EP75 Your Partner: What do they need to know NOW?

The relationship we have with our partner is the foundation upon which our families are built. Keeping the lines of communication open is a non-negotiable for the woman with a mindset for success. Learn a simple move that can blow the doors wide open to feeling more seen, heard, and connected to your partner than ever before. Listen to this in tandem with Episode 59.

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure.

I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey. Just like I did get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, badassery, and loads of hell. Yes. For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the fearlessly fertile podcast, episode 75 what your partner needs to know about you right now.

My loves, I’m so delighted to be here with you as I am every single week. And I’ve actually interrupted our regular scheduled programming to bring you this special episode. What’s special about it? Well, it’s happening while I’m writing my second book. So I’m super inspired right now. And I really had a sense of urgency to share a very simple idea with you this week.

My second book is going to be all about relationships and this journey. And I was thinking to myself, why wait for months for this thing to be edited and published to get some of this information to my beloved ladies all over the world. And so, that’s what’s inspiring me to interrupt the amazing pre scheduled Awesomeness that I have for you.

More stories from my ladies, more interviews with experts and, and more insights. But this piece of information really kind of shoved all of those things aside. And, and I really want you, especially in this time of insanity right now to get the idea that I’m going to be sharing with you this week. Into your soul because frankly, nothing else matters.

Nothing else matters right now. And I know you’re like, people are dying. You know, things are on fire and you know, shit’s a mess. I totally get all that, but here’s what you got to know. Your life is now. Your relationship is now. The plans that you’re making are now. All of this is now. And the more clear you are about who you choose to be, not just in this process, but for the blessing that is, you know, the rest of your life.

My prayer for you is that we’re all going to live to 130, be able to look back on our lives. Looking at our good health, our good fortune and saying, fuck, yeah, I actually lived. Okay, I didn’t just bump along, scrounging for whatever scraps life would toss my way. Like, I was an active fucking participant in my life.

And one of the areas that we go to sleep in a lot on this journey, strangely enough, is our relationships. You know, and I get that there’s so much going on when you’re on this journey that the idea of even spending any time on your relationship, it just is like, man, where the fuck am I going to make time for that?

Like, where’s the energy going to come for that? Right? Like, I’m tapped out. But your relationship, mama, is the foundation upon which your family is built, is critical. So, Let’s talk about one simple aspect of that, though, because you’re doing the work, all right? Chances are you’ve listened to some episodes of this podcast.

It’s more likely than not you’ve read my book or seen some of the crazy shit I’ve put out online. Maybe watched me on Instagram in one of my Sunday intention ramblings. So you get where I’m coming from and you get that as lovably type a control freaky women who are living this life with a purpose that we have to take responsibility for getting what we want in this life.

And that’s all of what is underlying what I’m going to share with you this week because when it comes to your relationship. Your partner’s got to know who you are. So the challenge that I have for you this week is simple. What does your partner need to know about you right now? What’s the thing, what’s the thing that you’ve got to get off your chest?

What is the thing that you’ve been keeping to yourself that they really need to know about you and what you want on this journey right now? And that may seem obvious. You’re like, fuck you, Roseanne. Like, everybody knows, you know, my, my, my partner knows that I want a baby. Right? I can’t make it more explicit.

I’m, I’m running around, I’m, I’m boiling black chickens, I’m, you know, burning incense, I’m putting crazy shit on my feet at night, or like whatever fertility ritual you happen to be doing right now. Maybe you’re steaming your vagina like I did, but, or maybe you’re smarter than that, I don’t know. Whatever it is.

Whatever it is, you need to get it off your chest. You need to share this with your partner. What do they need to know about you right now? And maybe it’s not fertility related. Maybe right now you’re fucking lonely. Maybe right now, it’s been months since you’ve had sex. Maybe it’s months since you’ve felt really close to them.

Maybe you’re just sick and tired of, of watching them do nothing while you are doing everything. Okay, that’s at least from your perspective. That’s the way you see things. But what is it that your partner needs to know about you right now? We spend so much time living like Batman or Catwoman on this journey.

It’s like, you know, to the outside world we look like we have our shit together, but on the inside we’re a fucking mess. And, and I don’t say that in a pejorative way, what I’m saying here is like, look, your partner, your intimate partner is the person with which you’re trying to have a baby. They may as well get to know you now.

And frankly, if you hold this thing in that you know that they need to know about you, it’s going to fucking fester. It’s going to come out in weird ways that have them questioning your sanity. Because instead of finally letting them know what’s on your mind, you fucking blow up and act like a hot, crazy mess.

Like straight up Britney shaving her head. Right? We’ve all had those moments. Come on now, girls. Come on, I know you. I know I’ve had those moments where it’s like you just see red and you’re like, ah, Don’t do that to yourself if we’ve learned nothing from this insane year so far 2020 because I know that you know people are gonna be listening to this possibly 10 years from now and be wondering what is all this Crazy time talk.

Anyway, we’re in the middle of something that none of us could have predicted at the beginning of 2020. I bet none of us on January 1st, 2020 could have predicted this freaking insanity. But here we are. So, but we all have The responsibility at this point to show up, not just for ourselves, but ultimately the families that we’re building, what is the thing your partner needs to know about you right now?

And I know that maybe there’s part of you that’s afraid, maybe you’re afraid of being rejected, maybe you’re afraid of seeming weak, or maybe you’re afraid that they just won’t know what to do or fucking walk away. Here’s the truth. They’re gonna find out. So, you know, I’m not suggesting that you drop an atom bomb right in the center of your relationship right now.

But what I am inviting you to do Is tell them what is on your mind right now. What do they need to know about you right now? What is the need that you must have fulfilled right now? That’s going to keep you putting one foot in front of the other. That might help you feel closer to them. That might help you infuse a shit ton of expectation.

On this journey, positive expectation. I hate using the word hope because for me, hope, ah, doesn’t cut it. Hope is like one foot out the door. So you’re rarely going to ever hear me make reference to that. I think that women on this journey who are super committed, they don’t hope they fucking expect. Not from a place of hubris, but from a place of knowing that the call on their soul to be a mom is there because it was meant for them.

And I want to invite you this week to love yourself and love the vision that you have for motherhood enough to tell your fucking partner what they need to know about you. And that doesn’t have to be confrontational, it doesn’t have to be bitchy, it doesn’t have to be scathing. It’s simply Here’s what you need to know about me right now.

I need you to be more engaged. I want you to tell me how beautiful I am. I want you to fucking set the table every now and then, you know, whatever it is. Tell them, tell them, because this isn’t just about having your partner learn to load the dishwasher properly. What this is about is you seeing and hearing you.

And last week’s episode was about that as well. Is, look, as much as this journey is a shared experience with your partner, it’s also a very personal one. And it’s a part of your personal growth. So you may as well in that process, let them get to know you, give them the opportunity to be there for you in a way that maybe you didn’t think was possible.

Quit living like you’ve got some kind of crazy double life. Be in this life. Be engaged with them and it’s funny because when you allow your partner to know the truth about you to really see you You can love and appreciate the truth about them. And I know that this is gonna take some courage It may take you getting out of your comfort zone but you may as well start working on it now because the things that you’re holding back and And the the desires that you have mama, they are not gonna be achieved if you don’t speak them And if you want to dig deeper into this topic, you can go back to episode 59 and I’m telling you this lesson is so important that it’s worth checking in on you from another angle 16 weeks later, my loves.

So get it done and let your partner know so you have a chance to really change the trajectory of your relationship and your journey. Now tell your partner this week what they need to know about you. Are you ready to do another cycle? Are you ready to start working on yourself? Are you ready? To finally create some boundaries with family.

Are you ready to start asking for the closeness that you crave? Are you ready to have them stop dismissing you or whatever might be occurring in your relationship? And maybe it has nothing to do with your relationship. Maybe you’re really thinking about a career change because all of this working from home shit has unleashed an entrepreneurial craving of sorts in you, whatever it is.

Pick one thing. Okay. Don’t kitchen sink your partner right now. Bad move. Bad move. Just pick one thing. What’s one thing that you want your partner to know this week? You just never know what might come of it. That’s what I have for you this week, my loves. And if you love what you hear and if your heart is singing, fuck yeah, I totally want to be this way on my journey.

I totally want to make this something that is part of my reality. I want to think, believe, and take action like a woman who succeeds on this journey. My Fearless Referral Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases. Mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this chapter of your life with regret. If you want to learn exactly what I’ve taught women all over the world to help support them toward fertility success. This is your chance. You can go to my website at www.FromMaybeToBaby.com to apply for an interview for this revolutionary program.

My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, my darling woman, you got a gaping hole in your strategy, and let’s fix that shit. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results.

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.