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With the world around us going a little crazy, how does a smart, big hearted, own-her-lane, but perhaps slightly rattled woman stay connected to her empowerment in the face of uncertainty? The answer is simple and rooted in an undeniable truth. Learn what it is and why it’s really awesome news.
Transcript:
Hey, gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.
I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey, it’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 57, Empowerment in Uncertainty.
Hey loves, I am so honored and delighted to be with you today. At the time of this recording, there is so much crazy shit going on in cities all over the world. Millions of us are at home as a result of a mandatory or strongly encouraged self quarantine. Our lives are disrupted in ways that weeks ago seemed pretty fucking unimaginable.
The stock market is all over the place, bars, restaurants, shops, churches, and so many of the places that we sometimes take for granted as a constant in our daily lives. are shut down indefinitely, with some, perhaps shuddering, for good. Shit is changing by the hour, it seems. What’s interesting, as an observer, is in times like this, even though we haven’t quite faced anything exactly like this, It’s interesting where people put their attention.
There are those who are freaking out, running to hoard toilet paper, hand sanitizer, ramen, and flats of water without taking a moment to think critically about what they would actually need if faced with COVID 19 in their home, like cold or flu medications to help ease but not cure the symptoms, vitamin supplements, fresh, nutritious food, perhaps?
It blew my mind the other day when I was in the store and vitamin rich produce was plentiful, but fucking stovetop stuffing was sold out. Crazy. This is the interesting nature of uncertainty. It makes our reptilian, predictability preferring brains go bonkers. Instead of taking a moment to step back, breathe, and make empowered choices, With all of the information we have, there will be those who let fear turn them into helpless, panicking deer in headlights.
Even worse, there will be some who will take the equally perilous route of expecting someone else to to save them instead of committing to staunch personal responsibility. Because let’s be real, in the context of what’s going on in the world today, relying 100 percent on first responders, hospitals, politicians, local, state, and federal governments to take care of your ass in times like these is fucking infantile.
The real truth is that when the shit gets really bad, You are your first responder. Do you really think police, firemen, doctors, nurses, and the other people we often take for granted will be there, won’t get sick? Do you honestly believe it will be business as usual when you dial 9 1 1 or go to a hospital?
Fuck no. That’s why we’re all on lockdown, because they’re trying to avoid hospitals and medical resources from being crushed under the possible weight of what they predict could be the demand if shit gets really out of control. Now, you might be thinking, what the fuck, Roseanne, is this the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, or did I somehow accidentally download some Doomsday Preppers podcast?
No, rest assured, love, you are in the right place. We are simply using current events as context to serve as a powerful reminder of an undeniable truth. And that’s this. No one is going to save you, but you. No doctor, no treatment, no knight in shining armor. In the end, there’s you and your choices. Now, this undeniable truth doesn’t mean there won’t be kind, loving, supportive angels out there who will go beyond the call of duty to help us, nor does this diminish the role of or value we place on our loved ones.
We’re incredibly grateful for those people when they show up in our lives, and at the end of the day, we are responsible for taking the action of taking care of ourselves. They can’t do it for us. This truth applies to the fertility journey as much as it does this fucking pandemic. No doctor can promise you a baby.
They can help you facilitate the process, and for that we are grateful. But it is something inside of you that helps you get and stay pregnant. The same idea applies to treatments and all of the wonderful supports that we bring onto the Bump Squad. They are tools. They are supports. But something inside of you allows them to work.
No pill gives you a baby. It simply helps you Make it happen. Think about that. You still have to say yes or no to the doctor. You still have to choose to do the treatment, get the coaching, get the acupuncture, or whatever it is that you’re considering. You still have choice there. When it comes to the pill, you still have to choose to take it or do the medication or whatever it is you’re considering.
At the core of all of this, As I said, it’s you and your choices. Your choices to do the thing and your choice to show up. I am sure that what I am saying here is going to trigger some, and that’s fine. Because I know my intentions are clean. I’m speaking to you as a woman who beat incredible odds and helps other women do the fucking same.
This is about awareness. It’s not an accusation, and there’s a massive difference. Smart women who use their time wisely and don’t squander the opportunity to be and do better can make the fucking distinction. So I make no apologies for liking my truth the same way I like my scotch. Straight. You, my darling, must rely on you at the very core of all of this to see yourself through this.
Both this insane pandemic and this journey. This is why all of the work, whether you are just beginning or are well on your way, that you are doing on your mindset is so critical. As you’ve heard me say once or twice before in the 56 episodes that came before this, You’ve got to be the one motherfucker in the room that knows which direction you are headed.
In a crisis, you cannot afford to be confused. You’ve got to be decisive. You’ve got to be able to precisely and concisely state what you desire. You’ve got to know that divine intelligence put this desire in your heart and it is part of your purpose to see it to fruition. You’ve got to trust that you have everything you need inside of you right now, the raw materials to make your dreams come true.
You’ve got to unhitch your wagon from the good opinion of others, seeking integrity, not approval. You’ve got to cultivate the belief that a way will be shown. This, my loves, is the key to the castle. This is how you empower yourself in uncertainty. You don’t abdicate your power. You fucking embrace it. You make your thoughts work for you.
You make your beliefs work for you. You unleash fearlessness inside of you that makes your success no longer a matter of if, but when. While everyone else is running around like chicken little, you gotta be clear about you, you gotta be solid in you, and you have to have peace within you. Now, in order to get there, yes, you are going to get information from physicians.
You’re going to get information from your coach. You’re going to get information from your nutritionist, your acupuncturist, your naturopath. You’re going to be taking the information and you’re going to take the teachings from all of these wise people who are trying to help you, but you have to get it in your head.
Those are not the people that are going to do the work. You are a critical aspect of this and you are the person that is going to execute. And when you really take this in, you can see how powerful you really are. And then you can stop looking to other people to fix the situation or allowing outside circumstances.
to dictate how you feel because you know that you have all of the things inside of you right now, even amongst the chaos, to get through whatever the fuck comes your way. Now I know that there may be some that’ll say, Oh my god, Roseanne, are you saying we don’t need anyone or there’s no value in community?
To that, I would say, Are you fucking kidding me? Come the fuck on. Rewind and listen to the beginning of this podcast again. Self reliance and a kind open heart can fucking coexist. Now, when you really get this going on inside of you, my darling, you can face uncertainty with a wry rebel smile and purr bring it.
So here’s an exercise to take this to the next level. Understand You are the source of your certainty. So here’s a couple questions. One, are you looking outside of yourself for certainty? Look, the untrained mind will do this shit. It doesn’t matter how in control you are and how much you own your lane at work.
I bet you, my lovably type a, control freaky, perfectionist women, I bet at work, you look at challenges and say, I own that bitch. The fertility journey, just like this pandemic, is totally fucking different. When we are following our hearts, it’s a way different ballgame than following some boring ass standard operating procedure or case precedent.
Following your desire in the face of past failures and shitty statistics is a lonely fucking road that most people are too chicken shit to be on. Just like most people are too afraid to be fucking self reliant. It’s vulnerable as fuck, and it is a totally different skill set than what you learned in medical school, law school, or college.
Lucky for you, I teach it. So be honest. My darling womans, this is not about shame, this is all about lifting you up. and empowerment. To what degree are you leaning on others to give you the certainty that isn’t theirs to give? Second question, do you trust you? This shit is massive. Because there will be times in life, and of course on this journey, when you are going to want to do shit that other people don’t get, or think isn’t playing nice, or following the rules.
Are you willing to trust yourself? Are you willing to put all of your chips on you? Will you bet on you? Do you trust your instincts? Really go deep with this and really be honest because some of the most confident people in the world, you know, they can look confident on the outside, but they really don’t trust themselves.
And that’s when you fall prey to fear. And what do we know? Choices. Made from fear. Fucking suck. I bet you can come up with 10 examples of that from your own life, maybe in the past few months that stand for that proposition. So be honest about this. Do you trust you? And third text the link to this podcast episode.
to someone you think could benefit from it. Look, whether someone’s on the fertility journey or not, this is a real thing. Empowerment in uncertainty is critical. It can be life changing. Screenshot the episode, put it in your Facebook or Insta story, tagging me. Love. You are the secret weapon on your journey.
You. No doctor can do it without you, no pill can do it without you, no treatment can do it without you, and certainly, no amazing coach can do it without you. You’ve got to think, believe, and take action like a woman who succeeds. Not just to get pregnant, but to stay pregnant. 40 weeks is no joke, and you’ve got to have your mind and body working together like a well oiled machine to see you through this crazy shit we call life.
Especially during a pandemic. My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body. Let’s make your mindset bullshit proof, baby! There’s never been a smarter time! Use this time of social distancing to your advantage.
Let it be the point when you made the pivot that made all the difference on your fertility journey. I work with women who make decisions, not excuses. If that’s you, to apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview with me there. My methodology is help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.
Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for the success you deserve. Don’t you dare give up. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast?
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