EP37: Desperate Or Determined?

A critical aspect of your success on this journey is decided which one of these you will be. Learn why that is, what you can do about it, and why NOW is the time to decide.

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 37, Determined or Desperate.

Oh man, my loves, oh man, can you believe it? Okay, by the time you are listening to this recording, there will only be Approximately 51 days, and I guess depending on where you, where you are at in the world and where you’re listening to this, which is why I’m saying approximately, there are only 51 days left in 2019!

Can you believe that? Oh my goodness, it’s just amazing to me how fast 2019 has just flown by. And it’s really been an incredible year. Like, I’ve spent the past couple weeks really nose to the grindstone getting everything together for my audiobook, for my international number one best selling book on Amazon, Am I the Reason I’m Not Getting Pregnant?

The Fearlessly Fertile Method for Clearing the Blocks Between You and Your Baby. It’s just been insane. You know, I’ve been working super hard on that, working super hard on other projects we have going. 2020 looks like an incredibly insane year for us already, like, as I’m looking downrange at all the things that I have planned, not only for my Fearlessly Fertile Method program, but for my Fearlessly Fertile Method Mastery program, where, which is my elite coaching program that’s just going to be completely off the chain.

We’ve got retreats, plan, book signings. I mean, you know, at this point in the year, it’s super easy to give up, right? It’s super easy to give up and say, ah, there’s only 51 days, you know, and then you subtract the holidays, all that stuff. And it looks like we only have two hours left, right? Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.

It is never too late to dig in your heels and take control back on this journey. I don’t care what this year looked like for you. Okay, I don’t care if your year has been like a freaking dumpster fire and it seems like somebody is just raining down gasoline on top of it. It is never too late. Too late to pick yourself up dust yourself off and say fuck that shit.

I am getting back in the ring Okay, and so that’s why I wanted to share this week’s topic with you. I’m gonna keep it super short and sweet I have been hitting you ladies up with tons and tons of powerful content I’ve got interviews with experts, I’ve got a bumper crop of amazing women getting pregnant left and right, the women in my Fearlessly Fertile method program are killing it, ahas, lightning strikes, journey changing revelations, I mean, look, that’s why I’m saying to you, like, it’s never too late!

It’s never too late and you’ve got to get that through your head. I know that the saboteurs are constantly telling you, you know, I’ve tried so many times, it’s never going to happen for me. If it was going to happen, it would have happened by now and all of that boring shit. Okay, it’s boring. It’s boring and it’s lame and it’s, it’s for people who aren’t committed, okay?

And I would expect that at some level if you listen to this podcast and you already know I’m gonna give it to you straight I’m not here to coddle you. I’m here to love you enough to give you this whole shit straight It’s never too late. Get your ass up off the ground and get back in the ring, baby.

You’ve got one life to live, alright? And that’s why I’m talking about this week, Desperate or Determined? Which one are you gonna be, right? There are plenty of people out there that talk about being desperate for a baby, all this stuff, but you’ve gotta understand, there is a very important distinction on this journey between being determined And desperate.

Now, even hearing me say that, I bet you can get the energetic difference, right? And, and I’m not talking about woo woo energy, although there’s part of that, but think about it. Think about the connotation. What is the connotation? Difference between determined and desperate. Just bring an image to your mind of a woman who’s determined, right?

It’s a kind of woman that’s like, Hey, I’m fucking crossing that finish line. I don’t care if I’m moonwalking, doing a cartwheel, somersault, or like, I don’t know, you know, putting myself in a can and shooting myself over there. Like, I am doing it. I am crossing that finish line. I am saying my hell yes. I’m not leaving this earth without my baby.

Right? That is determined. You’ve heard a lot of determined women on this podcast. Now, think about the other option. Desperate. You know, that’s when I hear people say, I’m desperate for a baby. It’s like, wait a second. Is that really the way you want to be? Determined is in your power. Determined knows what she wants, and she’s going for it.

Desperate is all over the place, can’t think straight, not in her power, subordinating herself to statistics, other people’s opinions, not wanting to ruffle any feathers. That’s desperate. That is fear based. That is not you and your power. Make a decision. Okay? Make a decision about which one you’re gonna be.

Are you going to be determined on this journey and be able to roll with the punches, keep going, I’m determined, I’m getting there? Or are you going to be the one, I’m not so sure if this is going to happen for me, I’m just desperate, somebody please give me a baby? And because I give a shit about you, I’m going to strongly make the argument That if you’re serious about success on this journey, you better get in the determined camp.

Desperate is repulsive. You heard me talk about, you know, that cloying, disgusting energy that comes along with desperation. But I’m bringing this to your attention because we get these things confused on this journey. We get these things confused and you need clarity at this time in your life when you are going for it When you are really going for one of the most important things that will shape your time on this earth You cannot afford to not know where you’re going not at least have a vision That’s gonna keep you moving forward when you’re desperate.

You’re all over the place eyes are darting all over the place Don’t know which end is up can’t get your act together and you’re just letting fear and negativity, doubt, shame, and that whole clown car of bullshit knock you off your course. So choose wisely, my loves. Are you going to be determined? Are you going to be desperate?

And because, again, I love ya, your dreams, if you really care about making your dream come true, you’re going to get out of desperation. You’re going to start thinking, believing, and taking action like a woman who succeeds on this journey. All right. So make a decision. There’s a couple decisions here. One, decide what you’re going to do with the rest of this year.

Okay. Maybe spend some time relistening to some of the old podcasts. Get that that vision clear, get your energy up, get your hell. Yes. On listen to all of the, the constellation of success stories that have been so generously shared with you. Like you got to understand that every woman that’s been on this podcast, appeared on this podcast because she has love for you too.

She may not have met you, but she’s sharing her story because she wants to bring you up. She wants you to see that you can fucking do this too. You may not do it exactly how she did it, but you’re going to do it. Determined, not desperate. Okay? Are you going to keep doing what you’ve always done? Or are you going to do something different?

You know, there’s only a few spaces left for 2019 in my Fearlessly Fertile Method program. Eight weeks, baby. Eight weeks to start thinking, believing, and taking action like a woman who succeeds. It’ll rock your world. What the women that have been through this program already are creating is insane, okay?

Women who have been trying for years to get pregnant, getting pregnant, okay? Like, it’s just incredible what happens when a woman who is very clear about what she wants, she decides she is determined, not desperate, and shows up like that. So, ask yourself, how am I going to use the rest of this year? And am I going to be determined or desperate?

My love, you can turn on a dime on this journey, okay? The whole reason why I shared what I’m up to, what’s planned for 2020, is because when you make the decision about who you’re gonna be on this journey, and what you want in this life, and you get on that shit, things start happening. It’s incredible, the lightning speed with which the resources, people, all kinds of blessings and just incredible things show up when you make that decision.

So do that. Okay? And if you want to be part of my Fearlessly Fertile Method program, you want to apply for a spot and have time to interview with me. Go ahead and do that. Go to www.FromMaybeToBaby.com. Apply for your breakthrough session there. Let’s get you going. Let’s set you up for incredible, insane success and quantum leaps in 2020.

Till next time, my loves. Change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.