EP221 “Buts” Blocking Baby: Let’s Unf*ck That

There are few words more destructive to our dreams than: BUT. The way you use that word on your fertility journey is either working FOR you OR against you. There is no in between. Learn how to use it wisely AND stop allowing it to be the reason YOU block your baby. This is gonna be a good one!

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 221. Butts blocking your baby? Let’s unfuck that. My darling woman, I have a serious question to ask you this week. Is your butt getting in the way of your baby? Heh heh heh heh. I know. And I was Setting this whole thing up, I was giggling to myself as I was prepping for this episode thinking about that old hip hop song by legendary LL Cool J, Big Ol Butt.

Tina’s got a big ol butt. Yes, I know, I am totally dating myself, but I don’t give a shit. Because if I have to make you laugh in order to get your attention to look at your big ol butt, I will. Except, in our context here, we aren’t talking about your booty, baby. We are, well, in fact, talking about your baby and the butts you make about that baby.

Think about all the times that you say or even think, yeah, but, I mean, think about it. Think about how often when someone tells you about some woman in her fifties getting pregnant or how so and so is doing another round of IVF. Someone is moving on to donor eggs or someone is deciding to start her family in her mid forties.

Think about all the yeah, buts that your saboteurs throw your way. Yeah, but it’s as effortless as it is destructive. It’s like yeah, but pops into our head almost compulsively. Think about all the sad sack stories you have to believe at some level. In order to even entertain that pile of garbage, yeah, but Right?

And, and let’s run through a few of them because they’re important. Uh, think about this. Yeah, but she’s rich. She has time. Yeah, but she’s using a donor egg. Yeah, but she just got lucky. She had some more supportive partner. She isn’t as fucked up as I am. Yeah, but she, she’s going into debt. She’s getting bamboozled by her doctors.

Yeah, but she could end up empty handed. You know, I fucking hate this one because. Here’s what you have to know. Not doing shit is a guarantee of leaving empty handed. Not taking the leap is how you will virtually guarantee that you will leave this journey empty handed. It’s the women in the fucking ring with the guts to take risks that win.

Anyway, here’s some more yeah buts. Yeah, but she’s five years younger than me. She probably has more eggs than me. Her AMH isn’t as low as mine. Yeah, but she’s probably healthier. Her job is less stressful. Yeah, but people think we’re, we’re crazy if we do that. Yeah, but my partner won’t approve. Or, yeah, but who spends that kind of money?

That can’t possibly work for me. Or, yeah, but Roseanne, you don’t know my story. It’s so complicated. Nah, babe. You are the one that’s making your story complicated. Your story is simple. You are a woman. On a mission to have a baby and it’s fucking awesome. Now with all of these, yeah, butts, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

So what are your big old butts? Let’s hash them out because here’s what you need to know. They are absolutely 100 percent zero question undermining your efforts right fucking now. I bet you heard a few pop into your head while I was sharing that list of mediocre bullshit yeah buts. So, with that, I’m going to encourage you to bust out the worksheet that my team put together for this week’s episode.

It’s the Butts That Block Worksheet. The link to it is in the email that announced this episode. If you happen to be one of those intelligent women out there that get my emails every week. Or maybe you’re just listening through one of the podcast platforms, well here’s what you gotta know. The link to get your Butts That Block worksheet is in the show notes.

So if you haven’t done so already, download that shit right now so you can follow along. The only way that you’re ever truly gonna get something out of a podcast is by not just listening passively. You’ve gotta get active, you’ve gotta take some action, okay? This is why my team and I put so much effort into not only producing quality content for you, but giving you tools every fucking week for free that can help you get there.

Okay, so download your butts that block worksheet. And let’s start with step one. So in step one, I want you to list your top five. Yeah, butts feel what it feels like to say those things out loud. Okay. That’s the other piece in this first step. What are your five biggest? Yeah, but yeah, but it’s too late for me.

Yeah, but I tried that. Yeah, but people are luckier than I am or yeah, but I’m 46, you know, whatever the fucking. Hey, if you’re in your mid 40s and you’re using your age as a yeah, but make sure you listen to last week’s episode with the amazing frickin Carolyn. Okay, pregnant naturally at 45 after IVF failed and she did it within 12 months of doing my fearlessly fertile method program.

I mean, like, let’s just put the age. Yeah, but in the yeah, but incinerator for good. Let’s not even give that shit any more credence. Alright, it’s a piece of information. It’s not a fucking verdict. List your top five yeah buts. Now, the second piece that I was beginning to speak about was, feel what it feels like in your body to say those things out loud.

Yeah, but she must be rich. Yeah, but I tried that. Yeah, but my partner won’t let me. Yeah, but people will think we’re crazy. Think about how that feels in your body. Really feel it from the neck down, because those yeah buts are creating a feeling in you. What those yeah buts are about other people have what I don’t.

It is the stench of victimhood. That’s really what our yeah buts are saying. And our yeah buts are ultimately saying, yeah, but that won’t work for me. That couldn’t possibly work for me. Okay, it’s about making ourselves other. It’s about making ourselves Less than, you know, very rarely, if ever do we use yeah, buts in our favor.

Okay, that takes some training that takes some conscious thought. All right, and most of us, we just go into into just some sort of autopilot of negativity. So list your top five. Yeah, buts and then feel what it feels like to say those things out loud. And I mean, really feel it from the neck down now. Step two.

I want you to ask yourself, follow along on the page. Follow along on the worksheet. What happens if you let these five yabuts continue to control your decision making? Yeah, but that won’t work for me. Yeah, but I’m in my mid 40s. Yeah, but eating carnivore or eating vegan, whatever, wherever you land on that spectrum, that’s hard.

Yeah, but it’s hard. I mean, what is allowing your yabuts to control your decision making going to create in your life? No judgment. Just answer the question because only you will be able to do that. Right? And only you know deep down what the consequence is going to be. So, answer the question. What happens if you let these five yabuts control your decision making?

And then step three, I want you to pick one yeah, but that, you know, you have to unfuck immediately. This is really, really important because a lot of people get these ideas. You know, they’ll listen to a podcast and all making a list of 75 things you’re going to do. And then, like, you get overwhelmed by the 75 and you don’t do a goddamn one of them.

Okay, that is a recipe for disaster that is an absolute killer to your trust in yourself, your trust in this journey. I mean, have some fucking integrity, all right, pick one that you’re going to unfuck immediately and get after it. Really get after it. Okay. And look, we all have big old butts. Okay. Even if your name ain’t Tina.

All right. We all have big old butts. The difference is that there will be those that don’t let their butt get in the way. They make a decision that their butts will no longer control their lives. And I say this with love, compassion, and I’m kicking that big old butt of yours so you can get your shit together and get down to the business.

Of having this baby want my help with your big old disastrous butts. The smartest thing you can do when you are not getting the results you want on this journey from your treatments, diets, lotions, potions, and anything else you’re doing is to get help with your mindset sister. Your success on this journey starts there.

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So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. We’re getting close to the middle of the year, mama. You got to get your shit together. If you’re not getting the result you want, it’s time that we talked because I work with women who are committed to success. They’re more committed to their success than their fucking fear and excuses.

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Well, my ladies and our horses are fucking phenomenal, like. I don’t know. Miracle mamas. But you get what I’m saying. Because, look, if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results.

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