EP236 The Power of the Unf*ck and Unplug

This week I am walking you through a 7 day exercise that the most gangster of fertility gangsters will do. Yup, it’s that good…and long overdue. Even better, it might get fun.

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Hey Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 236, The Power of the Unfuck and Unplug. Hey loves, I’m so delighted to be here with you this week because I’m going to walk you through a seven day exercise that only the most gangster of fertility gangsters Will most likely do.

And they’re smart to do it. Which is why I’m giving you this invitation. Because look, I want you to experience more ease, joy, calm, confidence as you live this journey. Like, what’s the point, right? This idea that we have to make this journey hard, it has to be fucking miserable, we have to agree with everyone that says it’s the worst time in their lives and it’s the worst kind of pain.

Like, why do we have to agree with any of that shit? What if we just gave all of that garbage the finger and said we’re just going to do this differently? Which is why I am proposing this, uh, just potentially life changing exercise that you can do. And interestingly enough, by the time that you listen to this episode, I will be doing something quite similar myself.

Because, as my ladies hear me say all the time, I don’t ask anybody to do anything, well, at all, because, frankly, you don’t have to do a damn thing that I say at all, I mean, unless you seriously want to be successful on this journey. But I don’t encourage anybody to do things that I haven’t tried myself and know for a fact that it works.

This is why I’m not the kind of coach that just read this shit on the weekend and decided to start coaching. Like, it’s actual from the trenches shit. That can actually change your life and is actually coming from a really loving place of wanting better for you. But, you know, in the end, I can’t want it more than you.

Which is why I’m saying, like, if you’re super gangster and you’re super wanting to change some shit on your journey, you’re going to at least consider doing this seven day exercise that I’m going to be sharing here. So, what exactly is the unfuck and unplug? Well, I like to look at things, I, I’m a little bit of an extremist, I have to admit, when it comes to discipline and self discovery.

When I try something out, and I think it’s gonna support you, I’m gonna share it with you. But you gotta exercise some discipline, so that’s gonna be a critical part of what I’m gonna be walking you through. So, for the next seven days, between the hours That you finish your work, and you go to bed, you will devote that time to unfuck what’s going on in your head, and unplug from the outside world.

Now, I know you might be thinking, What? What? How does that actually work? I’m serious. So, this means that you will, from the time that you finish work, focus on unfucking what’s going on in your head, And you will unplug from the outside world between the hours you finish your work and you go to bed. Now, you may be thinking to yourself, Oh my god, does that mean that I’m not talking to my partner?

Yeah, kind of. And the reason for this is, Look, when we take the time, And I’m going to explain further what I mean by unfuck what’s going on in your head, and The unplug is a little bit more self explanatory, but I’ll go into that a little bit more. We rarely, rarely take the time to sit and do just for us and sit with the discomfort of all of the judgment that we place on ourselves for doing that.

And when you turn down the noise from the outside world and get out of the fear of what your partner’s going to think and all this other garbage. You can begin to step out of the chaos and confusion that we can find ourselves in on this journey. And really pull those layers away and say, you know, like, what is it that’s really going on for me?

What are the things that are getting in the way of me having what I want on this journey? What are the things that are getting in the way of me thinking? And believing the way that I want and frankly, receiving the love, the support, the attention, all of the things that you want. If you look at every single woman that has appeared on this podcast, she found a point of clarity.

And that’s what you gain with the unfuck and unplug. This isn’t about living some kind of monastic lifestyle and turning into a hermit. It’s about hearing the one fucking voice that matters. And that’s yours. It may look like this. Okay, the unfuck part is really taking the time to reflect. This is why I’m encouraging you to either have a worksheet or a journal, that for those seven days between the time that you finish your work, you are truly going deep and really noticing what’s going on and what’s happening for you.

Because, you know, there’s so much that goes on during the day. So many distractions, so many things competing for our attention. That when we’re really committed to doing the deep work that clearing the blocks between you and your baby requires, we just get lost in the mix and end up fuckin zoning out to Netflix or whatever subscription that we’ve got instead of paying attention.

To what’s going on inside of us because it’s literally shaping our experience on this journey and I also want you to notice like What’s coming up for you as you’re even hearing this that is a wonderful indicator of the state of your mindset And the, the hold that expectations from other people have on you right now, okay?

Because I can totally hear it right now. Oh my gosh, what do you mean? Like, between the time I get off of work at 6 o’clock and 10 o’clock when I go to bed, that time’s just for me? Or I’m not gonna be talking to my partner? I’m not saying that you have to be rude or that you’re gonna completely ignore your partner if you happen to be partnered.

You don’t have to do any of that, but what you can say is look for the next seven days like I’m doing something really interesting for me and This is how it’s gonna go. Like I’m just when I’m done with work I’m gonna you know, we could have dinner and chit chat, but you know what? I’m really gonna spend the rest of that time focusing on me journaling understanding what’s going on for me and completely unplugging From the outside world.

That means no text messages, no social media, no visits from friends. It’s just fascinating what happens when we do that and, like, giving ourselves a chance to not distract ourselves from what’s true and what’s really going on. And so, your partner may think this is silly or it may seem extreme, but here’s the thing, I think ignoring you and what’s going on for you and your needs, It’s more extreme than that.

I think it’s extreme in the opposite direction. It’s extreme in the direction of people pleasing, fear of losing love, fear of judgment, and putting others in front of you, which is a tired, martyrdom based mess, okay? You may end up finding things out during this exercise that will serve you for the rest of your life.

This is seven days. You can do anything for seven days, and all I’m talking about is the average of three to four hours between the time that you finish work and you go to bed. Now, some may want to modify this so that maybe dinner is kind of normal. Rock on with your bad self. Like if you are really that tied to that experience and dinner is super important for you and your partner, great, make that modification.

But once that dinner is done and you’re not dragging your feet trying to avoid what you’re going to find in, in the relative silence of sitting with a journal. And being with yourself and not numbing with Instagram. Come on. Come on. You got to see what’s happening. And when we do this, and we will begin to have the kind of clarity where we can unfuck what’s going on in our lives.

You know, you may find that there’s shit going on in your relationship that isn’t actually working for you because of your partner’s response to this relatively benign, but very deep exercise for you. Okay. You may find like, holy shit. I never thought somebody would get so weird about spending a little time.

Like all I’m doing is taking a few hours for the course of a week. Like what’s the big deal. Or you may find it has nothing to do with your partner and your partner’s like, fuck yeah, get her out of my hair for the next seven days. I’m going to send that Roseanne Austin a thank you note. That could happen too, right?

Or maybe you’re in a situation where you kind of know that you’re going to find some important shit and you avoid it, right? Avoidance is actually extremely telling. I like to ask my ladies a really powerful question and it’s, what are you avoiding, right? It really is indicative of where we are at with our mindset as well.

So, unfucking and unplugging is going to put you in touch with yourself at a level that maybe you haven’t had in a really long time, if ever, right? Here’s why this matters. We are making thousands of decisions every single day, whether we realize it or not. And what controls our decision making is the story that’s going on in the background.

And most of us, until we’ve done this kind of deep work, or the deep work that I do with the ladies that come through my signature program, or do my other programs, until you’ve done work like that, you are really open to self deception. Because oh, you know, you were telling yourself, oh, you know, I’m, you know, I’m tough, I can always do this, I’m fine, this is great, and then you find yourself repeating shitty patterns, self sabotage, destructive ideas, all kinds of stuff that will seriously diminish your effectiveness on this journey.

Can frankly create blocks or exacerbate the blocks that are already in place on your journey. If you’re serious about success, you have to get serious about unfucking and unplugging. Because there are so many different competing interests for your time and attention that really taking a moment, or actually seven days as I’ve described here.

To unplug from the distractions and get really clear on you and what’s going on for you can represent a turning point on your journey. We are a culture that has been lulled into numbing, distractions, attention spans the size of a gnat. And all kinds of stuff that keep us running from what’s true for us and connecting with a kind of internal resilience that resides in all of us.

And, you know, if you don’t take the time to really be with what’s true, you are going to have other people influencing you. And they’re not always a good thing about your choices, what you should do next. And all of this other stuff. And what’s tragic about this is that you know exactly what you want. You absolutely do.

I don’t believe anybody when they say, oh, I don’t know what I want. Yeah, you do. You’re just fucking judging it. And so you’re, you’re not even seeing it. But when we take the time to do what I’m describing here, so many awesome things begin to happen. Now, you do you, okay? You may take what I’m presenting here and be like, fuck that, I’m never gonna take seven days to myself and then have to explain to my partner what I’m doing or whatever.

And that’s totally fine. Maybe you will take a bit of this and it’ll serve you in some other way down the road. But if you are serious about succeeding on this journey, I strongly encourage you to consider doing this. We’re only talking about seven days here, ladies. Seven days. It’s seven days of consciously choosing to finally pay attention to the shit that actually matters.

And don’t for a second think you’ll get bored. You may be surprised at what you find. Right? Like, what if there’s something that you discover over the course of the seven days Where between your, let’s just say dinner and the time you go to bed, like, you’re not watching TV, you’re not talking to your partner, you’re not texting with some friend from high school that’s got nothing to add to the conversation, but you are sitting quietly with your journal, your thoughts, just being with you.

Think about what you’re gonna walk away with. Think of all that you stand to gain, even though there may be some initial pain because you’re like, what the hell am I gonna do for the next three or four hours? But ooh, girl, the shit you’re gonna find could change everything. And hey, you might get to the place where you’re like, oh my god, I had no idea this was all going on in my head.

Now I finally get what that crazy lady is saying. And you might find yourself saying, you know what, I am ready to go to the next level. And if you are, my Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results.

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