EP71 Proactively Using Mindset Helped Her Show Miscarriage Who’s Boss

Way too many women waste way too much time in fear and misery on this journey. Learn how on the heels of a heartbreaking miscarriage, one kick-ass Veterinarian from Down Under, used the power of mindset PROACTIVELY, to put herself back on the path to fertility success fast. You’ll be inspired to show YOUR journey who’s boss too!

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 71. Proactively using mindset helped her show miscarriage, who’s boss. Hey loves, I am so excited to be with you this week as we are blessed with another one of my ladies generously sharing her fertility success story.

As you will hear, Genevieve is in veterinary medicine in Australia. What I love about her is when it comes to her dreams, She is a straight up gangster. This woman wasn’t going to let anything get in her way of being a mom. And she applied that fire and ferocity to other aspects of her life and is now living her pregnancy, her work, and her life on her terms unapologetically.

Her story is particularly interesting. Because she’s living proof of what’s possible when you are pro active on this journey, baby. Way too many women spend way too much time in misery trying to have their babies. Telling themselves, well, it’s not so bad. I don’t need to worry about that mindset stuff yet.

I’ve only been trying for a year. Why the hell wait for years to get in front of a problem? How much pain do you have to be in? You wouldn’t wait a year to get a root canal, right? Think about it. When Serena set her sights on Wimbledon, did she wait until she failed for years on the sub pro circuit to get a coach that could help her improve her game and get her there?

Nope. Genevieve used this lovably type A control freaky professionalism that she has flowing through her to get in front to say, look, I am not going to let the challenges I face right now get in my way. I am on the brink of turning 40. I want to get my head on straight. I’m not willing to roll the dice with my dream of being a mom.

And that’s exactly what Genevieve did on the heels of a heartbreaking miscarriage. You will hear how Genevieve made the decision she was not going to wait around and let miscarriage or age, quote unquote, stop her from having her baby. I think you’re going to love her as much as I do. You’re going to hear how she was basically, uh, I’m not going to let my thoughts and beliefs stand in my way.

I’m going to get this right. I’m going to bring everything I’ve got to this. This is go time. So my darlings. Let Genevieve teach you how powerful a woman armed with her hell yes can be and how quickly she can get results. Here’s my conversation with Dr. Genevieve. Well, Genevieve, I am so glad to hear you and have you on the podcast.

So why don’t you tell the ladies listening a little bit about how you even How did you find yourself on the fertility journey? So I was married previously and we couldn’t have children, well, because of, you know, he’d had a vasectomy. And so I, I kind of wasn’t, I was so career focused that I, kids weren’t on my radar at the time.

And then when that marriage dissolved, I started thinking, Oh, well, you know, what if I, you know, will I regret not having children? I don’t want to be in a nursing home all alone and no one visiting me. Um, and I was kind of thinking and I was approaching. My 40th birthday and I thought, Oh, you know, and then I started looking into other options like adoption and foster care and all those types of things.

And then I met a wonderful man and we’ve been friends, been friends for a couple of years and we’ve been together as a couple for a year and he was always keen on having more kids. So he’s got a young. And I just woke up one morning and thought, why not? And, um, I can do this. And then I thought, and then you have everyone telling you, you know, well, you know, you’re approaching 40 and you know, you’re going to be a geriatric mother and is it the right thing to do?

And, you know, all of those things. So yeah, I, we started trying last year. We only tried for about three months and I fell pregnant. Unfortunately, I miscarried very early on in this year. And I was devastated. I thought, oh no, like, you know, everything that everyone was telling me is true. You know, you’re too old to do this.

And I didn’t realise how many people actually do miscarry until you’ve been through it and you’re speaking to people about it. And I didn’t realize how common it was. So anyway, I decided I was going to try again and the very next cycle, I felt pregnant again and I found out on my 40th birthday that I was pregnant and yeah, it’s been a great journey since then.

I mean. There was probably some stuff in between all that, so, so why don’t we break it down a little bit? So why don’t you tell us, because you know, the, you hit on something that was re that’s really important and that so many women face is, Oh my gosh, what if all the people that are telling me that getting pregnant, you know, is going to be hard or, you know, isn’t for me or I’m too old.

Like, what role did that play on your journey? I think it was always in the back of my mind. Like, I was thinking, I, you know, I thought about it and even my GP was like, my GP was super supportive. Like, she’s a great GP and, but she just kept saying, you know, look, you know, if, if it doesn’t work, don’t, you know, don’t feel bad.

There’s other options. She was just kind of trying to prep me, you know, if things didn’t go down the right path for me. And then when I got pregnant every day, I was thinking. I can’t wait to get to 12 weeks. I can’t wait to get to 12 weeks. Cause you know, I don’t want to miscarry and I, you know, and I just constantly was thinking about miscarrying because it was just so ingrained.

And then when it happened, I was like, Oh, well, everyone told me it was going to happen, you know? And so I was like, okay, well, we’ll just have to try again. And then that’s when I came across your program and I changed my whole mindset change and. It’s worked. Like, you know, I felt pregnant the very next cycle.

I did not think, like literally I miscarried on the 2nd of January. Um, my next cycle started on the 2nd of February and I was pregnant that month. Like I couldn’t even believe it. Even my, even my doctors were like, wow, that’s, that’s amazing. Cause even my obstetrician was like, Oh, normally it takes, you know, like three or four months and you know, you’ve just got to let your body reset and all that.

And then I was like, okay, yep, no worries. And, um, And then when I felt pregnant, I was like, really, really, am I pregnant? So quickly after, you know, miscarrying and it, I think it’s just the mindset of just being positive the whole time I was, you know, meditating every day and just being positive about everything and it just totally worked.

Yeah. I mean, it’s incredible. You know, when I think about your story, I’m like, oh my gosh, she works so fast and you know, and, and so why don’t you tell these ladies? It would have been really easy for you. I mean, because you were out looking, there was something in you that said, you know what? I’ve miscarried.

Like I want to make sure that I’ve covered my bases. So why don’t you tell these ladies, like, why were you looking for somebody like me? So I’m a type A personality. Like I have to plan my life right down to everything. I was like, I want to cover, you know, I was doing everything. I was doing acupuncture, I was doing.

You know, every doctor I was seeing, psychics, I was seeing all these, doing all of this stuff and everyone was telling me, you know, it’s going to work, it’s going to work. And I’m like, I just need something more. There’s just something missing. And the lady that I see who’s a, um, she’s a medium and she’s amazing and she’s, she’s predicted my life, like right down to every second.

I went and saw her and she said to me, there’s something missing. This was before I met you Rosanne, she said, there’s something missing and she said, I don’t know what it is. And there’s something that you have to fix. She said, I don’t know if it’s something that you need to do like blood tests or if you need to sort out, you know, vitamins or whatever.

She said, there’s something within you that you need to shift. And then I think it was about two days later, I was on Facebook and I came across your, your post and I was like, Oh, and I went and had a look at this and then I started reading it and then I read your book and I was like, Oh, it’s mindset, like surely it’s mindset.

Like, you know, I’ve done everything else. Um, you know, I possibly can, I’ve done my diet, I’ve done exercise, you know, looking after myself. And so that’s when I signed up for you and voila, pregnant, done, fixed it, mindset. Well, and so it’s interesting because I remember from our very first conversation, you were like, bam, you’re like, I am doing this.

Like it was really interesting. And so like this whole. You know, it was really clear to me that, you know, even in chatting with you that, you know, you’re a person, you know, it’s why you’re good at what you do. You know, you’re, you know, your area of expertise in medicine and, and, and things like that. You know, you’re the kind of person that is, you’re not willy nilly.

You’re not going to go about anything halfway, like you put your back into it. And that’s why when I remember our first conversation, I’m like, I was super excited. I’m like, I love getting my hands on women like this, because I know she’s gonna follow through. And that’s exactly what you did. Like, that you followed through.

You were getting up at, what was it, like, 2 or 3 a. m.? 2 or 3 a. m. Yeah, like, 2 or 3 a. m. in Sydney, like, You know, to get on these calls with this crazy pink and blue haired woman yelling at you, you know, lovingly, but like, you know, saying, come on, girl, get on with this, like, let’s fix this mindset shit. Like, what was it within you that said, like, I’m doing this?

Cause you had to make a decision, like you really had to be willing to say hell yes to this bigger picture, this bigger picture to have, you know, a baby with this man that you fell in love with and you know, you’re building this amazing family. Like tell these women what it was like to be able to say hell yes to yourself in that way.

I think the biggest thing that made me, when you said to me, when we had our first interview, When you said to me, are you willing to make this investment? And as soon as you said investment, it just was like, of course it’s an investment. Like I’m not throwing money away. I’m doing this because it’s going to change my life.

And it’s literally has changed my life. Like everything that has happened since then has been a positive change, which I’m sure we’ll get to, but it literally changed my life. And I thought, you know what? I’ve tried everything else. What have I got to lose? I’m investing in myself. I’m not investing in, you know, I’m always, as a veterinarian, we’re spending so much time being everything for everyone else that I thought, you know what, it’s time to spend money on me and invest in me.

And I, that, that was at that moment, I was just like, I’m just going to do it. Yeah. And you, you make a really good point because as lovably type A control, freaky professional women, we tend to forget that there’s ourselves. Like, we’re so used to everything being focused on getting the job done, you know, serving the people that we serve, doing all this stuff that we forget about the fact that we exist.

Like, there’s this person, us, in this equation. Exactly. Exactly. And we talk about, and as vets, like, you know, there’s been a lot of Publicity lately about suicide rating bets and stuff like that and just talking about self care and investing time in ourselves because we’re in such a demanding industry where stuff doesn’t always go right.

Spending the time and investing in yourself is so important because if you don’t look after yourself, you can’t look after anything else around you. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. And so, you know, what were some of the biggest changes that you saw in yourself through really developing this mindset? I think one of the biggest things is, was I was standing up for myself more.

So, at work. When I fell pregnant the second time, I’m in a partnership, so I’m one of the business owners, um, so it was easy for me to do, but I just said to the, the rest of the partners that I’m not doing any large animal work. I’m not doing anything that’s going to put me at risk. I’m going to protect myself and my pregnancy at all costs.

So, you know, I’m not on the on call roster at the moment. I’m not doing any large animal work. You know, and they were all kind of, Oh, well, you know, you know, previously we’ve had, you know, pregnant vets and they’ve done this and I said, well, I’m, I’m a different case. I’m an older woman. I’m not a young woman.

I’m on blood thinners. Um, so if I had to get kicked by a cow or kicked by a horse, things could go dramatically wrong. I said, this is what’s happening. These are my terms. And it’s basically, that’s what’s happened. It’s just standing up for myself and saying, you know, I’m not going to flog myself to death.

Transcribed by https: otter. ai Just to please everyone else. I’m gonna look after myself. Wow. And my pregnancy. Yeah, isn’t that incredible though? Like I think that’s such you’re just hitting on so many really powerful points because as Professional women we get so used to having to say yes And if we don’t say yes, then it means we’re weak or exactly No I can’t have boundaries around my time because that means I’m not a hard worker like you basically threw all of that out the window Yeah.

And I would never have done that before. Like, even as a partner in an equal partnership, I’ve never, I always, always sort of just, you know, doing everything to sort of please everyone else and making everyone else happy. And I thought, no, no, no, no, not this time. This is my time. I’m going to do everything that I can so that I’m protecting myself from my pregnancy.

Wow. That’s really incredible. And so, you know, tell us a little bit about, like, I mean, because You’re surrounded by other women in the program. Like what was it like to be around a group of women that were as committed as you to changing what they thought and believed about their fertility and the way they showed up?

I think it was, I really look forward to, um, the phone calls each week. Um, even though I was super tired most of the time. You made no excuses, baby. Like, you were such a badass. Like, you, like, that’s, that’s why I always, like, secretly teachers pet, you know, Jenna Bieber. I’m like, look, bitches. He woke up at 3 a.

m. her time, she’s up, she’s raising her hand, she’s getting the work done. Like I was always like, Oh my God, I love you. It was just really good to see like everyone had a different story. You know, everyone’s been through different things, but we were all there for the same purpose. And everyone is so supportive.

And every week it was just so good to see how everyone had. improved or changed or grown in some way. And I miss hearing, you know, how, you know, the girls on, on the, you know, the eight weeks that I was there, like I miss hearing from them and, and how they’re going and, you know, who’s pregnant and, you know, who’s like, I just, it was such a supportive environment, um, that if it wasn’t, I probably wouldn’t have got up at two o’clock.

I would have been like, I’m just going to listen to the replay, but it was so good to. Listen to stories and understand that you’re not alone. And even though our stories were different, we were all there for the same purpose. Yeah. Yeah. It’s, I mean, as an observer, like, because I get to watch all of you guys, like, first of all, I can tell you they’re amazing and there’s more pregnancies and everyone’s, you know, kicking major ass.

Yay! I know. And so. But, you know, one of the things that I love about this is just watching you all become the women that you set out to be. Like look at you. I mean, I know that, you know, like you’re an Aussie, you know, you’re not going to want to take all this, but it’s true. Like you set a goal, you set something up for yourself.

I’m changing. I’m going to cover my bases. I’m doing this and look at where you are today. Yeah, I know. There is no way, I was looking at the, it’s June now, like I started this in January, February I think it was, off the top of my head, yeah. And so much has happened since then, like so much has happened. And it’s all been good, like everything’s changing for the good, which is great.

Mm hmm. And, and you’re, you’re highlighting something that I tell women all the time, I’m like, Look, you have to become the woman who succeeded before you succeed. And when you do that, there is this momentum, like you begin to see this ripple effect throughout other aspects of your life. And like, nobody believes me at first until they actually do it.

Yeah. It’s incredible. So, you know, if you, if there was something that, that some bit of wisdom that you would share with other women who are. You know, similarly situated, maybe they’re like, Oh my gosh, you know, I’m getting close to 40 or I’m over 40 and you know, I’ve had miscarriage in my life and it’s just, this is a terrible mess.

Like what is it that you would want them to know? Like if you could say, you know, what you wish you knew back then, like what would you tell them? I think the biggest thing is, is take the time and the money to invest in yourself, believe in yourself. And from a mindset point of view, it’s everything is about mindset.

Everything that you do in life is about mindset. Like if I hadn’t changed my mindset, I probably wouldn’t have all of these amazing changes that are happening in my life at the moment. But take the time and the money to invest in yourself. You deserve it. Wow. Wow. That’s incredible. And you gotta tell us, like, how far along are you right now?

So I’ll be 20 weeks, so halfway on Sunday. Wow. of days. Yeah. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. You know, it’s so funny, like, I love having this conversation with you because it’s, it’s like, it just seems like it was another lifetime ago when you’re like, Oh, absolutely. Yeah, like, is this gonna happen for me? What is all this?

And like. Yeah. And with all the stuff with COVID, like, my partner can’t come to any of my appointments with me. So he hasn’t had the chance to see any of the scans or anything like that, so. Me, being the type of person that I am, took him into work and I scanned my own baby for him on our ultrasound at work so he could see it in real life.

Oh my gosh, that is so funny. And yeah. But I, I think like having the skill set is even more needed when the world is uncertain, right? Yeah. Yeah, because you also figured out that it isn’t just about getting pregnant. It’s about staying pregnant and keeping that healthy mindset throughout your entire pregnancy.

That’s right. And so just think about like, think about the mom you get to be now that you know this, now that you’ve seen this part of yourself. And you can see how powerful your thoughts and beliefs can be. I know, like even with, um, we haven’t spoken about this, but we had, um, so soon after I felt pregnant and just before I finished up with the program, I ended up, some beautiful little boys have come to live with me and my partner, um, in the foster care system.

And even having changed my mindset and dealing and managing them has been, it’s been completely different. And I’m so much calmer, you know, when they have their meltdowns, I’m, you know, I don’t sort of go off and have a meltdown with them. I’m just so calm. I’m like, just, you know, meditate for a few minutes, go and speak to them.

It’s just, just the little things like, and even at work, you know, having this positive mindset and people have commented on, you know, how, how different I am and how different I manage things. So. It’s just being positive all in all aspects of my life. Wow, that is really incredible Genevieve and you know Thank you so much for taking the time to share You know where you’ve been on this journey and and showing women like look this is something that can happen you know, you can change this because You know, it would have been really easy to tell yourself, Oh, I can’t change this mindset shit.

You know, I’ve been this way all my life. This is the kind of thing, you know, being negative and being worried and constantly in negativity. This is what’s helped me get ahead in my career. But. You have the courage to be able to say, no, that’s not going to work for me. I want something different. That’s massive.

Yeah. Wow. Yeah. And thanks to you and your program. It’s really helped me to get, get to that point. Oh, well, you know what, lady, you did the heavy lifting. Like I do the coaching and the teaching, but you were the one that actually had to apply it and you’re showing, you know, you’re living proof of what happens when you actually take these lessons and apply them to your life.

So thank you for sharing that with us. No, it’s my pleasure. Loves. Wasn’t Genevieve fantastic? So real, so kind, so generous. And really demonstrating for us what’s possible when we just are like, I’m doing this, I am doing this. And what’s even more interesting is the ripple effect that making this change about what she believed about herself, her fertility, how that really translated into massive change in other aspects of her life.

Really, she went from heartbreak to a full house. And so look, follow Genevieve’s example. Ask yourself, am I just going to wait around for another failed cycle to take control? Am I going to wait for another year to pass me by to finally get out of my own way? Am I going to wait till I’m on the brink of giving up to finally use the most powerful resource I have to my advantage?

Loves, what you think and believe is a foundation for your success on this journey. Think about where you could be 12 months from now. If you finally made it work for you. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time with regret. If you want to learn what I taught Genevieve, who was getting up at 2 AM Sydney time, this is your chance. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this groundbreaking program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for your interview with me there.

My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results. Like Genevieve’s, speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy.

Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success, and don’t you dare give up till next time, change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.

When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

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