.

They will flat out quit. and go self righteously quote unquote child free in forums acting as if there was no other choice. Nah, there were plenty of other choices. Your ass just gave up, and you’re looking for excuses to cover up the stink. Yeah, I said it. And I said it loud enough for the fucking back row.

Because here’s the deal. When you’ve helped a 52 year old woman beat the odds on her fucking terms, you see shit that only proves the fact that your life is your responsibility, and your dreams are your responsibility. No excuse will change those facts. This is why your why is so critical. It’s so you don’t set yourself up for regret by giving up on your ass.

Write that shit in bold. And I’m so fucking worth it, better be on your list of whys. It better be somewhere on that list. So, first step, you’ve got to make your declaration. Second step, you want to be very clear about your why. Okay, in this second part. So, if you were dividing this up into paragraphs or like, however you want to do this.

First, you know, or even if you were going to divide it into sections, first section is your declaration, second section is why, okay, like, just, hey, I’m making this declaration, here’s why, and then the third and final step in your MDP is right down the action you’re going to take because you have to take right action.

What action will you take based on this MDP? Parts 1 and 2 don’t mean shit if you won’t do shit. How the fuck will you get off the sidelines if you don’t? I know that there will unquestionably be some that hear me say that and go, Well, what the fuck are you talking about, Roseanne? I’m working my ass off.

How can you say I’m on the sidelines? Well, here’s a newsflash. We all hold back somewhere, doll. The question is, are you aware of it? Where is the new edge that you can find on this journey? What is the thing that you’re putting off? What’s the thing that scares you, okay? Where you, like, let’s say for example, you know, You, you’ve been wanting to work on your mindset more seriously than just passively listening to this podcast, okay?

And maybe you’ve downloaded a worksheet or two, but you know in your soul there’s more. Okay, then maybe what you might do is apply to be considered for my programs. Okay, apply and make the decision that if you’re offered a spot that you’re going to fucking do it because you know, maybe you’ve been listening to this podcast for a year or so and just kind of lurking in the background and you’re like, you know, fuck it.

I’ve tried this shit on my own. Now it’s time for me to do something different. Okay, and that’s one example. Maybe another example is you’ve been trying naturally. For a year now, and shit’s not quite exactly what, you know, it hasn’t worked out and maybe it’s time for you to maybe consider an IUI or maybe get an evaluation from a nutritionist.

You know, what’s the next step? What’s the thing that you’ve been putting off? Okay? Because you can’t keep doing the same old shit expecting a different result. How many times have you heard women say that on this podcast? But if you just go back to doing what you’ve always done, you’re going to get the same old result, baby girl.

And, and that’s not what you want for yourself. Okay? So where is the new edge that you can find? Where’s a place where you can take bolder steps? You know, give yourself this opportunity. You know, is it, is it time for you to have a conversation with your partner where you come clean about what you actually want instead of playing the nice girl and not speaking truth?

Where are you holding back? You know, I talk to women all the time, and you know, there are women out there that are just not receiving. They just won’t let themselves receive. And so, when their partner offers to do something, or when something shifts the balance, where their partner may need to take on more responsibility to help allow them to do something, they’ll shrink back.

Right, you know, maybe your partner says, Hey, you know what? I can cook a few meals during the week or whatever, and then all of a sudden you feel guilty and shame for, for opening up to receive that you feel like you’re putting your partner out, you know, fuck that. It’s just another excuse. That may be something being more clear with your partner about how they can support you or maybe you want to do something and you want their support because it’s a little bit of a leap for you where you are holding back is is likely where you’re going to find a very rich place to pick your next right action from.

So I want you to pick the next furtherance of this Mother’s Day promise your MDP stand in your truth. And take some fucking right action that won’t just have you inch toward the goal, but might have you leap miles ahead today. Okay? So there you are, mama in the making. Those are the three components of your MDP.

Instead of watching others enjoy this day, leap in with both feet and celebrate what you are creating in your life. It’s true that your path to being a mom may be a little different than that of others, but who the fuck cares? You are different. Everyone is different in some way. Instead of making this day miserable, make it fucking memorable.

Make it the day that you took full fucking responsibility for where you’re headed. Titanium ovaries out. No apologies. And certainly no sad sack shit on Mother’s Day. You celebrate today. And every day that you have on this journey, because this is happening for you. When you are done with your NDP, read that shit out loud for the next six days as you prep for Mother’s Day.

And on Mother’s Day, you will read that shit out loud. Three times in a row at full volume of your voice as you dance and rock it out Feel the words move your body and let god universe source know you are making a declaration Let your vibration rise to meet this feeling when you speak your truth There is resonance in your body that you cannot deny let it rise mama.

And when you do this You just reclaimed Mother’s Day the fearless way. Mazel tov, my loves. Enjoy this Mother’s Day in a whole new way. And if you want a gold star, make a reel on Instagram with your declaration and tag me in it. You want more of this? The smartest thing that you can possibly do when you aren’t getting the results you want on this journey from your treatments, diets, lotions, and potions is to get help with your mindset.

Your success on this journey starts there. Be part of the magic that women from around the world are bringing to each one of their cycles by being part of my signature live coaching program. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women that are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. We got the receipts, baby. And if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

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