EP53 The Power of Protecting Your Peace

Having spoken with thousands of women around the world through my work, one of the Top 3 things every woman on this journey craves is PEACE. In this week’s episode, I share an important lesson about how to cultivate peace and more importantly how to protect it…inspired by one of my favorite spiritual teachers. Transform your journey with peace!

Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby. Fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 53, the power of protecting your peace.

Hey loves, this week I want to present you with another simple but powerful idea. A few weeks ago, I was listening to a message by one of my favorite spiritual teachers, the extraordinary Pastor John Gray. He leads the Relentless Church in South Carolina. He’s also a frequent guest speaker at Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church.

If you know anything about me from my book, this podcast, or other media I put out in the world, you know that I’m not religious, but a deeply spiritual person. My fertility journey was instrumental in reconnecting me with my higher power, and since then, it has been a critical aspect of my life to continue to deepen that connection and encourage other women to cultivate their own unique, personal relationship.

with their spirituality. Because as you’ve heard me say before, how the fuck can you call in a miracle if you don’t believe in them? Trust me, women like us need a fucking miracle. Now, because the inspiration for this week’s episode comes from a pastor, it’s really important to me to be very clear that this has nothing to do with religion and this is simply about a relationship.

Far be it from me to proselytize any specific set of spiritual beliefs. I take in many teachings myself from many different teachers, but what Pastor John Gray was teaching really spoke to me and I want to share it with you. I will be doing a series on faith at a later time because I get asked about that all the time.

So don’t worry, I got you, but that will be for a different day. What Pastor John Gray was teaching about actually transcends Any set of beliefs and frankly speaks directly to our quality of life as human beings as a whole. And, as women, particularly on this journey, we could really use a double scoop of what he’s talking about to live it with a level and clear head.

The idea is simply this. Protect your peace at all times. Protect your peace at all times. This notion can seem like a gargantuan feat on this journey because it can feel like we have turds flying at us at 90 miles an hour from all different directions. But the fact remains that if you want to live your journey like a woman who succeeds and is standing with her baby at the end of it, you must protect your peace at all times.

Here’s what I believe that means for those of us on this journey. I know this is not exactly how Pastor John would say it, but remember, it’s how I see it. A woman who lived this journey and helps other women triumph just like I did. Bottom line, it means cutting the bullshit out of your life. It means you decide to be the grown up in your life.

It means you take responsibility for how you show up on this journey. You take responsibility for the direction you are headed. You get in front of your thoughts and beliefs. You decide you are worthy of peace. You stop letting outside influences and circumstances dictate to you what your life and journey are going to be like.

It means you have healthy boundaries. It means you stop taking on other people’s fear. It means you trust your heart more than your fear. It means accepting that you have a choice. Your peace is your responsibility, my darlings. A critical aspect of protecting your peace is embracing the fact that your peace is your responsibility.

If people around you speak fear, negativity, jealousy, and comparison, it is your responsibility to tell them you don’t want any part of that mess. If people around you abdicate their lives to circumstance and victimhood, it’s your responsibility to choose better for yourself. It’s up to you to spend time on the things and with the people that are worthy of you.

People who speak life to your dreams. people who believe in you, people who delight in seeing you truly happy, not beholden to your past, your failures, how things used to be, or their judgments about how you should do this life. Now, I want to make something really clear because whenever we’re talking about protecting our peace or setting new boundaries with the people that we care about or the people that are in our lives, Sometimes there’s a saboteur that will come up and, and get us to start thinking that this is about us being better than anyone else.

That’s absolutely not true. This is not about you being better than anyone else or judging anyone. This is about your peace and your responsibility to protect it. I’ve spoken to thousands of women around the world through my work. There’s not a single one of them that doesn’t want peace. And peace on this journey starts with what you choose to allow in your life.

I know that when you’ve lived a certain way for decades, stuck in patterns you learn from your family, friends, work, society, the whole idea of upending the apple carton saying, no, Hey, I don’t engage in gossip or to say this conversation is out of alignment with my values. That may have the people in your life thinking you’ve lost your shit or joined a cult.

But look, when you are committed to peace, that is who you have to be. You have to be a person that’s willing to protect that peace by setting very clear boundaries. Peace is a choice. Peace is priceless. Peace is one of the greatest gifts you can give you on this journey. Hear what I said. You give you.

Peace is one of the greatest gifts you can give you on this journey. No one else can give it to you. Even if you’re a person with a strong spiritual connection to a higher power, you have to let that power work in your life. We have to do our part. We have free will. Therefore, peace, my darlings, is a choice.

So, my darlings, here’s an exercise to take this to the next level. And thank you again to Pastor John Gray for the inspiration. Protect your peace at all costs. The first step is to make the decision that you are in charge of your peace. Not your partner, friends, family, or anyone else, my loves. The first step is making the decision you are in charge of your peace.

As the grown ass woman you are, you will be the arbiter of your peace. You aren’t going to shirk that responsibility. You are going to take control. It’s going to be scary and it may ruffle some feathers, but you may as well get used to it because it’s a skill you will need as a mom. Now, the second step in this exercise is come up with your peace protecting statement, your PPS, your peace protecting statement.

What are you going to say in situations where you’ve got to protect your peace? You damn sure aren’t going to show up ill equipped. You’ve got to be better than that. What will you say in that circumstance? Here’s an example. I love you, but this conversation does nothing for my peace. I’m not having it.

This isn’t about being better than anyone, as I said earlier, or being some kind of weird schoolmarm, wet blanket, insufferable, holier than thou asshole. It is about protecting your peace. Remember that. And come up with what you’re going to say and do. When your piece is disturbed, there is nothing that says you can’t do anything.

You can rise to the occasion in any situation. Be willing to get it wrong, loves. Be willing to swing the proverbial bat and fuck shit up. You just need to come up with something that is going to help you exit stage left when shit gets negative or when your piece is being disturbed. I wasn’t kidding when I said this is great training for being a mom.

Because you damn sure are not going to allow people to talk crazy to your kid. You’re not going to let teachers, you know, or relatives or anyone else who interferes with your child get away with it. And this isn’t about being hypervigilant either. This is being clear about where your boundaries are.

What you value and protecting both of those things with the heart of a woman that trusts herself and knows that her piece is priceless. The third step is text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode, put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me, my darling woman.

Your mama making success begins with you. If one of the things you want is to start thinking, believing, and taking action like a woman who succeeds on this journey, I’m handpicking only a finite number of women to take under my wing this year. Decide you are going to be one of them. Decide that part of protecting your peace is taking control of what you think and believe so you can show up to this journey.

Like a woman who isn’t going to be stopped. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes To covering their bases mind and body if you want to learn what I have taught all of the women who have appeared on this podcast go to my website www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview with me there I work with women who know what they want and execute not make excuses if that’s you Go ahead and apply for your interview. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy, love. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success in 2020. And don’t you dare fucking give up till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast.

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.