EP227 Are You Overcomplicating Your Journey?

As lovably Type A, professional, go-getting, big hearted women with a tendency toward list-making and perfectionism, is it possible you are OVERCOMPLICATING things? Find out in this juicy, perhaps long overdue episode. Can’t say Mama doesn’t love you.

Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 227. Are you overcomplicating your journey? Hey, my loves, in this super bite sized, just get to the point because I love you and it’s a holiday week episode, I want to zero in on something really important, and it’s probably a question that you haven’t been asked in a really long time, and it was kind of given away in the title, but I’m gonna ask it here now anyway.

Are you overcomplicating your journey? Now, I know for all of my lovably type A, control freaky, do extraordinary shit with a tendency of list making imperfectionism ladies, The idea of over complicating anything is probably like, What, Roseanne? What the fuck are you talking about? I don’t over complicate things.

I just like things done right. Right? So I’m asking this question with love. Because one of the things that I see women do all of the time, which is a really, it’s insidiously powerful. It’s an insidiously powerful tool that our saboteurs use. And that is overcomplicating shit, right? So I want you to ask this week, you know, it’s, it’s a 4th of July holiday this week, maybe you’ve taken the week off, maybe you’re traveling, maybe you’re listening to this shit at an airport or As you and your partner are driving off to some beautiful vacation house or whatever it is that you’re doing to celebrate America’s independence from tyranny.

Although some may say that we’re in a tyranny now, but I digress. But I want you to ask yourself, are you overcomplicating your journey? And I like to look at this in the many different facets our journey can have. You know, our journey isn’t just, you know, trying to get pregnant. Our journey is comprised of, as I said, multiple facets.

It includes our relationship with ourselves, our relationship with our partner. Our relationship with our bump squad, which includes our treatment team, our coaches, our nutritionists, our acupuncturist, all that stuff. Then it also includes other people, right? You know, people on the periphery, our friends, family.

You know, other people that you’re, you know, calling in to help you on this journey, like, where are you overcomplicating shit, you know, and it’s interesting because the way that we sabotage with overcomplication is it gets us into a place where. Instead of taking the kind of bold action that can make a difference on this journey, it has us sit and spin in garbage, agonizing over details that don’t fucking matter.

Okay? In the end, these details don’t matter. What actually matters is getting to the bottom line of what you want. So where on your journey are you over complicating shit? And so You can start looking at this from the perspective of what really sucks on my journey, right? Like, what feels hard, right? Like, let’s zero in on just one thing because it’s, it’s relatively simple.

Sometimes we overcomplicate the question of our diet, okay? And I’m a foodie, fucking love food. I’m also a carnivore, basically. And so that has changed some of the approach that I have to food, but I am a food lover nonetheless, but switching to carnivore, like you could make that like fucking miserable.

You can like, Oh, I can’t do this. I can’t do that. No. That’s just overcomplicating it, make the decision and it’s just the way that I eat now, right? Instead of begging and pleading with people around us to make accommodations, just like, Hey, this is what I do. I just eat meat now. Okay? So, what is it for you?

Like, how are you currently overcomplicating your diet? Right? Are you, like, taking 72 fucking supplements? Maybe you need them, but, like, chances are, like, when you’re getting into numbers like that, and I have met people like that, you’re probably making it way too fucking complicated. Right? Eat clean. Okay?

And look, I’m not giving you nutrition advice. I, I stay in my own lane. I’m just talking about my own experience here. You might have some uber complicated insanity that makes you feel really special to have. When you break it down, it’s probably uber complicated. Okay, I’m just gonna love you enough to say that.

Like, I know that people have food allergies and shit, but like, come on, just don’t eat the bread, okay? Don’t eat the bread, don’t eat the dairy, whatever the fuck. Make it simple, and move on, right? And the same idea can show up in our relationships on this journey. Are you overcomplicating your own fucking relationship as you’re living this journey, right?

Y you know, we create this kabuki theater in our heads about what our partner’s doing, or why they’re not doing enough, or whatever, like, o just get out of the overcomplication and tell them what you want. Okay, I want you to show up with me at this appointment. Okay, I want you to move some things around in your schedule because I’m ready to do this, right?

Instead of coming up with some fucking Byzantine Shakespearean play about what needs to happen before you have that conversation, just fucking tell them, okay? What are you overcomplicating on this journey? You know, maybe you’re ready to move on to donor eggs, but you’ve created this like insane sort of drama in your head about what that means.

But what if it is as simple as I am receiving a gift from a beautiful woman that is so loving and open enough to give me her eggs. Right? What if it’s just that fucking simple? Right? What if we got out of overcomplication and stepped our asses right into it’s simple? I’m gonna be a mom. I’m willing to do whatever the fuck it takes to get there.

Okay? Simple. Like, we do the same shit about money. Okay? It is so mind blowing how we will go completely apeshit, numb, confused, all of this stuff over money when money on this journey is simple. You need more? Go fucking make more. Okay? It’s just that simple. Quit overcomplicating things, okay? You need to go take out a loan, then go fucking take out a loan!

The only people creating complications on this journey are us, right? Nobody’s holding a gun to your head in your fertility doctor’s office telling you that you have to do it, it’s their way or the highway. There is a door, you can fucking leave. And what’s interesting is there are thousands of those doctors around the world.

If you don’t like what one is saying to you, you will find somebody else that’s going to think out of the box, that’s going to love you enough to try again. That’s going to guide you in another direction that is more in alignment with what you value. Quit over complicating shit, okay? I say this with love.

Because one of the things that I have learned over just about nine years of doing this work now, by the time this episode comes out, it’s about nine years that I’ve been doing this work. Like, I can’t begin to tell you how many women sabotage their success on this journey by over fucking complicating shit.

Stop it. Okay? Stop that shit. It’s not getting you anywhere. In fact, it’s making you crazy. I say that with love. And it’s going to drive the people closest to you away. And you don’t want that. And look, it’s also going to impact your resilience on this journey. Your ability to keep going on this journey is 100 percent connected to the way you think about it.

If you make this journey a fucking nightmare, if you Look at it from a victim perspective. You tell yourself constantly it’s never gonna happen for you. Frankly, it won’t. And that comes down to the influence those thoughts are having on your actions. If you don’t believe that this is actually possible for you, like, to your core, you won’t do the shit that it takes to be successful.

People tend to think, oh, this thoughts thing, it’s all about magical thinking. No, it’s fucking not! What it’s about Is, are those thoughts fueling your success or are they fueling your failure? How are you currently overcomplicating your journey? Let’s jump right into that because I’ve asked you the question, are you overcomplicating your journey?

Probably for 97 percent of you listening to this right now, my loves, I love you guys so much. You’re going to be answering yes, okay? There’s going to be the lovable freak shows out there. Are they going to be like, Oh no, not overcomplicating shit. And that could swing both ways, right? That could end up meaning that you’re actually like doing great, or that could be you’re so deep in denial and so lacking in self awareness that you’ll tell yourself that.

I’m praying for all of you, 100 percent of you. But take this with the love that it’s given, okay? So the team has created this really cool worksheet. As usual, we got your back, boo, okay? Download the worksheet. It’s in the show notes or it’s in the email that we sent out announcing this episode. So, it is your how I overcomplicate my journey worksheet.

Okay, so, step one. Fess up. If you are completely honest, are you overcomplicating your journey? Okay, based on what I have shared here in this episode. And it’s a simple yes or no. Do not overcomplicate your answer to the very first fucking question on this worksheet. Okay? You are either over complicating shit or you’re not.

Yes or no. Second, I want you to identify where you over complicate it. Okay, where I over complicate most. Just pick one area. Okay, not 15 or 5, alright? Just what’s one area. Where you overcomplicate most. Don’t overcomplicate what I mean by most, okay? Just where are you currently overcomplicating most, right?

Simple, alright? Then third, why is now the time that you get help with this? Okay? Cause here’s the thing, this is why I see women spin over and fucking over again. They are clearly overcomplicating shit. They’re not thinking in a linear way. Fear is driving the decision making and when fear gets involved, you are fucked.

This is also why having somebody like me come into your life. Because, as you’ve heard so many women on the podcast talk about, it’s like, I will present something, and they’re like, Oh, I would have never thought of it that way. And it’s not because these women are stupid. You’ve heard them, okay? Their qualifications are through the fucking roof.

These are wise, fucking smart women who are slaying it in their lives and in their professions, alright? But sometimes we get caught up. In our over complicating nonsense that we can’t even see straight. All right? And, and I say that with so much love and compassion. Don’t beat yourself up. Just do something about it, right?

So why is now the time to get help with this? And everyone’s answer is going to be different. You can’t get an A plus on this, right? Like, just come up with your answer. Why is now the time to get help with this so you can stop doing this shit? Okay? And, look, when you are done with this, just look this over and, and really think about how different your life on this journey could be if you stopped that shit, stopped overcomplicating your journey, and allowed this baby to come to you.

Drop the drama, drop the judgment, drop the overcomplication, and focused on the simple fact that this desire in your heart to be a mom. It’s there because it was meant for you. Can’t say mama doesn’t love ya. And shit, if you’re tired of getting the same old results doing the same old shit, it’s time to get into my signature 8 week program.

Stop overcomplicating shit and do what women all over the world are doing to think, believe, and take action like women who succeed on this journey. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes! To covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for my signature eight week program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. And if you don’t have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you’ve got to keep it all in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.