EP33: Fertility Success Principle #3

Find yourself overwhelmed by choices on this journey? Struggling with second-guessing? Feeling downright indecisive? In this Fertility Success Principles episode, you will learn the principle that will give you the winning edge on this journey—so you aren’t stuck wishing and hoping. Learn how to apply this game-changing principle to your journey TODAY. Share a link to this episode with someone you love!

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 33. Fertility Success Principle number three. Love, welcome back for another week of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast awesomeness. I am super digging chatting with you about fertility success principles.

So digging it that I’ve got another one for you this week. I know last week I said that you get to put these principles in whichever order you wish. And, I have to admit, what I’m sharing with you this week actually deserves to be at the top of the list. When we get into it, you’ll see why. Even though it’s the third principle I’m presenting, I strongly encourage you to consider putting it in the number one position in your life.

Just sayin Fertility success principle number three is decision. The ability to make a fuckin decision without hemming, hawing, stalling, and shirking. You might be saying to yourself, Come on, Roseanne, what the hell are you talking about? I make decisions all day, I got this shit down, none of what you’re saying even applies to me.

Now before you hit the stop button, what I would say in response is slow your roll sister and keep listening. Chances are, the decisions you are making all day are ones you’ve made many times before and are well within the neat and tidy confines of your comfort zone. They are probably also having to do with things that are not specifically relating to your personal wants, desires, and needs.

When it comes to your personal wants and needs, that’s a completely different ball game. It’s easy to make decisions all day at work because the calculus that goes into them are what’s right for your company, etc. That shit is fairly simple to justify and we don’t have to get super vulnerable about those things.

The kind of decisions that we make on this journey are entirely different. This journey is about you and what you want in this life. It’s intensely personal, at times hard to articulate, and insanely intimate. The kind of process that we would go through in order to make a decision at work is completely different.

In that context, figures, statistics, what experts think, and what’s customary likely rules the day. But when it comes to having your miracle baby, Shit’s not that linear. Making decisions in the name of what you feel in your soul, this desire to be a mom will have you going out on limbs you might not have otherwise ever been called to go out on.

These decisions are about your heart. They don’t always make sense. fit into a pretty little box, or fall conveniently in line with other people’s expectations. Making decisions on this journey, particularly good ones that you won’t regret, requires you to be vulnerable and probably do shit that other people think is crazy!

That’s real decision making. That’s the kind of life changing decision making that I respectfully submit. You must be good at if you choose to position yourself for success on this journey. You’ve got to be willing to make decisions that will upend the apple cart in your life and have you saying bigger, bolder hell yeses than you’ve ever said before.

And that actually raises a point that my beautiful Kate raised in episode 30. In that episode, she was talking about making decisions like a little girl, like asking her higher power for this miracle baby like a little kid instead of the grown ass, educated, and accomplished woman she is. And that’s kind of what we do when it comes to ourselves, not only on this journey, but in other aspects of our life, when it’s really about us, we shrink back and we start shirking the responsibility for our own happiness and we quit making decisions.

That shit’s gotta stop. Taking a stand for what you want in the face of potential opposition from your partner, friends, family, and long faced quote unquote experts who don’t get your vision is gangster shit. It’s a characteristic of truly great people, men and women. Too many people cave at the slightest sign of friction, and it’s heartbreaking.

I was doing an interview Fearlessly Fertile Method program. And when I asked this particular candidate what was important for her and, and why she was so committed to covering her bases on this journey, particularly when it comes to mindset, she gave me an answer that blew me away. I said, you know, why is it important for you to be in this program?

Why do you want to be in this program? And she said, this is my life. That blew me away because when given the opportunity to be part of this program, she held nothing back. She had made significant investments in her journey, but she wasn’t going to stop. She refused to look back on her journey with regret.

Being a mom wasn’t a nice to have for her. It was a fucking non negotiable. I remember thinking to myself, this, this, it’s women like this, that have me leaping out of my bed in the morning to do my work. This woman made a fucking decision and I am gonna have her back. She could have made the typical bullshit stall tactic excuses like, I have to talk to my husband or I have to think about it.

But listen to what she said. This is my life. Can you even imagine what your life would be like if you started making decisions from that place? What if you really started to take your wants and desires more seriously than anything else? Like, what would that be like? Your time on this planet is limited and you feel it in your soul that being a mom is your calling.

What the fuck is there to think about? Go for it. You have to go for it and you have to be willing to make decisions. So often, we make these bold decisions that I’m talking about. We do that at work all the time. But we seldom make those same kind of bold, decisive decisions for ourselves. When it comes to us, we’re less bold.

We make excuses or we shirk decision making off onto our partner so we don’t have to really put ourselves out there. Risking the kind of vulnerability and exposure that comes with owning what’s in your heart. It’s brave shit. It’s the kind of shit that will separate you from the masses that are just wishing, hoping, and bitching.

Now, I’m not saying that you don’t consult people or get other people’s input, but my darling woman, in order to make decisions that you later feel good about that you do not regret, you must know your mind. People who really give a shit about you are going to want to know where you stand. They’re not going to treat you like a child or act like your parent.

So this is why your ability to make great decisions is going to absolutely hinge upon your ability to take a stand for what it is that you desire. And I know in partnerships, you know, you guys have conversations. I know I have conversations with my husband, but the reality is Is somebody that really has your back is going to want to support you in something that really matters to you.

Hence what I just said, they’re looking for it to you. They’re looking to you to be the leader. Do not shirk that responsibility. The other reality is that half the shit we tell ourselves will happen if we make bold decisions for ourselves isn’t even fucking true. I can’t tell you how many women say, Ah, my husband’s not gonna get it.

He doesn’t quite understand what I’m doing. Here’s what he will understand, my love. When you show up to your journey like a woman who knows her mind and knows her heart, and you start making bold and decisive decisions in furtherance of that which you want, he’s going to be so much more at ease. She’s going to be so much more at ease not having to sort through your mess.

Okay? Know your mind. Your partner loves you and wants to support you. So, take up the reins, baby. Take up the reins. You know, we tell ourselves if we do this or we do that, we can lose everything. Really? Lose everything? Come on. What do you stand to gain by making bold decisions, smart decisions for yourself?

Seriously, what the fuck are you doing on this journey if you are not willing to put your heart and soul in it? This is your fucking baby. You can’t use the kind of math you would use when you’re buying a frickin car. Or any other consumer thing that most of us do and we just completely forget about.

This is your life. If you’re going to make bold decisions about anything, make them with regard to shit that actually matters. The kind of shit you will be looking back on in the last moments of your life. Get good at making decisions, love, the kind of decisions that when you look back on your life and you think, did I really go for it?

You can answer, fuck yeah, I did. That’s exactly what my ladies can lean back and say. At the time of this recording, I’ve had seven women in less than a month reach out to share their miracle pregnancies. All of them got pregnant in less than a year after applying the method I teach. Each of them made a fucking decision to take a stand for being a mom.

They didn’t let age, number of past failures, or naysayings stand in their way. They went from no baby to baby after years of trying. The same is true for the women that I featured on this podcast. Every one of them demonstrates the power you have when you make a decision firmly based on what’s in your heart.

Just look at how that paid off. This is the power of decision. As the great Napoleon Hill says, The man of decision cannot be stopped. The man of indecision cannot be started. Take your own choice. So, love, here’s an exercise to take your decision making, an incredible success principle on this journey, to the next level.

One, be honest with yourself about decision making when it comes to you and what you want on this journey. Are you shirking the responsibility off onto your bump squad? Are you hiding behind what you claim your partner is going to think without fully informing them and taking a stand for your desires?

Are you giving up on yourself in favor of the inanimate object of statistics? Seriously, think about how you make decisions. Two, make a decision about how you will make decisions from here on out. How do you want to answer the question, did I really go for it on this journey? Did I show up or did I punk out?

You have to live with the answer. Your peace and happiness in this life is your responsibility. So you may as well give it your all, baby. No one else is going to do it for you. Woman, the best insurance policy you have for success on this journey are your thoughts and beliefs. What you think and believe will dictate your choices, actions, and therefore your results.

It’s logical, linear, and true. If your head is not in the game, baby, and your mind is not trained for success, You’re just gambling. Women who beat the odds on this journey are not playing games. They show up to it mind and body. They think like women who succeed, so they can be the woman who succeeded. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program will teach you exactly how to do that.

This program is only for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months. To apply for your interview to be part of this revolutionary program, Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for a breakthrough session there. My methodology is how women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy, love. Let’s fix that shit. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.

When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.