EP245 Not Expecting Like You Expected? How Smart Women Will Close Out 2023 + Prepare for Baby In 2024

With 2023 coming to a close in just about 8 weeks, it would be really easy to get SUPER DOWN about where you are at on this journey–if you aren’t pregnant. I’m going to show you a completely different way of looking at your fertility past–with an eye on your fertile future. If you are at all queasy and uneasy about your prospects for success, turn this one UP!

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 245. Not expecting like you expected how smart women will close out 2023 and prepare for baby in 2024. My love, I am so delighted to be here with you this week as usual. Well, not just because I have nothing else to say at the beginning of this podcast.

Because I’m, like, straight up, legit, excited to be here with you and talking about the shit that really matters on this journey. I mean, between the expert interviews that we have, testimonies from my amazing ladies talking about their triumph, and sharing the real, from the trenches real shit about how they overcame on this journey.

I mean, Is there anything more important than hearing that kind of stuff on this journey, as well as hearing real deal oatmeal strategies and ideas that are going to help you turn a corner on this journey, like how to think strategically. That’s what our work is all about in this podcast. This is why I jump out of bed super excited every single day, just thrilled to have the opportunity to share what I wish somebody told me, like, sooner on my journey.

But then again, you know, I don’t know. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. So, this is why I don’t have any regret about my journey, because, look, I had to go through what I went through in order to get where I wanted to go. And I honestly believe that the same is true for you, and it can be simpler, and it can be easier, which is why I deliver this information every single week, in whatever form it comes.

Experts. My ladies sharing their stories or us just wrapping a taste here in the way that we are. And I’m actually even a little bit more stoked this week because the invitations for my Fearlessly Fertile Expect to Expect in 2024 4 Day Challenge, they are out. They are out in the world and the women who are already on my mailing list got there.

So if you haven’t gotten your invitation, two things. One, check your spam because it’s probably in there and you just didn’t see it. And number two, if you are not currently on my mailing list, get your ass on it. Go download something for free off of my website or click the link to the worksheet that’s going to go with today’s episode.

It’s there in the show notes. Don’t overthink it. It’s super fucking easy. Just click that link. And that way you can get the worksheet that goes with today’s episode in addition to getting on the list so that we can send you an invite for the four day challenge because you absolutely positively do not want to miss this.

These four days that we’re going to be spending together in the Fearlessly Fertile Expect to Expect in 24 challenge, we are going to be going over shit. This is all brand new material, and this is the kind of shit that can help you turn a corner. This is not just four evenings of me filling your head with garbage.

Like, this is real shit that, you know, there are women currently in my programs now that came in through one of these four day challenges, and their lives are completely different a year later. Like, pregnant. Like, you hear me say it all the time, I only work with women who are committed to getting and staying pregnant within the next 12 months, and there’s a reason for that.

It’s because it’s totally possible for you, and when you get your mind on board, BAM! BAM! BAM! BAM! You can make the most incredible things happen in record time. And here’s what I mean by that. I have women come to me all the time, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years deep on their journey, spent all that time in fear, negativity, and doubt, they do my program, and BAM!

Within 12 months, they’re pregnant. So, within a very short time, they are absolutely able to turn their journey around. They spent less time getting to their baby once they got their mind right. Right? So, like, I’m not saying that, you know, it’s all about speed and you gotta get there fast. That’s not what I’m saying.

But when you get your mind on board, shit starts to turn around. And everyone’s timeline is different, but if you could spend more time In the peace, calm, and confidence that you really want on this journey. So in addition to trying to conceive, you can actually fucking live. Would that matter to you?

Would that be of value to you? I’m sure as shit, if you’re a sensible thinking person, the answer to that question is hell yes, right? So if you haven’t done so already, get your ass registered for Fearlessly Fertile Expect to Expect in 2024. This is my brand new four day challenge, and we start November 13th and go through November 16th.

So get your ass registered. That being said, let’s dive into today’s topic of how smart women will close out 2023 and prepare for their baby in 2024. Now, I want to just put this out there up front. Look, I know. I spent a lot, a lot of time on my journey in a really dark place thinking, oh shit, another year is going by.

You know, I’d get to this time of year and be in a place where all I could think about was, oh shit, the holidays are coming, this is another year. Right? Another year where everything that I was doing didn’t work. How did I get here? Okay? So I fully understand that. And I also, at the same time, because remember two things can be true at the same time, I am also very aware that the smarter move is not to be there.

Okay, the smarter move is going to be evaluating where you are based on what we’re going to be talking about today. Okay, so there are going to be three points that I’m going to raise, so make sure you’ve downloaded today’s worksheet because I’m going to be breaking down 0. 1, 0. 2, and 0. 3, and that’s going to help you really start to prepare For your baby in 2023, and it’s going to help you look at what’s happened this year in a, in a different way.

And we’re going to get into more of this in the four day challenge, so don’t worry. But if you really want to go deeper with this, be part of the four day challenge. It’s, it’s free and it’s really fucking smart. So the first point is Number one, you’ve got to be honest about what you are feeling with regard to where you are on the journey.

Okay, that’s the first point. You just gotta be honest. Now, if you listened to last week’s podcast, you heard me talking about the difference between empowerment and entitlement on this journey. And if you haven’t listened to that, make sure that you go back and listen to episode 244. It’s really important because this time of the year and in this game, on your way to your baby, it’s really easy to have the wind knocked out of your sails and say, you know what, I can’t believe that another year is going by and I am in no different position.

Now. I don’t believe that that is ever true, that you’re in the exact same position, because time has passed and unquestionably things have happened. So just saying that we know on its face is not true. There’s no way that anyone is in the exact same position, because nobody has ever lived today before.

This is the first time we’re living it, okay? But when you can be honest about what you’re feeling when it comes to where you’re at on your journey, you can really get a sense of what needs your attention next. Okay, because if you are honest in the answer to, you know, Hey, what am I feeling with regard to where I’m at on your journey?

It’s an incredibly powerful indicator, right? So let me give you an example. So, I would be on my journey, and there was, and this happened shortly before we conceived Asher, I remember thinking to myself, I am not going to live this way anymore, right? So in this context here, in relation to what I’m teaching you now, the honest truth about where I was feeling at that time was, I’m not going to keep doing, What I’ve always done.

I’m going to do something different. I’m going to be different. Right? So that feeling was a combination of frustration, but it was also, it was like frustration and commitment. Right? Two things can be true at the same time. You can be totally frustrated in the moment. But you are 100 percent committed to being a success.

So, just be honest. What do you honestly feel about where you’re at? Maybe you’re disappointed, maybe you’re sad, maybe you’re angry. But be careful about being in the negative shit for too long. Again, see episode 244 for more of an explanation on that. When you can be honest, Then you can really start to look at what happened in 2023 in a very different way, right?

You can, you can start to look at it more objectively and say, Okay, this is what has occurred. Okay, I feel sad, and this is why I feel sad, okay? And that’s great because you’re just getting it out. You’re not going to pretend like everything is fine, right? And, and there’s a reason for that, because if you’re just gonna pretend that oh, I’m not in pain, or you’re just gonna try to muscle through it, this is just the nature of the journey, I have to be in pain and miserable and all this other stuff, you gotta be really careful about that, because the pain sustained for too long, We’ll take you out of the game, okay?

Just a side note, but point number one, just be honest about what you’re feeling. Now, if you want to take this first point to the next level and get a gold star, you gotta ask yourself, what do I want to do about this? Okay, so let’s say you do this analysis and in point one you’re being honest about what you’re feeling and the truth is you’re really fucking disappointed.

Okay, it’s great to be aware of that, but gold star mamas are gonna say, Okay, I’m really fucking disappointed, so what do I want to do about that, right? Because the empowered woman on this journey, her eyes are forward, they are focused on what she wants. She understands that There are no free lunches on this journey.

That there are going to be things that you’re going to have to do, growth that is going to be needed, and you’re going to ask yourself, what do you want to do about this? And just write that down on the sheet, okay? Point one is be honest about what you’re feeling when it comes to where you’re at on this journey.

And then pose the gold star question of what do you want to do about it? Okay. Now the second point, when we’re looking at how smart women are going to close out 2023 and prepare for 2024 and calling in a baby in 2024, you have got to take a moment to understand that the timeline is all made up, okay?

You’ve listened to enough episodes of this podcast to hear women of all ages beating the odds. Beating less than 10 percent odds, some beating less than 1 percent odds, okay? You have to understand, if you’re gonna keep your head in the game, close out 2023 wisely, and prepare for your baby in 2024, you’ve gotta understand that the timeline is completely made up.

Nobody knows. When or how this baby is coming, okay? Your baby could be knocking on your door next month, right? Your baby could be knocking on your door in six months. Nobody has any control over that. But you have to take a moment to recognize something beyond the intellect, because intellectually, I understand probably much like I did on my own journey.

I understand that you know this intellectually that nobody can tell you when your baby’s coming, but emotionally you will process this completely differently, okay? This is what happens when women start to make the timeline. They worship at the altar of the timeline. They take the myth that getting pregnant over 40 is like so much harder, and it’s such a challenge, and it’s like, Is that actually true?

Is that information actually true? Right? If you listen to my interview that I did with Dr. Zahir Murhi, gosh, maybe about a month ago now, it’s on Instagram. If you’re following me on Instagram, RoseanneAustinFertility, scroll through my videos and you’ll see it. Okay? Statistics get manipulated all the fucking time.

You gotta ask yourself who paid for those statistics? Who paid for that study? Right? Probably people trying to sell you some drugs. All right? So, there are loads of women getting pregnant in their 40s, there are loads of women who are getting pregnant for the first time after years and years of trying, okay?

If you’re committed to having a baby, you’re gonna figure it out, all right? So, the second point is really critical, it’s just made up. And you’ve gotta, you’ve gotta bridge the gap between that belief system that says, okay, the timeline, that’s in control. No, you are in control. Smart women don’t live under the tyranny of a timeline, they understand that this desire for their child is fucking timeless, it’s on their heart, and they will get to that place.

Because look, I promise you, if you are in a place where all you’re focusing on is the timeline, and you are not honest about how you’re feeling, that’s like a tinderbox for your saboteurs. This is why I’m leading you down this path. Number one, be honest. That’s the first point about what you’re feeling about where you are.

And then know what you want to do about it. And then second, understand that the timeline is made up. Okay? It’s just made up. And just like at some point you had to let go of your belief in Santa and the Tooth Fairy and possibly the Easter Bunny, you also have to let go of this idea that it’s too late for you, you’re too old, if it was gonna happen, it would have happened by now.

All of that is driven by fear. Certainly, based on your circumstances, your approach may change, but that does not mean that you can’t have this, alright? The approach may be different, the approach may have to change, but none of that means that this baby is not coming unless you make it mean that, okay?

Now, the third point here is, you’ve got to be thinking about upping your game. Now, I know, you’re probably saying, what? What, Roseanne? I’m doing all this stuff. Again. This is why I put 2. 44 and 2. 45 next to each other, okay? Episode 2. 44 is really integral to understanding why I’m saying what I’m saying now.

Because smart women are going to close out 2023 differently than those who are going to wallow in what didn’t work out this year, okay? If you want to be prepared for a baby in 2024, You have to up your game now. Does that mean you have to work harder? No. Does that mean you have to do more things? No. But it does mean that you’re going to have to do things differently, and differently does not mean more or harder.

Frankly, differently, can be less work and less stress, okay? It’s all about changing the way that you think about these things. Again, look, if you haven’t done it already, make sure your ass is registered for Fearlessly Fertile Expect to Expect in 2024. It’s my free Four day challenge that I was talking about at the beginning of this recording.

I’m emphasizing this here because you cannot keep making the same choices and expecting a different result. I don’t know if Einstein actually said that. I don’t know if that’s another scenario where he’s getting misquoted. Let’s just run with that from, from the perspective of, look, you keep going to the familiar past and creating a predictable future if you’re living in the past.

Okay, it’s time to up your game, it’s time to do things differently. Now, I want you to think about this in In a really constructive way. So this is point three. Time to up the game. Okay? So I want you to think about, from where you stand today, as much whining as your saboteur may have going on in your head, I want you to think objectively.

What do you want to be different in 2024? What has to be different, really? Right? Because there’s a difference between, Oh yeah, I need to change that, And like, look motherfuckers, this is changing right now. Okay? Because this is what a lot of women do, is get into this idea, Okay, yeah, I know I have to change my mindset.

I’ll get there. And then not do anything about it. Not do anything truly active. Not get in front of the scenario and say, Fuck it. This is going to be different and it changes today. So, as you’re filling this worksheet out, I really want you to think about, What needs to be different? How am I specifically going to up my game?

And I’m encouraging you, I can’t say this enough, this does not mean working harder. This does not mean adding 75 more supplements to what is probably an already crowded, Kitchen counter or medicine cabinet, wherever you stash your crazy number of supplements. It may not mean doing seven hours of yoga and 42 hours a week of meditation.

It’s very rarely about doing more per se. It’s about doing things differently from a different perspective because your perspective is actively controlling your reality, okay? So, if you are trapped in a place where you’re not really honest about what you’re feeling, and you’re totally under the tyranny of a timeline, it’s time to up your game.

So what needs to be different? What do you choose? To make different. And what I mean by this, like, if you’re not getting what I’m putting down, what I’m really saying here, what is the do or die thing that needs to change? And if that’s you, stay tuned, okay? Because most of the time we’re willing to change our diet, we’re willing to change our Uh, exercise routine, we’re willing to, uh, eliminate all of the EMF in our house, and, and wear all kinds of good luck charms.

But we rarely look in the place where we must look, and that’s at us. Okay? So, your answer to point three has to be, if it’s, if it’s smart. It has to include you at some level, okay? And you thinking about things differently. You actively choosing to learn how to do things differently. Because, I’m gonna be straight with you, this is a fucking skill set, man.

It is a skill set. This is not a woo woo, read a blog post, listen to one podcast, and your life is changed, okay? Certainly a blog post and a podcast episode can get the ball rolling. But that’s not what actually makes the change, okay? So just take some time and go through those three points, be honest about what you’re feeling about where you’re at, and then identify what you want to do about it.

Number two, understand that the timeline is just fucking made up. And I know that one may be the hardest. I don’t know. I don’t know. I’m kind of torn between two and three. Uh, possibly even number one may be the hardest for some that are so shut down on this journey. But, do it. And then ask yourself, Where is it time for me to up my game?

Like, in what aspect of my journey do I truly need to up my game, and again, if you are not included in that equation, you’re missing the point, and I don’t want you to miss the point. So, these are the three things that Smart women are going to have top of mind to close out 2023 and to start preparing for a baby in 2024 because you can change your approach, you can change all of these things, you can start laying the groundwork now.

And, you know, if you go back and you look and you listen, look at, you know, if you want to watch it on YouTube or listen on the podcast here, like, these women made changes, these women that you have heard on the podcast, they were able to make changes quickly, okay, because they changed the way that they looked at themselves and this journey and they learned to think in a different way.

So that the amount of time from the time that they changed their mindset to the time that they got pregnant is so dramatically short compared to how many years they lived in misery. Okay, like it’s almost like they compress the timeline, right? It’s just insane what happens when you get your mind on board.

So, I really want you to play with these ideas here, take what I have shared, be active about it. Don’t tell yourself, oh, I’ll download that, uh, worksheet next week and then forget it, and then December 31st rolls around and ain’t nothin changed. Okay, and then you’re starting 2024 with nothin Nothin new.

Okay? So, and look, for those of you that are like, Hey, you know what? I’m ready to make some changes. My Fearlessly Fertile Method programs are for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.

I work with women that are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this and other programs, Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. We got the receipts, baby.

Just check out my Insta. And if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, I’m going to tell you straight up right now, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. If you want to be smart about 2024, you’re going to fix that shit and set yourself up for success. Till next time, change your mindset.

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.