EP41 Arguing FOR Your “Limitations?”

Are you blocking your fertility success by giving your perceived “limitations” way too much power? Learn why this is a HUGE problem, how to identify if you are making this mistake, and what it looks like to turn it around. Break this losing habit and change the trajectory of your fertility journey!

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly Fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 41, arguing for your limitations?

Hey my darlings, BAM! I am so jacked about being with you today for two very important reasons. First, last week I found out that yet another one of the women who started my Fearlessly Fertile Method program back in August is now pregnant. After repeated IVF failures and never getting a positive pregnancy test, less than two months after completing my program, boom, she’s pregnant.

When I think of her and the tenacity she showed to get to this place, It fucking blows my mind. I gotta tell ya, the texts and emails I get from my ladies makes my heart SING! What I get to watch women do on this journey is truly amazing. I literally get a front seat to watching women make their dreams come true.

It’s an honor, it’s a delight, and it’s positively fascinating to see the shift that occurs. In fact, helping you discover your fearlessness on this journey is why I’m here every week talking to you in the way I do. From where I sit, I see women taking steps every fucking day to beat the odds, and that’s exactly what they do.

This, my darling, is why I am so direct and why I speak so emphatically about this. This is why I refuse to coddle excuses and self pity. It is okay to feel those things, of course. And you don’t need me to tell you that, as a grown ass woman. You get to feel however you fucking want to feel. And, you’ve got to know that women like Catherine, whose story you got to hear last week, and all of the miracle moms you’ve heard on this podcast so far, don’t stay in that dark place.

Why? Because they figured out that that dark place is not where they’re going to find their babies. Boom. Yet again. Not sure about that? My love, I invite you to re listen to all of their brave stories. They are living proof of the efficacy of what I am teaching you here, and the power that you have locked up inside of you, if you do the work to unleash it.

Every single one of them created a path to success on this journey by making their mind work for them. Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. It’s logical, linear, and true. This leads to the second reason why I’m so excited to be with you this week. I’m going to share something most people don’t have the guts to call out, much less talk about on this journey.

When I realized I was doing this stupid shit, It stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to evaluate what the fuck I was doing to myself on this journey. And look, my commitment to you is to love you enough to call shit like I see it so that you too can stop blocking your success. So here goes. Stop arguing in favor of your limitations.

Stop arguing in favor of your limitations. And I say limitations in quotes. Because, actually, limitations are perceived limitations, they’re just information. Okay? Put another way, quit defending your diagnosis, your fear, your negativity, your doubt, and most importantly, your blasphemous playing small. Quit making your proverbial enemy’s job easy, my love!

It’s amazing to me to see how we do this hatchet job on our dreams and don’t even realize it. Throughout thousands of conversations I’ve had with women on this journey over the years, it never ceases to amaze me how strangely possessive we can get over our diagnosis. What our doctor says, our current circumstances, beliefs about money, time, and how many quote unquote chances we get, and what’s possible for us.

Those bits of information become law. They become the prison within which we live on this journey. They confine us and fit us with sad, twisted, heartbreaking blinders. Here’s what arguing in favor of your limitations might sound like. I can’t possibly do that. I have endometriosis. My chances of getting pregnant are slim to none because I’m over 40.

I don’t come from money. I can’t possibly invest in myself. People would think I’m crazy. My husband would say no. Okay, and that’s gonna bring on a screed. I feel a rant coming on. So you’ve heard me rant about this before, but I’m gonna rant about it again just in case you’re new to this podcast. Is your partner your fucking partner, or your parent?

The most loving thing you can do for your partner is to stand in your God given power, my love. Getting caught up in, Oh, my husband’s gonna say no, is fucking bullshit. They have enough decisions to make during the day. If you’re worried about being a burden, shirking the responsibility for decision making onto your partner, that is the burden.

How are they ever going to trust you if you don’t trust yourself to make decisions? Quit hiding and stand up for what you want. Screed on that subject over. Here’s another example of what arguing in favor of your limitations might sound like. We’ve been trying for five years. If it was going to happen, it would have happened by now.

Really Nostradamus? My doctor says that because my last three IVF cycles have failed, my only option is donor eggs. I’ve had three miscarriages. I will never carry to term. I’ve lost a tube to an ectopic pregnancy. It’s gonna take me forever to get pregnant, if ever. You get the picture, my loves. It’s parroting shit other people tell you and stories that might not even be true.

It’s literally investing your energy in your failure. Can you see why this is a problem? When you give 100 percent credence to your perceived Limitations, you fuel them. You pour gasoline on them and feed the arson they commit on your dreams. You feed the lies told by omission. Your diagnosis and your current state of circumstances, your fear, your doubt, your negativity, is only part of your experience.

It’s not all of you. It doesn’t have to define or confine you, fuck that. Remember what my hero Bernie Siegel said, and I’m just gonna paraphrase this as you know, not his exact words, but in his book, Love, Medicine, and Miracles, and even in the podcast interview he did with me, which I believe is episode number eight, he was talking about how the worst behaved patients are the best.

Because they’re the ones that are recalcitrant, they’re gonna be the ones that fight, they’re gonna say hell no to death. And he saw that day in and day out in his work helping cancer patients, and patients of all kinds. So, arguing for your limitations is just making excuses for not having what you want, my love.

So here’s a novel idea. Decide to be in agreement with your potential, not your fucking limitations. This is game changing. Because on a planet of 7 plus billion people, You bet your beautiful ass there is a woman out there right now, at this moment that has faced what you faced today on this journey and is now holding a baby.

Be in agreement with your potential, not your limitations. Here’s what being in agreement with your potential can sound like. Plenty of women with endometriosis go on to have healthy babies. I can too. Getting pregnant naturally over 40 is natural. In fact, at this moment, around the world, there are thousands of women over 40 in labor and delivery rooms giving birth.

As a grown woman with a job, I earn money, and I trust myself to make sound investments that feel good to me. The only permission I need is that which I give to myself. Amen. My partner supports me, and I support them. We are equals. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been trying, our baby will come right on time.

There are women who get pregnant naturally every fucking day despite years of treatment failure. I’m one of them. Plenty of women have repeated miscarriage and go on to carry full term healthy babies. Check out Helen in my book. Even with one tube, I could get pregnant next month. Truth bomb, baby. How different does it feel to hear statements that are in agreement With your potential.

Everyone has potential, my love. Everyone. The only question, the only question that matters, is will you take advantage of it? Imagine how different your journey would be if you lived it from a place of possibility, not limitation. What real opportunities, resources, and miracles could you open yourself up to?

It takes zero courage to wallow in self pity. Be the woman who has the guts to fucking stand up. Might you have to pivot along the way? You bet your ass. But course correction is the stuff of heroes. What’s 2020 gonna be about for you, love? Your potential, or your limitation. Only you will decide. If you are ready to think, believe, and take action like a woman who lives up to her full potential on this journey, I’m ready to show you how.

Isn’t it time you said fuck off to limitation and said hell yes to betting on you? Most precious you, my darling. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program will teach you exactly how to do this. This revolutionary program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

I work with women who know what they want and they execute. They don’t make excuses. If that’s you to apply for your interview, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for time with me there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Love. Let’s fix that shit and write mom all over your 2020. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.