EP234 The Dumbest Thing You Can Do When It Comes to Mindset

In this episode I break down the dumbest thing you can possibly do when it comes to mindset on this journey. It may surprise you! AND I am sharing how to be SMART about it. Can’t say Mama didn’t warn you.

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Hey Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 234. The dumbest thing you can do when it comes to mindset on your fertility journey. Hey loves. Ooh, this is part three of this wonderful, easy breezy. super impactful, kind of sort of funny, maybe a little bit triggering, which is actually kind of awesome series that we’re doing, taking you through the summer and giving you bite sized nuggets of awesome in order to keep the work that you’re doing on yourself to support your fertility success going.

In manageable pieces that’ll keep you thinking even when you’re trying to zone out, which is kind of another way that we self sabotage on this journey. But anyway, this episode is where we are truly breaking down the fucking dumbest thing you can possibly do when it comes to mindset. And I see women do it a lot.

Like. And it’s interesting because it’s super well intentioned and it seems kind of like, oh, that sounds like a good idea. And then they do it and then they find themselves trying to claw their way out of the shit pit. Okay. So we’re really going to be breaking this down. And before we get started, I wanted to remind you, get your applications in to be part of my signature eight week program.

The Fearlessly Fertile Method. It’s kind of the one that women all over the world are talking about and are helping women from ages 28 to 52 beat single digit off. If you’re serious about success on your fertility journey, you’re not looking at your mindset, gape and hole in your strategy, sister. Don’t do that to yourself.

IVF and all these interventions that you’re doing are super expensive. You want to go in it halfway or do you want to do it? Knowing that you covered your bases, what goes on between your ears is like your own personal insurance policy for kicking massive ass when it comes to success on this journey.

So get your applications in. You can go to the link that we’re going to be including in the show notes to get your application in. My team will consider it. Reach out. So, that being said, what’s the dumbest thing you could possibly do when it comes to mindset on this journey? Quite simply, stop. Quite simply, the dumbest thing that you can do when it comes to success and your mindset on this journey is stop working on it.

Okay? Your mindset is not a destination. It, like this journey, is a journey. And the crazy thing is that our subconscious programming is so deep that it’s, you know, women will get to a point where, Oh, you know, I’m starting to feel really good. Your mindset doesn’t mean shit when you’re feeling good. Your mindset is truly tested.

When you hit a bump in the road, okay? Like, I see women do this. They’re like, getting on this trajectory, really doing it and feeling great, and then they stop. They’re like, oh, I got it. I got it. And I, after so many years of doing this work, I’m like, just not because I’m wishing bad on them. Of course not.

But when you’ve been doing this work long enough, you understand the pattern. You understand how sneaky self sabotage is because it’ll get you lulled into a place where, hey, I’m feeling really great. And then just when you least expect it, boom, boom, the sabotage comes in and you’re knocked flat on your ass.

Then you tell yourself, oh, this mindset shit, it just, that mindset shit just doesn’t work. Look at me, I’m in a puddle on the floor, curled up in a ball. Okay, and here’s the deal, babe. That’s why you never stop. You never stop. You have to make a conscious decision every single day, that mindset, and you deciding ahead of time who you’re gonna be, and constantly feeding your brain the kind of nourishment, the kind of information.

The kind of challenges, they’re going to keep the saw sharp for you. There are no days off when it comes to mindset. I mean, look at the books behind me! Like, I am constantly reading something. I am making sure that I crowd out the garbage that can creep in. And I’m not afraid to say it. I’m a fucking master at what I do.

Just ask my ladies. Okay? But it’s also the results that I create in my own life that stand for that proposition. Because I don’t give the fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, all of the garbage that used to dominate my thinking and my life, I don’t give it a single nanometer. Why? Because, as we discussed in last week’s episode, just like saying no gets easier, allowing your negativity, fear, doubt, and all the sabotage bullshit, letting that in gets easier and easier.

And then the next thing you know, it’s just steam rolling right over your ass, pushing all of your dreams away. Then you find yourself in your mid 50s with full of regret. I know last week is in 60s But I actually think that sometimes the regret can creep in way sooner and then it really hurts It really hurts when you’re 75 looking back on what you could have done if you don’t want to be in that place You cannot afford to give your subconscious mind that negative subconscious mind, not the good subconscious shit that you’re actively cultivating, but that negative predisposition to everything’s falling apart.

The more you give that leverage, the more power it has over you. You cannot let a single day go by without you working on your mindset, filling that beautiful brain of yours with, hell yes. Instead of the hell maybe that leaves you mediocre and wishy washy. Okay, you just can’t do it. You don’t give it an inch.

And the funny thing is, as my ladies have heard me say this before, I meet with my mentor every fucking day. 365 days per year. Okay, you want to know how a working mom Running a multiple seven figure business can manage to do all the things that she does It’s because i’m making a fucking decision every single morning about who i’m going to be because of the women The millions of women I intend to serve in my lifetime Okay, when you have a big goal and hey, even if that’s not something that you’re interested in your individual goals are part of your purpose in life.

If you’re truly trying to live your purpose, you never let off the gas. Don’t misinterpret this. As perfection. It’s not about perfection. It’s about integrity, because when we really look at this closely, the dumbest thing that you could do is stop the stopping is a lack of integrity. Okay, because like when you allow yourself to start slipping, as I said, it gets easier.

And then you’ll make more excuses and more justifications. Because here’s the thing, even if you have an off day, that doesn’t mean that you messed up. That doesn’t mean you didn’t keep your word. Because you know, even if you had an off day, you made the effort. To line things up, be your best, work on your mindset.

Maybe if you only read a paragraph of one of my books, one of somebody else’s books, or something that uplifts you and helps you work on your mindset, then your conscience is clean. There’s nothing wrong with having an off day. But when you have an off day and you do it with the integrity of making the effort, then you don’t fall into the pattern of beating yourself up because you know you showed up.

There’s no guarantee that everything’s going to work out exactly the way we want it to in our lives or on our journey. But here’s the thing, the thing that keeps us swinging the bat And the wisest thing, not the dumbest thing we can do is keep working that mind because man, mediocrity just slithers right in like a snake.

And before you realize it, it’s like a constrictor on your heart. You cannot afford to do that. So if you’re in a place where you’re like, Oh, I read a book and I felt great. And then 15 minutes after you’re done, something gets in your, gets stuck in your craw, and you find yourself sliding back down to hang out with your old friends, fear, negativity, and doubt, maybe a little bit of a visit from comparison, whatever the case may be for you, this is why on a daily basis, you have got to make the decision, and really, like, I’ll be straight up with you, this is one of the hardest questions Things that you may ever do is to consistently decide to be working on your mindset in one way or another every single day.

Because here’s the thing, when you don’t, you go back to sleep. You go back to sleep, it’s like, goodnight! Goodnight when it comes to having control over the fear, negativity, and doubt. We just go unconscious. We literally go unconscious, not asleep or passed out, but our brain goes back to what we know, we go back to our old patterns, we go back to our old ways of being, and then next thing you know, there’s another cycle that was wasted, another cycle where we showed up janky and expecting to fail, another cycle where we were fighting with our partner, going cheap, saying no when we really mean yes, and all that garbage.

Then another year’s gone by, and your results haven’t changed, and then you’re wondering why. That is why not consistently working on your mindset, or AKA stopping the work on your mindset, is the dumbest thing you can do. So here’s the smartest thing you could do, okay? We made this wonderful worksheet for you.

And it’s really an opportunity for you to write yourself a note and recommit to working on your mindset every single day. So you can go ahead and download it. We’ve attached it here in the show notes. There’s going to be a link. Click it. And it’s really a contract that you are making with you. To do something about your mindset, really do something, okay, that can include reaching out, getting your application in for my Fearlessly Fertile Method program, it’s kicking massive ass, it’s, it’s a program that women just frickin love, it could be that, it could be a number of things.

And we’re going to include on that worksheet a link for you to be able to submit your application for it. But you’ve got to make a contract with yourself that you’re going to stop neglecting your mindset. Because I promise you, the days that you neglect it, those are the days that you’re wondering, How the fuck did I get here?

Okay, those, and I want to stress something. You have to be working on your mindset even on the good days. Even on the good days. Nobody gets to coast. Not if you’re truly committed to success. Again, that’s not about perfection. It’s about a decision and it’s about integrity. And you’ve got to do both on this journey.

You’ve got to make a decision to be successful and have the guts to have the integrity to follow through. So go ahead, download your worksheet slash contract. You’ll be so glad you did. And here’s the deal. If you don’t, if you’re not getting the results that you truly want on this journey from all of your treatments, diets, lotions, potions, yoga poses, it’s time to look at your mindset.

Because your brain goes everywhere with you and it’s controlling everything on your journey. Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. You can’t get around it. It’s logical and it’s linear. My fearlessly fertile method programs for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months. And say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. My ladies are committed to success. So go to www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. And if you don’t have a mindset for success in this, you’re like, baby, you gotta keep it all in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Don’t do the dumb shit anymore. It’s time to be fearless, baby. Fearlessly fertile. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.

When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.