EP78 Thank GUS For No: The Divine Delay

As lovably Type A, perfectionists on this journey, there are few things we hate more than “Nos” and delays. But what if there was a way for you to see the “Nos” as a good thing? Eeek! Not only is this possible, it’s a powerful move that will keep you on track toward your very own Mama-Making success story. Let me teach you how.

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the fearlessly fertile podcast episode 78. Thank Gus for no, the divine delay. Hey loves, because I understand you so well, I’m going to hit you with a two letter word that you probably hate more than any other. No. When it comes to getting what you want, getting things you are working so hard for, there are few things worse than getting a no.

On this journey, no comes in the context of a negative pregnancy test, Canceled treatment cycles, test results that indicate another surgery is needed, friends or family that don’t support your next moves, miscarriage, swapping out members of your bump squad, switching gears from one option to the next, you name it.

All of these things carry varying levels of frustration, heartbreak, or exasperation for show. And I am challenging you this week to see them as more than that. To halt your consideration of the no’s you get on this journey at just the negative implications is settling for the low hanging fruit. Anyone with a pulse can do that.

That takes virtually zero effort. It’s just allowing the negative bias of your reptilian brain to run the show. It’s like settling for what just comes stock on your new car, instead of saying hell yes to some massive upgrades that take your shit from average to awesome. When it comes to living your fertility journey with your mind working for you, not against you, I respectfully submit that if you are committed to success, Your default has got to be awesome.

To help you with that. Let’s chat about what I like to think of as the divine delay, the double D for short, plain and simple. The divine delay, at least how I see it is Gus, God, universe source, stepping in and saying, Hey, doll, we’re going to pump the brakes for just a second. I’ve got something for you to work on.

I’m looking out for you. Trust me. I understand that there will be some of you that will hear that and just want to throw your device across the fucking room. I get it. It’s totally fucking frustrating. And whether you believe me or not, it’s true. After coaching, teaching, and sharing my work with women around the world, I see this proving itself out daily.

Daily. And while we think we are doing everything right, Anyone who actually thinks strategically would be willing to take a step back and ask, is there something I might not be seeing? Is there a lesson I am missing right now? Because my ego is in the way. It takes some emotional maturity and willingness to relinquish the victim mentality to ask that question.

But no matter how you cut it, if you want to be successful on this journey, you’ve got to be willing to ask it so you don’t keep repeating a losing pattern. The divine delay is a blessing. I’m not just saying that to feed you some positive thinking bullshit because positive thinking alone is indeed bullshit.

Positive thinking alone doesn’t get you anywhere. You’ve got to couple your thinking with action in alignment with the good you are calling into your life. This is why your mindset is so critical. If you just see the delays and knows you get as roadblocks instead of detours in the right direction, you’ll just give up gratitude for the nose.

We get AKA the divine delays keeps your eyes peeled for the nudges and pushes in the right direction. It’s about moving forward. It’s also about understanding that a no is really a not yet. And let me tell you, like one of the things that I’m, I always share with my ladies is I am grateful for every single moment of my journey because if Asher had come to me right when I wanted him to, I would have been like the world’s fucking worst mother.

Like it, it just, it actually, and I think I’ve mentioned this before, like it actually makes me Really grateful to think of the woman that I had to become to call this miracle boy in. I had so much to learn. I was so far up my own ass, so much in my own ego, so tied to my old way of being my old patterns, the shit that I had been carrying for decades.

It really freaks me out to no end. And I’m being straight up with you. This is why I’m like, oh my God, if this week, if the only thing I can get to them this week, or the only thing that they walk away with is the delay is divine, then I will consider my work done for the week is like, you got to know that this baby is holding off for a second because there’s a lesson for you to learn.

And this isn’t about blame. It isn’t about an accusation or telling you that you’re not good enough. Fuck all that. That’s not what we’re talking about. What we’re saying is what’s the lesson that I need to learn? Because I’m telling you, if, if you stay the way you’ve always been, you will never be the mom you actually want to be.

We all have dreams of spending as much time as possible with these miracle children. But if you aren’t learning patience, or you aren’t learning good boundaries, or you aren’t learning how to move beyond the upper limits that you’ve set for yourself, or the old programming that your parents gave you, how the fuck are you ever going to create a better future for your children?

You’re just going to be repeating the same shit. that people have been doing in your family for fucking generations. I know in your heart and your mind, you’ve got big plans for this baby. So big plans require big growth for mom. I hear women in my fearlessly fertile method program telling me all the time, like, holy fuck, I had no idea I was blocking myself in this way.

Like we’re constantly discovering. Blocks left and right and and old ways of thinking and patterns that are literally creating blocks between them and their babies. And this is why doing this work, taking the time and saying, thank Gus for the no, and being grateful for the divine delay is such a master stroke is because you are undoubtedly in some way, we all do this.

We all do this. So this is not. Me saying, Hey, you’re, you’re like mortally flawed as a human being or some shit. That’s not it at all. It’s like, look, if you’re not getting the result you want, you have to look around and see what’s not working. And more often than not, you got the physical part nailed. Now it’s about the other piece of the puzzle.

The critical piece of the puzzle. What’s going on in your mind? Because remember, Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. You cannot get around it. It’s logical and linear. And the other thing is every single one of my ladies would tell you that the nose they got gave them an opportunity to learn something that proved absolutely critical to their success on this journey.

If you have to go back, listen to each and every one of the women you have heard on this podcast. Each of them found a gear they didn’t know they had as a result of changing what they thought and believed. Not one of them settled. They demanded the whole freaking enchilada, baby, mind and body. They were willing to do the work and learn the lesson.

And today they are holding babies because of it. Think of the world renowned doctors you’ve heard on this podcast talking about this, like Dr. Siegel and Dr. Kiltz, as well as my clients who are medical professionals. My loves you gotta thank Gus for the no thank Gus for the divine delay. So this is the challenge that I have for you this week, and here are the steps.

Step one, think about all of the nos you’ve gotten on this journey. Lovingly. Consider each one of the quote unquote setbacks you have faced and underlined lovingly about a thousand times. Okay. Step two, grab a piece of paper and make a list of 25 of them. Yes, 25 for each. No, or divine delay you have faced.

I want you to list the lesson you learned as a result of it. So you can draw a line down the center of the page and on one side put the set back or divine delay or no, however you want to categorize it. And then on the other side of the page, you’re going to write the lesson you learned as a result of it.

What did each divine delay teach you and how are you better for it? How are you more prepared for being a mom? Can’t think of 25? Get more granular. Here’s an example. Just write down negative pregnancy test August. And then next to that, Make it up. How are you better for the negative pregnancy test? How might this divine delay be happening for you?

How are you being served by this? Now, if you stay stuck in thinking there is nothing for you and any of this, then you’ve missed the point. Start this episode over again from the beginning. Consider your divine delays with an open heart. If you can’t think of any blessings from the delay, baby, your ego is getting in the way.

Get over yourself. I say that with love. Quit making this about you and shit happening on your timeline. Remember, this is about your baby. This is about your family. This is about you living out your divine purpose of being a mom. The world needs you to be a mom. You have so much to offer. So see this whole thing through.

And maybe the lesson for you is about getting out of your own way. Quit sabotaging your vision and demand a revelation. Doll, you will find it. And step three, take a screenshot of this podcast and post it to your Facebook or Insta stories tagging me. Text the link to someone who might desperately need to hear it.

Love, what if you had the power to stop fear and negativity from creating blocks between you and your baby? Can you even imagine what it would be like to live your journey with gratitude for the divine delays? Seriously, how stressed out would you be about your next cycle? Probably a whole lot less. How might that support your success, mama?

Mindset on this journey is a skill set. Learning how to do this is surprisingly simple and repeatable. Where could you be 12 months from now, love? My Fearlessly Fertile Method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months. And say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this chapter of your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. So to apply for your interview for this revolutionary program. Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for your interview with me there. My methodology is to help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy, mama. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

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Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.