EP74 The Power of Silence

With so much noise coming from all directions on your fertility journey, it can be hard to find CERTAINTY about what’s right for you. Turn the volume down on outside voices and turn UP the only one that truly matters. In this week’s episode, you will learn a master stroke move that every smart woman should have tucked into her back pocket…if she is committed to Mama-making success.

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the fearlessly fertile podcast, episode 74, the power of silence.

My loves. I am so delighted to be here with you this week, hitting your Tempanic membrane. Something. Super awesome and perhaps slightly puzzling for those of us that are lovably type A control freaky professional women who are super busy, super committed to having a very full life and probably rarely do the thing that I’m going to be proposing to you this week.

One of the toughest things about this journey is it feels like we are getting 10, 000 pieces of information from 10, 000 different directions. And you’ll have 10, 000 people tell you one thing, 10, 000 tell you the exact opposite. And it just creates a sense of overwhelm. So many women come to me saying, I just don’t know what my next step is going to be.

I just don’t know what to do. And I totally get that. I remember being on my journey thinking, you know, look, I can, in a criminal prosecution, marshal multiple agencies, hundreds, if not thousands of pieces of evidence, multiple legal arguments, complex jury instructions, all of this crazy shit. But why can I not get myself clear about what’s next for me on my journey?

I can’t make a simple decision about, you know, do I want to do X or do I want to do Y or do I want to do Z? And through my years of experience, both on this journey and coaching women around the world to success has led me to something that is really important because women, especially the women that I serve are so engaged in their lives and are very prone to doing a shit ton of research on their own and, you know, reaching out to people and doing all the things.

That we miss a critical step and it’s a step that I think we avoid. I think we consciously choose not to go in the direction that I’m going to be presenting you this week because it’s scary. It’s super scary and it’s scary because it feels like we’re doing nothing. And here’s what I’m going to propose to you this week.

I really want to make an argument in favor of silence. There is power in silence. My loves. And I know that right now you’re like, what are you talking about? So let me expand on what I mean here. There’s so much noise on this journey and we feel like we’re getting pulled in so many different directions that we forget that we have a, an incredibly rich and useful and divinely inspired source of information within us.

How many articles have you Googled in the past month? How many podcasts have you listened to in the past month? Right? How many doctors, nurses, or other fertility experts have you reached out to? We’re always seeking information that is external to us. We’re always looking outside of us. And that’s why I’m making the argument in favor of silence.

And I think that there is a richness. I think that there is a freaking platinum mine of information within us that we completely ignore. And so, in making this argument in favor of silence, I want you to stop ignoring this incredible source of information. Frankly, the only source of information that actually matters.

In the long term and the way that I am going to propose this week that you leverage that source of information and really make good use of it is through the power of silence. Now, let me be clear. This isn’t meditation. I know most of you are probably at some level dabbling with meditation. You know that meditation is wonderful.

There’s no question of its efficacy, particularly on this journey and how powerful that experience can be. What I’m asking you to do is something that’s slightly different, and you don’t have to be levitating around your house to be able to accomplish it. It is simply I would like to challenge you and invite you to take an hour this week, find an hour in your schedule as soon as you possibly can to sit in silence.

That means no talking on the phone, no internet. No podcasts, no discussions with your partner, no text messages, nothing. The only thing that you need your phone for or mobile device or whatever it is that you’re distracting yourself with right now is to time it. And if you want to be made like and that’s to give you some freedom if you want to be super og and and make sure that you don’t have the temptation of scrolling on social media or picking up a text message or even answering your phone, you just set the timer on your oven or set an egg time or whatever it is.

But, the message here is I want you to spend an hour in silence. It’s a lot fucking harder than you might think. And, it’s also life changing. And I know you’re like, what? An hour in silence? You know, I’m too busy for that. No, you’re not. No, you’re not. You and your dreams are too important to not do it.

Because, Think about it. We put so much attention and so much emphasis on what’s going on outside of us that we pay very little attention to what’s going on within us. And sometimes just being in silence, not taking in any information, not particularly working on perfecting our meditation, but just sitting somewhere that you love.

It can be in your house. It can be out in a park. It can be In your car, you know, wherever you have to be to be alone and have silence, go do it this week and notice what comes up for you. And when I started doing this practice a few months ago, I was just floored at how powerful being silent was. And is and continues to be, and it’s something that I ask my ladies to explore all the time, and I want to invite you to do the same.

Again, it is simple. We are exercising the power of silence. Set an hour on a timer of your choice. And just be in silence. You don’t have to be in meditation. Nothing special. It’s just, you are not speaking. You are not taking any information in. You’re just taking in the power of silence. And I’m going to tell you loves, there’s going to be crazy shit that comes up for you that you never even knew existed.

It’s going to give you an opportunity to really get present. With what’s real for you. Maybe you notice that you catch yourself in silence, replaying old hurts. Maybe you’re constantly going over statistics in your head. Maybe you’re thinking about the way that somebody on your bump squad lets you down or whatever.

Just notice, in that hour of silence, Just witness what’s going on for you. Listen to the inner voice that is talking constantly within you and notice what’s going on. Pay more attention to what is going on within you than what is going on without. It’s really a life changing move because, you know, once you get really connected to what’s going on with you and what your inner voice is saying, what your truth is, and observing, gosh, you know, man, I, in this silence, I, I’m really noticing how negative I am.

Ooh, you know, this is spooky or, you know, Hey, my mindset is something that I actually need to start working on instead of standing on the sidelines talking about, but there is so much to be harvested from silence. There’s so much good that can come out of silence. You know, the reality is, is that most of the time, half the shit that we’re saying is meaningless anyway.

So how about just keep your mouth shut and, and, and listen for once, but not listen to anyone else. Listen to you, something tells me that there’s a voice inside of you right now that knows exactly what you want, knows exactly what she is ready to do next, but you just can’t hear her because you’re distracting yourself with bullshit.

How about step away from the bullshit and step into the truth this week. So that’s what I have for you. And look, when you get good at getting comfortable with silence, you’re going to figure out what’s really true for you. You’re going to notice what you’ve been avoiding. And that actually ties into a point that I was making at the very beginning of this podcast was that, you know, when we’re so busy worrying about what everybody else thinks or what everyone else is saying, we get to avoid.

What we think we get to avoid what we say because when your confidence is in the shitter on this journey It’s really difficult to stand up for what you want and what you believe, right? It’s like oh my gosh Well these you know, this is why we acquiesce and this is why we hand our power over to experts instead of becoming the experts on ourselves You know, and staying out of silence is also a means of avoidance.

We avoid what’s really going on for us because it’s not unusual when you start sitting in silence and giving yourself the permission to just be with you and see what’s there and witness what’s true for you within you. You’re going to notice some shit that you didn’t even know it was there. And I remember, you know, cause I, I’m an extremist.

I don’t do things by halves and, and chances are, if you’re listening to this podcast, neither do you. But when I started practicing silence, I was doing four hour stints, four straight hours. Of silence. So, you know, people are probably thinking, Rosanne, how the fuck did you do that with a family and, you know, a three year old son?

How was that even possible? I became the woman that made the decision that it was going to be possible. So the way that I found the time to do that, and again, I’m not asking you to do that. I’m asking you to do 25 percent of that. We’re talking about an hour. So the way that I did that is I just did it in the evening.

So put my son down. And after that, it was silence time. And I just would sit in, in my office. In silence, sometimes I would take my dog out for a walk in silence and I learned so much about me and what was true for me in that silence, you know, I have no idea what’s going to come up for you, but I mean, I felt, you know, I found myself weeping.

You know, several instances and really being with me and I was like, Oh my gosh, I’m so glad to be with you. Roseanne. Like, I’m so delighted to finally witness what was going on for me on that particular day and you know, I, I totally get it. You might be cringing right now. Like what? I’ve got too much to do.

I’m too busy to be silent. But trust me on this one, love, there’s going to be nuggets of wisdom that come up for you in the silence that are going to be worth their weight in gold. So that’s the assignment this week. Take the time to be in silence. Give yourself the opportunity this week to spend an hour in silence and notice what comes up for you.

This is a ninja move because any woman that is truly committed to success, Must be consulting the number one authority in her life and that is her because you know What no matter what your higher, you know, your beliefs in a higher power is you are the representation of that your higher power Speaks and lives through you that is my honest belief And so when you have silence with you and you connect with you you are in fact connecting with the divine Because you are a representation of that.

You are made in the image of the divine. Just accept it. Accept it, my loves. You’re divine. And when you get this into your soul, you’re going to stop approaching your journey at a deficit. You’re going to stop this ridiculous habit of always subordinating your truth to that of others. Or other people’s expectations or other people’s opinions.

You’re going to be focused on the one mofo in the room that’s got to know the direction she’s going. And that’s you. Don’t overcomplicate this exercise. Just set a timer and sit in silence. You just never know what you’re going to find in that silence. But. You will find within it power. My darling woman, as you listen to this podcast, you have got to know that what you think and believe is a foundation of your success on this journey.

Think about where you could be 12 months from now. If you finally made that beautiful mind of yours. Work for you. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind, and body. So you don’t have to look back on this chapter in your life with regret.

If you want to learn what I’ve taught every single amazing miracle mama that you’ve heard on this podcast, this is your chance. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for my revolutionary program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for your interview with me there.

My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Love. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Don’t you dare give up till next time.

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