EP47 Fertility Success Principle #5

Learn the principle that empowers women to KEEP moving steadily toward their fertility success, despite failure, disappointments, and the clock ticking ever so loudly. When a woman keeps her eye on “this,” there is no question she’s going to make her Mama-dreams come true. It’s all about the long game baby!

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 47, fertility success principle number five.

Hey mama, this week I got another fertility success principle for you. I just love these episodes because we get down to the nitty gritty about what truly distinguishes women who go the distance on this journey. Now, if there are any Namby Pamby participation prize everybody wins that’s not fair alarm bells going off in your head about the idea that there is something different about women who beat the odds, let’s take a moment to get some shit straight.

Different does not mean better. This isn’t a judgment about any woman’s worth or worthiness, nor is any of this an accusation. It’s simply priceless fucking awareness. Think about it. If you were coaching athletes, and you had insider information about what makes Tom Brady, Serena Williams, or Steph Curry so successful, wouldn’t you share it?

Wouldn’t you scream it from the rooftops and try to instill it in the hearts of those you serve? Knowing that just one nugget of information, or one turn of phrase, could be the aha moment that one of those people were longing for, which ultimately catapults them to success? And because you love your people and want them to get real results, smarter than you ever did, you wouldn’t waste their time by sugarcoating it either.

This, my darling, is why I come to you in the way that I do. Direct. I serve women that are more committed to bringing their dreams to fruition than their excuses, fear, victimhood, or bullshit. It’s just that simple. Coddling you or telling you that everything’s gonna be okay without giving you real shit from the trenches that is actually going to help you do what you need to do to be successful is a dis fucking service.

In sharing these principles, I’m offering you the chance to take an honest look at yourself and say, Hey, am I doing what successful women are doing? Or am I sabotaging my own success with the thoughts and beliefs I’m entertaining? It takes guts and commitment to the vision you have for your life and this journey to ask bravest fuck questions like this.

I get that this level of direct communication on this topic may rub some the wrong way, but frankly, life is too fucking short to beat around the bush. This is why women who are committed to success come to me. And look, I’m gonna tell you for the ten thousandth fucking time on this podcast, All of these things exist in you, but there’s a significant difference between knowing these things and leveraging this information.

You actually have to fucking do something with it, okay? So just keep that in mind. And I can be certain about this because I had to do this work myself! I had to work on myself, too, baby. I spent an embarrassing amount of time feeling sorry for myself and blaming others for how I felt, and it didn’t do a damn thing to put Asher in my arms.

I was looking for someone else to save me when the keys to the castle were in my hand. Believe it or not, there was a day, a very long time ago, when I would say stupid shit like, I’m too old, that’s too expensive, I can’t possibly spend that much. My husband would say no, I’ve failed too many times, my doctor doesn’t think it’ll work, people will think I’m crazy, and a host of other low vibe, short sighted, success stealing bullshit that got me nowhere.

What I know today is, you either love your vision enough to play to win, or you don’t. Is it easy? No! Does it hurt sometimes? Fuck yeah! But what I say to that is, welcome to motherhood. This is part of the deal. These realities are why the success principle I want to share with you today is the long game.

Women who beat the odds on this journey have their eye on the long game. Put another way, women who succeed on this journey are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked. They have the steady handed, steely eyed determination that keeps their eyes on the prize. Rather than succumbing to the skittish, shiny object syndrome on this journey, whenever a disappointment, or perceived setback, shows up.

They have the emotional maturity to understand that shit gets real, and that fact has nothing to do with their long term success. Their commitment to victory is not shaken by the skirmishes they find themselves in, here or there. You take any successful woman on this journey and you will see, she wasn’t doing the hokey pokey with motherhood.

You know that ridiculous song we used to sing in kindergarten? You put your right foot in, you put your right foot out, you put your right foot in, and you shake it all about. No. Hell no. No fucking way. For the woman who beats the odds, that song goes, You put your right foot in, you put your left foot in, and it ends there.

She keeps her feet firmly planted there. She’s all fucking in. She’s not leaving without her baby. She may not know when or how this baby is coming, but she’s in it for the long game. No hokey pokey here. She isn’t fickle. She understands that motherhood is a fucking calling. It’s something you feel in your soul.

The women I serve know that being a mom is part of their purpose on this planet. They have something powerful to contribute through becoming a mom. Motherhood is a lifelong commitment, and lifelong commitments require your long game vision. This deep and abiding conviction is what fuels these successful women to show up to this journey like a grown up.

It’s the difference between showing up to this journey like a grown ass woman ready to handle the responsibility of being a mom, not like some whiny kid who wants to just stop playing because they didn’t get their way a few times, or didn’t get what they wanted when they wanted it. This is exactly why I teach about this journey being preparation.

See episode 16 if you need a refresher. The long game is about making big, bold, strategic plays that will lead to your bottom line success. The long game is about seeing that this journey is a process, not some amateur hour weekend project. It’s not short sighted, small time bullshit that may make you feel good for a few minutes, but in the end, does nothing to move you closer to the goal.

This is also why I hammer on the subject of seeing your time and financial expenditures as investments on this journey. Investments are about having long term vision. Unlike a toddler who lacks the attention span for the long game, you must understand that the payoff isn’t always immediate, and you do it anyway.

When you play with a long game in mind, you don’t look at this journey, or at least you stop looking at this journey like some kind of a weird get rich quick scheme that everyone knows is bullshit. When you were focused on the long game, you cover your bases. You aren’t penny wise and pound foolish.

Depending on the data you review, the average couple invests a minimum of 60, 000 in IVF to get a positive result. When you’re playing the long game on this journey, you understand the power and the purpose of having your mind and body work together. To get the most out of that significant investment.

Why not do everything you can to support the success of that investment? Now is not the time to go cheat. The long game is about having the fortitude to see beyond present circumstances and make excellent choices for the long term. I encourage you to re listen to the episodes of this podcast that feature my ladies.

You will see and hear in each of them a commitment to the long game. You will notice each of them speaking in these terms, owning their hell yes, in spite of short term setbacks. And they will demonstrate why this fertility success principle is so vital to your success. So here’s an exercise, my darling, to make this real and apply this in your life.

Play the long game, baby. The first step is take an honest look at the way you are living your fertility journey today. Are you focused on the long game? Or are you letting short sighted bullshit and temporary setbacks fuck with your head? Key indicators that you are playing small ball here and are entertaining thoughts and beliefs that don’t support your success might sound like the following.

My pregnancy test was negative this month. I’m never gonna be a mom. Getting help is too expensive. Multiple rounds of IVF is for rich people. I’ve failed too many times already. I can’t possibly try again. Or, I’m too old. When you are playing the long game, you need to treat those thoughts like bad breath and run.

They will do nothing for you. Indicators that you are playing the long game would be entertaining thoughts such as these. I make investments in my future. We live in an abundant universe. I am always provided for. My hell yes is determined by how something can support my long term success, not the fucking price tag.

As a grown up, I figure shit out, and when I can’t, I get help. What’s in my heart is meant for me, and I will fucking do what it takes. I might be scared shitless right now, but I’m doing it anyway. Fuck it. The second step is to text this link to someone you know could benefit from hearing this podcast.

Take a screenshot of this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story, tagging me. Let’s get the word out, baby. And, if you are ready for your long game to include thinking, believing, and taking action like a smartest fuck woman who beats the odds, I got you, baby. Remember, thoughts, beliefs, actions, results.

Everything starts as a thought. Your mama making success begins with what is going on upstairs in that beautiful head of yours. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is revolutionary. It’s for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body.

I work with women who know what they want and execute, not make excuses. If that’s you, to apply for your interview, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for time with me there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results? Speak for themselves.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for making 2020 your best year ever. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.