EP255 Serious About Success Question #3

Question #3 in this 3-part series takes us out of the theoretical in to the practical. If you’ve answered questions 1 and 2, your answer to question 3 will be the difference between success and failure. If you are serious about having this baby, turn this episode up.

 

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Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 255. Series about success, question three. Well, my loves, we have made it to part three in this three part series. On serious about success questions, right? These are the kinds of questions that when you are serious about success, you have to ask, okay?

Because there’s no pussy footing around real success. People who achieve insane success and beat the odds on this journey had to be willing to ask real questions and face real shit. And that isn’t always pretty, it’s not always fun, and it almost always requires growth. And there are no shortcuts on this journey.

There really aren’t. And how do we know that? We know that because not every IVF cycle works. Not every IUI cycle works and certainly not every natural cycle works, right? It doesn’t matter what our very well designed plans say. Life does not always cooperate with us, but we have an opportunity in any given situation to be in a position to redirect, right?

To get ourselves back on the path to success. Because, you know, people get this all twisted. They think that success is everything working out. Well, nah. That very rarely happens. Your success is going to be found in your ability to fucking adapt and to handle and manage and navigate and lead through circumstances that are not exactly ideal, okay?

So that’s where real People who are serious about success go right when you look at some of the greats and I always like to go to sports to look because you know, it’s one of the most tangible places to go. So look, whether you like Kobe Bryant or not, like that mofo was getting up at all kinds of odd hours going in there, thousands of three pointers, you know, working out, getting a sweat on before any of the rest of the team were there.

Same with Michael Jordan. Steph Curry. I mean, these are just some incredible examples. I mean, we see this, you know, with Navy SEALs. We see this in, you know, with women who are really kicking massive ass in business and, you know, the signs of this are everywhere. So why would this not have some application to the fertility journey?

And I get like, Hey, you know, basketball business, you know, all these other things, Seal training. I mean, like that. It has nothing to do with having a baby. I get that. That’s obvious, but it’s the tenacity that we share and, you know, calling in a life, man, that’s, that’s the realm of the miraculous is as awesome as a three pointer is as not on the same plane as happen to baby.

But there are certain things that we can take from that and really apply. And We are kind of in our own playoffs of a sort, right? Like we’re kind of, you know, when it comes to this desire in your heart to be a mom, it’s, it’s like your version of the playoffs because this is where it counts this period of time.

Like, I’m all for women having babies whenever the hell they want. I don’t give a shit if it’s in your 50s, and beyond. There was a woman, I think a Nigerian woman, that a couple of my ladies shared the news article with me about, where she had a, she had twins at 70. Hey, rock on with your bad self. Like, I love that woman, because She wasn’t going to live by the confines of what other people think is acceptable.

And I know that there were some jackals out there talking about how selfish she is for having babies when she’s 70, she’s going to die soon. It’s like, how do you know she’s going to die soon? What if her plan is to live well into 100? She got 30 years to raise those kids. So what the fuck are you talking about, right?

I mean, it’s funny how people love to smear their limitations. All over people that are slaying it in their lives and being unapologetic of having an incredible quality of life and doing things on their terms. So all of that to say, you know, this is the whole point of the series about success question series is really helping you get into a place where you’re asking the hard questions.

Perhaps unnerving questions so that you can use the answers to those questions to your advantage as you move through 2024. Okay, in episode one, we talked about how bad you want it. How bad do you want this baby? Question number two was, Hey, where are you selling yourself short? Okay. Where do you quit?

Right. Where’s your stopping strategy. And I walked you through a bunch of different examples of how that might look. We also now are going to talk about what are you going to do to stop it? What are you going to do to stop selling yourself short so that you can be successful on this journey? It’s a super simple, but again.

Very important question, because you could listen to every one of these podcasts, you can try to do all the exercises that I put out in the world, but if you don’t actually do and apply any of this, how are you going to get to where you want to go? So this is serious. What are you going to do to stop sabotaging Yourself.

How are you specifically going to stop selling yourself? Short, and I want you to take a minute with that there are going, you know, they’re depending on what you’re wrestling with in your own life and on your own journey. This is why we’re doing what we’re doing here is to kind of poke and prod and get you, you and your energy moving and really think about like, what do I want to do about this?

Because once you’re aware of how bad you want it, this baby. And once you’re aware of how you sell yourself short, Well, none of that information’s gonna fucking matter if you’re not gonna do anything about it. It’s a huge, I mean, like, it’s funny, like, sometimes I hear women say, Well, I know all that. Well, that’s great that you know it, but what the fuck are you doing about it?

Right? The change in our lives, the change for the better, like, when I watch women go from Lack, scarcity, fear, negativity, doubt, all of that stuff, and they, they move through it, they, they learn how to think in an entirely different way and start applying it to their journey. When they take those lessons and they start applying them in their lives, then you see this incredible shift.

In the way that they’re living, the way that they’re showing up, the way that they’re making decisions, the quality of those decisions, and then it’s like boom, boom, boom, right? You hear me say all the time, you know, I work with women that are committed to getting and staying pregnant in the next 12 months.

Well, I don’t say that. Because it’s cute. I’m saying that because when a woman has made a decision that that is her intention, the universe lines up to help you with that, okay? And you just show up differently when you’re like, Motherfuckers, I have a deadline. But it’s not like the scary deadline that we give ourselves about turning 40, 45, 50.

I mean, that’s all, like, fear based. If you notice when I talk about, you know, I’m committed to working with women that want to get and stay pregnant in the next 12 months, this is all from a very loving and positive prospective way of looking at your life. It’s not, Oh shit, I got to hurry up and get pregnant before I’m 40.

That’s bullshit. That is. You doing things just to avoid pain as opposed to, Hey, you know what? I’ve got this goal and I’m going to do whatever the fuck it takes to get there, right? Two dramatically different ways of looking at the same situation. The energy is completely different. It’s not even a subtle difference.

It’s a massive difference. So as you’re thinking about all this. What will you do to stop selling yourself short? Put another way, what will you do to end the stopping sabotage strategy that you have got going on? Now, a word to the wise. I know that most people will make New Year’s resolutions and fucking not keep them.

I think that most people, I mean, I, I think the statistics are different every year, but I think most people are pretty much done with their New Year’s resolutions within three weeks, okay? Maybe you have some gangsters that’ll drag it out to six, but most people by the middle of March, the Ides of March, Nah, nah, nah, they’re done with that New Year’s resolution.

So, when you’re dealing with something as important as you getting and staying pregnant, you cannot treat this with the same half assed shit that you might treat some frickin New Year’s resolution. This is your life, and if you are not putting every fiber of your being behind being better, doing better, I mean, there’s gotta be a reason that you’re listening to this podcast other than listening to me bark at you every week.

You’ve got an objective, right? You’re here for a reason. Women don’t do my programs just to do them. They do them because they want better. They want to be better, and they are fucking better. They wouldn’t create the kind of results that we see day in and day out if they weren’t. So you’ve got to do something different, okay?

So the whole point of this rant is to get you to think about what that’s going to be. And these are questions that we simply can’t ask enough. Right? Because it’s so easy, like your subconscious mind, your low vibrational sabotage pattern is always trying to drag you back. This is why listening to a few podcasts, maybe a few blog posts, you know, go into a few webinars.

I mean, like you’re never going to change that way. That’s stuff for people that are just dabbling, right? You’ve got to get in with both feet. If you want to make a lasting and sustainable change, right, you can’t keep selling yourself short, never committing to anything because you’re fucking afraid. If you can’t commit to doing the kinds of things that are going to help you have a baby, what the fuck are you doing?

Like, seriously, this is serious about success. You know, that’s what we’re talking about here, right? We are bringing this three part series to a close, and it’s all about being serious about success. So when you’re serious about success, you’re gonna ask these questions, as I said, and most importantly, you’re gonna, you’re gonna come up with exactly how you’re gonna stop doing that shit.

And just so you know, like, You need to understand that this is extraordinarily difficult to do on your own. And we love to claim that we do shit DIY. Like, look at my, like, janky bathroom, like, that we did DIY from Home Depot on the weekend, right? That shit never looks right. And we all know it. But when it comes to something as important as your baby, there’s going to be a limit to what you can do DIY.

I don’t do most of the things that I do in the world DIY. I just learned, right, that it’s a waste of everybody’s time. Like, if I’m trying to learn something, or my team and I have a big goal, we’re not DIYing that shit. We’re gonna call in whoever we need to call in that knows better than we do to help us get it done.

And that’s the thing. That’s what happens when you’re serious about success. Is you’re not going to fuck around with this DIY crap that’s going to take you 10 times longer and in the end probably cost you 10 times more because of what you are going to have to do and redo as a result of not knowing what to do.

Listen to that a few times. Like it’s super important. So if you’re in a place at the end of this serious about success. Question series. And you’re saying, you know what? I do want this baby, bad. And number two I, you know what? I know where I, I think I know where I’m selling myself short. And number three, I actually want to do something about that this year.

I’m not going to let another year go by. I’m not going to get to another December 31st and look back and know. That I cut corners, then I would invite you to apply for my fearlessly fertile method program. This is my signature eight week program. This is the program that has all these women in the fertility world talking.

But as I have said in the past two episodes, and because of my commitment to helping a hundred thousand women have a hundred thousand plus babies, this is only for women that are serious about success. Any woman that has been through my programs knows that I give 110 percent to everything that I do.

And I’m only going to be giving that because of this massive goal that I have. I’m not fucking around. So if you are serious about getting and staying pregnant in the next 12 months, go to my website www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and submit an application there. This program is for women that are ready to roll up their sleeves and get down to the business of clearing their blocks between them and their baby.

Because if you just take a look at what we have created with women all over the world over the past few years, this is beyond some kind of coincidence. It’s a fucking phenomenon. Time to start flying with the eagles instead of clucking with the chickens, baby. If you don’t have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying, hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.