EP52 What To Do When You Want To Give Up

On the road to your baby, there will be temptation around every corner to just give up: Negative test results, statistics, the side eye from your treatment team, or loss of faith in your Bump Squad. Here’s a rebel-woman’s pivot that  will put you back on the path to baby making victory!

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 52.

What to do when you want to give up. Hey loves, this week I want to present you with a simple but powerful idea. It’s one that is bound to get under your skin at some level, but that’s kind of what I’m here to do. There is no growth in pandering or placating. I love you enough to tell you what I wish someone told me in the darkest moments of my own journey.

It’s great to have someone tell you that it’s gonna be alright every now and then, who doesn’t love that? But if you’re anything like me, the real change makers in your life are gonna be those that hold a vision for you that is bigger than your current challenges. People who demand more of you, people who expect excellence from you, people who see what you can’t when you’re in the shit pit, people who refuse to tolerate your excuses.

Those people, they aren’t always going to be warm and fuzzy. I can also tell you for damn sure they aren’t concerned about whether or not you like them. They don’t have time to waste on that shit. What they do care about is showing up for you with integrity, to speak truth whether you like it or not, with a sincere desire to do right by you.

When I think back to each and every one of my mentors, they all embody these characteristics. There were times when I wanted to strangle them. There were times when I let my saboteurs convince me for a moment that they didn’t really care about me because of course when people care about you, they are always supposed to agree with your sad sack story, right?

Wrong. It’s these insights that I’ve gained over the years that form the basis for the real love I have in my heart for the people I brought into my life. As mentors and coaches, they helped me take the raw potential that existed in me and help me build something kind of beyond my wildest dreams.

Because when you think about it, what I do today and the global reach my work has, it’s way beyond the hallowed halls of the courthouse I thought I would probably retire in. This, my loves, is the power of having someone a few steps ahead of you in your corner. They can see what you can’t and they can help light the way.

As a woman who used to think that people who had coaches and mentors must be, you know, they must have huge problems and, you know, they must be like a hot mess. I can tell you that having coaches and mentors in my life helped me get to places that I never thought I would get to so much faster and, and in such a smarter way than I ever could on my own.

I realized that having coaches and mentors in my life was a way to give myself a strategic advantage. It’s about truly seizing opportunities and living up to the potential that you’re given in this life and ultimately doing what you’re called to do. Because let’s be honest, you believe in your soul that you were meant to be a mom, right?

So this is why the idea that I want to present to you this week is this. When you want to give up, That is the time to double down because that’s when you get the breakthrough when you want to give up Double down baby because that’s when you get the breakthrough This is the exact opposite of everything your lizard brain is going to tell you to do But let’s take a moment to understand why it can make all the difference in the world.

Giving up is easy. Giving up doesn’t require you to get out of your comfort zone, change your perspective, and grow. Giving up is basically just relaxing into the embrace of your saboteurs. It’s a commitment to staying where you’re at. No better, no worse. It’s an existence, not a life. Doubling down is basically saying, No!

I’m in this shit to win it! When things are crumbling around you, and you double down, trust me, you will gain whatever perspective you need to see a new path. You will see things you hadn’t seen before. When you double down, it’s like a switch has been flipped. This is why the breakthrough comes when you have the guts to hang in there.

It’s like you find a gear that you didn’t know you had. You learn how capable, resourceful, bold, and fearless you really are. Think about any situation where you have doubled down. It’s like you were possessed and something just took over, right? When you look back on that moment, you think, Holy shit! I did that?

The mistake most of us make is judging our circumstances only based on what we can see. We let our current set of circumstances be the sole determining factor for whether we double down or fold. The problem with that is we can’t see what’s brewing underneath. There is so much more going on than you can see with your eyes.

There is so much that our biases, old stories, and ego blinds us to. So many of us are poisoned with the sad, broken down old adage, I’ll believe it when I see it. But the real truth, and anyone who has had a miracle baby will tell you this, They had to believe it before they could see it. This is why, love, there is real wisdom in doubling down when you are about to give up.

Instead of allowing your fear to keep you stuck, you’ve got to shout back at it and demand your breakthrough. Shout, I see you fear, but you aren’t taking this from me. Not today, not ever. When you’re afraid, loves, that’s the time to double down because that’s when you get your breakthrough. So here’s an exercise to take this to the next level.

Look at what you are afraid of or what makes you want to give up. That is where you double down. What you are afraid of is where you are holding yourself back. Is it money, time, number of failures, age, being alone because no one else believes in you? Name it so you can claim it. The next step is to think about how you can double down in that area.

I will use money as an example because it’s one of the biggest excuses we use on this journey. And if you’re telling yourself you’re gonna die if you invest X amount of dollars on this journey, do your research and see how not only ridiculously available that money is, but how people do it every day and they are so glad they did.

Are you willing to be the woman that doubles down and makes investments instead of making excuses? The same type of calculus applies to sad sack stories about time, the number of failures you’ve had, and your age. Instead of arguing in favor of your perceived limitations, like your saboteurs want you to, sing the anthem of victory that goes something like this.

Fuck that, I’m gonna find a way. Fuck that, I’m going to find a way. And just notice how different the world becomes when you do. And last, text the link to this podcast to someone who you think could benefit from it, my love. Is there someone who is allowing their fear to get in their way and they’re about to give up?

This may be the way that they can turn it around. So, text them the link to this podcast, screenshot this episode, and put it in your Facebook or Instagram story tagging me. And remember, my darling, your mama making success begins with you. You are the foundation. What you think and believe matters. If one of the things that you want to start doing is thinking, believing, and taking action like a woman who succeeds on this journey because success leaves clues, if you listened to Hannah’s podcast last week, I’m sure that blew you away.

You’ve got to know that I am handpicking only a finite number of women to take under my wing this year. Decide you will be one of them. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases. Mind and body. If you wanna learn what I teach and what I have taught, every single woman that has appeared on this podcast, this is the place to do it.

I work with women who know what they want and they execute, not make excuses. If that’s you to apply for your interview to be part of this program, go to my website www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview with me there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success, and don’t you dare fucking give up Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast.

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.