EP246 The Challenge Is Your Chance

Most people don’t have the guts to tell you what I’m sharing this week. We tend to see challenges and “hard sh*t” on this journey as “bad.” What if that isn’t the case at all? I mean NOT AT ALL! Join me as I break down a truth about your fertility journey that–if you are serious about success–you need to hear.



Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast episode 246. The challenge is your chance. Hey, my loves. I’m so excited to be here with you this week because by the time this episode comes out, I will be starting night one of the Fearlessly Fertile Expect to Expect in 2024 4 Day Challenge.

And I’m just, I am so freaking stoked about this because this is some of the best work I have put out in the world. And it’s just so exciting to me. To really spend quality time with women from all over the world who are truly committed to creating incredible success for themselves over the course of the next 12 months.

And if you haven’t looked at your watch or checked your calendar lately, we are honestly within a handful of weeks to kissing 2023 goodbye. Like it’s in sniffing distance at this point because After this week, we get into Thanksgiving in a couple weeks here in the States, and it’s like boom. Next thing you know, we are preparing to ring in the new year.

So over the course of the coming weeks, I really want to begin to start preparing you for what you want to create in 2024. And look, if you’ve missed out On some of the programs that I’ve done earlier this year, you know, the doors to Fearlessly Fertile Full Throttle will be opening very, very soon. You do not want to miss it.

And, so, even if you missed out on the challenge, you’ve got to know that Full Throttle is opening up again, and it’s one of the most insanely good programs I have ever done. And this is your opportunity to start off 2024 right with a structure and just the kind of community and consistency and solid teaching that you’re going to need in order to make 2024 the year of your baby.

And so just be on the lookout for that. We’re in the midst of the challenge now. If, if you haven’t registered, I think we have closed registration by now, but in any event. Keep your ears peeled because some really exciting shit is going to be coming down the pike. So, when I was sitting down and really thinking about this preparation that I wanted to help you do over the coming weeks, the idea of the challenge is your chance.

Really came through loud and clear, and I want to break this down for you because one of the most tragic things that I see women do on this journey is like get so wrapped around the axle about the challenge of this journey from a negative perspective. Right. Oh, this is so hard. I mean, I just, oh my god.

I mean, some of this stuff, and I’m not really saying this from a place of judgment. I’m not in judgment about some of the things I hear. It’s just simply heartbreaking how we as women have been so conditioned to expect the worst. We think that allegedly bad things that happen in our lives are bad. We’re not at all encouraged to look for the reframe.

We’re not ever really encouraged to see, okay, what’s the lesson here? From a positive perspective, we’re told, oh, just be realistic. All of this negative shit that consistently and almost always veers negative. And then we wonder why we’re creating negative shit in our lives, okay? It’s because we have a negative orientation, right?

So I want to shake shit up with that whole idea right now, quite frankly. Okay, after nine plus years of coaching women to fertility success, and at the time of this recording, we’ve had 12 women get pregnant in the past two months, which is freaking crazy. All right, the idea that the challenge is your chance.

Is just life changing. Okay. So I’ve had the good fortune of seeing women beat insane odds. Okay. And one of the things that I see so consistently in all of them is it’s like a switch gets flipped where they understand. At some level that this challenge is happening for them. Now, this idea is not a new one.

If you’ve been listening to this podcast long enough, you’ve heard me say everything is happening for you, not to you. Which will certainly ruffle. Everybody’s internal victim’s feathers, right? Because it’s a hell of a lot easier and it’s a hell of a lot more warm and cozy to bask in our victimhood, right?

You probably have so many people around you that would fucking love it if you were a victim. Then you would join them in their mediocrity, right? Like everyone, oh, poor me, woe is me, right? I don’t have a lot of patience for that. Primarily because I see women overcome that every single day, sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways, but in any, by any measure, they’re overcoming it.

So when you understand that your victimhood is your choice, then you get to see a completely different way of living. And you open up the possibility for you to see that the challenge is your chance, okay? And here’s what I mean by that. The challenges that come into our life, especially within the context of the fertility journey, is our chance to be better.

It’s our chance to learn more about ourselves. It’s our chance to unfuck some shit in our relationships. It’s our chance to actually start living. In the way we say we want to live, the challenge is the chance. This challenge is being presented in your life to give you some real choices, right? Like, this journey was such an insane wake up call in my own life, and I know that every single woman that you have heard on this podcast, we’re 246 episodes deep, will agree.

That this journey, it was an invitation for them to grow on so many levels. I mean, the challenge is the chance. Say it with me. The challenge is the chance. The challenge is the chance. This is your chance, mama. This is your chance. Instead of seeing this journey as some kind of albatross, why not see it as your chance?

What if this was the pivot point? In your life, where all of the stuff that you’ve been tolerating up to this point, all of the garbage, all of the lame ass limiting beliefs, what if this was the chance you finally got free from all that nonsense? What if this is the chance that you finally unfucked generational curses and old family programming?

That has kept you tired, weak, victimized, and mediocre in one way or another. Now, you might be like, fuck you, Roseanne, I’m none of those things. But here’s the deal, we all have aspects of ourselves that are exactly those things, okay? Like, I’m telling you, I was so deep in victimhood when I was on my journey, that I really did need the slap that this journey gave me.

Like, you’ve heard me, like, be very, very open about how glad I am that Asher did not come when I called him initially. I was in such a lack and scarcity, victimized, small thinking, Oh, everything has to happen in this order or else it won’t happen, small minded, like, I, I just, wow. Okay? The challenge of this journey was my chance to become the woman that I always said.

That I would be and that’s no joke and that’s not just me, you know, I knew years ago I always wanted to write a book. I just had no fucking clue I’d be writing about fertility and I’d you know, have three published books and i’m working on a fourth right now Okay, I had no idea This is why you have got to see mama.

Like if you have any any Commitment whatsoever to being successful, the idea that the challenge is your chance, that’s going to change your fucking life, okay? Instead of seeing the challenge as some terrible thing, just imagine how different, you’re a day in the life. You know, on this journey would be if you’re like, oh, okay, this challenge is my chance to learn more at this challenge is my chance to be more patient with me.

This challenge is my chance to finally speak my mind and stop being a lame o, people pleaser, penny pincher, whatever saboteur has got its boot on your neck right now. Like, some, like, I don’t know what it is. Like, over the past couple weeks, like, I’ve come across some real doozies. And I’m sharing this shit with love, because you will hear people, and I’m not speaking about, like, the exact context in which this happened, but just suffice it to say I’ve come across some doozies, but You come across people every single day who make wild claims about what they want, what they’re willing to do to get it.

But when given the opportunity to change things and do something different, you will see people act like total and complete maniacs, okay? Like once you, you put their feet to the fire. And then they’re backing up and making excuses and stuttering and all kinds of crazy shit, and I see this like in a lot of, this isn’t, you know, well, my ladies don’t act like that, but I see this in sometimes in aspects of my work, again, not with my ladies, um, but I see this in aspects of my work and then out in my work.

Personal life where it’s like you hold people accountable for what they say they want and then they just like bounce like they just become a completely different person freak out and then go immediately running back to their self sabotage pattern. And, like, act like that’s normal, act like that’s the safe thing to do, act like that is the honorable thing to do, that’s the sensible thing to do.

And at that point, people just can’t hear you. Okay? Like, they’re just so sold on their own small, limited, disgusting victim story that they just can’t be helped. Right? And I don’t want that to be you. I am going to love you enough in this moment to be very direct as usual. The challenge is your chance.

Any challenge that comes up on this journey is your chance to be different, is your chance to be better, is your chance to deepen your faith, is your chance to be a better partner, is your chance to fucking break away from your garbage, lack, and scarcity. It is your chance to start asking for what you want.

It is your chance to finally stop being invisible in your life. The challenge is the chance. Now, I know that this may seem a little impatient of me, but you know what? When it comes to creating the life that you want and having the baby that you say you want, you better be a little fucking impatient, particularly when the thing that’s blocking you is you.

Think about that. It’s not your doctor, it’s not your acupuncturist, it’s not your coach, it’s not your nutritionist. Nobody is standing in the way of your success but you. Ah, I know I’m rattling some chains with that. But it’s true! You can change doctors, change acupuncturists, try to find another co I mean, like, look, you can change all that shit, but you are the common denominator.

And if you are bringing the stink of victimhood, lack in scarcity, penny pinching, uh, you know, all this garbage, you are going to pollute anything that you’re doing if you do not see that the challenge is your chance. And you know, women ask me all the time, Roseanne, how are your clients so insanely successful?

I hear week after week, women beating less than 1 percent odds. Women who are like half dead for part of their journey and like doing all kinds of stuff. Like. Beating insane odds. Well, here’s the truth. They did the fucking work. They did the fucking work. They were not expecting handouts, freebies, bullshit.

Every single day, they got up on their journey, even when they didn’t want to, they put their big girl pants on. And got shit done, okay? They learned to think in a different way. They were expanding their connection to their feminine, their faith. They, they had consistency. They had structure. They were getting help.

They were open. They were having dangerous conversations. And when I say dangerous, I mean good. Open conversations with their partners. They weren’t acting like high school girls. And, and doing dumb shit on their journey instead of realizing, Hey, I’m at the center of this. I need to be different. Okay, because when you change, I mean, I heard this once said and I absolutely love it.

Most people are looking to An external solution for an internal problem. Let me say that again. Most people are looking for an external solution for an internal problem. And every single one of the beautiful women. That you have heard and will hear on this podcast got smart and they started to take care of the problem internally with them so that all of the external things they were doing with diet treatment, all of this amazing.

Like, related shit that they could come to it whole, okay? They were smart. I mean, you have heard women on this podcast talk about the years of suffering, okay? And then they do one of my programs, they start applying what I teach. And then, like, they collapsed time and space, in a sense, because they spent more time in suffering than they did post my program trying to get pregnant.

It was like, they went from 5 years of suffering to, like, within 12 months, they finally have what they want. Okay, that’s just one example. So, this is the power of understanding the challenge is your chance. And instead of seeing this as a criticism, see it as your fucking chance, see it as a fucking wake up call.

You can create whatever the fuck you want in 2024. The only person that’s gonna fuck with that is you, and what you tolerate, what you accept, and the crumbs that you will scrounge for. Instead of acting like the grown ass daughter of something higher and demanding The whole fucking cake, okay? That is your birthright.

I come from the perspective that, I mean, you hear me say it all the time, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. I’m not saying that because it’s cute, it’s because I actually believe it, and if you choose to believe it too, you can create insane things in your life.

The challenge is your chance, baby. So, along with this podcast, we have created a worksheet, okay? And that worksheet is 100 percent designed to help you start to see how the challenge is your chance. So, if you want to take what I’ve shared here to the next level. Download the journal page, and I want you to write exactly how this challenge, your fertility journey, coming into your life, is your chance to finally be, do, have, and give what you say you’ve wanted to all your life.

This is your chance. To write out how this challenge is making you better and not from some kind of like, Oh, I’m just going to do this and not care about it. Like I want you to dig deep, smart women, especially if you have not gotten the success that you wanted this year, listen up. This is your chance to change the trajectory of your journey.

Okay. And I look, I understand this is just a starting point. This is why I offer the programs that I do. As I said, Full Throttle will be opening up. My signature 8 week program is open for those that are truly ready to step into the next level. Like, this is the time. So, my loves, okay? Do the assignment.

Check out the worksheet. You’ll be glad you did. And remember, the challenge is your chance. And look, if it’s time that you got better results on this journey and you’re tired of hearing all of these women and their amazing successes and not being one, my Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body so you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with fucking regret.

I work with women who are actually committed to success. More committed to their success than their frickin excuses. So, to apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com, and apply for an interview there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. We got the receipts, baby. And if you don’t have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.