EP79 Fertility Success Principle #6

This little gem is the exact opposite of what most of us are taught as women. It flies in the face of “polite” behavior.  Used properly, you will see how it’s good for your success on this journey—and interestingly enough, it’s awesome for the people around you. It’s the gift that keeps on giving!

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 79, fertility success principle number six. Hey mama. This week, I’ve got another fertility success principle for you. I truly love these episodes because we get down to the nitty gritty about what truly distinguishes women who go the distance on this journey.

If there are any Namby Pamby participation prize, everybody wins, that’s not fair, Roseanne. Alarm bells going off in your head about the idea that there’s something Different about women who beat the odds. Let’s take a moment to get some shit straight. Different does not mean better. This isn’t a judgment about any woman’s worth or worthiness.

Nor is any of this an accusation. It’s simply priceless fucking awareness. Think about it. If you were coaching people you cared about, and you had insider information about what makes Oprah, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, or RuPaul, and yes, I said it, RuPaul, that queen is Fierce! That queen can teach us a few things about ferocity on this journey, right?

Well, if you wanted to know what made all of those amazing people so successful, wouldn’t you share it? Wouldn’t you scream it from the rooftops and try to instill it in the hearts of those you serve? Knowing that just one nugget of information or one turn of phrase Could be the aha moment one of those people were longing for, which catapults them to success.

And, because you love your people, you want them to get real results smarter and faster than you ever did. You wouldn’t waste their time either by sugarcoating shit. This, my loves, is why I come at you the way I do. Direct. I serve women that are more committed to bringing their dreams to fruition than their excuses, fear, victimhood, or bullshit.

It’s just that simple. Coddling you or telling you everything’s gonna be okay. Without giving you real shit from the trenches that is actually going to help you do what you need to be do to be successful is a dis fucking service. In sharing these success principles, I’m offering you the chance to take an honest look at yourself and say, Hey!

Am I doing what successful women are doing or am I sabotaging my own success with the thoughts and beliefs I’m entertaining? Because everything starts as a thought. It takes guts and commitment to the vision you have for your life to ask brave as fuck questions like this. I get that this level of direct communication on this topic may rub some the wrong way, but life is too short to beat around the fucking bush.

This is why women committed to success come to me. The ability to pivot, my love, is your insurance policy for progress. I can be certain about this because I had to do this work myself. I had to work on myself too, baby. I didn’t just wake up and my journey was unfucked. I had to roll up my sleeves, quit feeling sorry for myself, and blaming others for how I felt.

None of that foolishness put Asher in my arms. So I got you boo buckle up. This is why the success principle. I want to share with you today is Have a high opinion of yourself Women who beat the odds on this journey have a high opinion of themselves put another way Women who succeed on this journey believe that they and their dreams matter They believe that they’re worth the investment of time, money, sweat, and tears to bring their vision for motherhood to pass.

Having a high opinion of yourself doesn’t mean that you’re a narcissistic maniac. Far too many of us were raised with the idea that having a high opinion of yourself is sinful, selfish, or dripping with hubris. None of that’s true. Having a high opinion of yourself is actually showing respect for a power that is higher than all of us.

What I refer to as Gus God, universe source. Think about it. I heard Gary Vaynerchuk in one of his Insta posts the other day say that you have a one in 444 trillion chance of being human. That means you are more likely to win the mega millions five times over than being born. When you get how lucky you are to even be here in this time and space and not born before antibiotics or aspirin, you will take a step back and say, shit, wow, I am one blessed mofo.

There must be a reason why I am here. There is something in me that the creator needed to express through me. Therefore, why not respect and love me? There is and only will ever be one you, my darling. Look, thinking highly of yourself isn’t to the detriment or denigration of others. Thinking highly of yourself isn’t some twisted trade off where if you think highly of yourself, you must necessarily therefore think less of other people.

That’s ridiculous. It’s a false choice. You can walk and chew gum at the same time, right? You can think highly of yourself. And think highly of other people. Those two things can coexist and can be true at the same time. In fact, catch this. I would argue that the higher the opinion you hold of yourself, the more appreciation you can have for other people.

There’s no competition between you. You can basically say, I’m so fucking awesome. And you know what? So I’m living the dream, and I love it so much that of course I want the same for you. Can you even imagine that? Can you imagine getting to the place where that’s what you actually thought? Can you imagine feeling that way about you?

Having a high opinion of yourself is part of having an abundant mindset. You aren’t stuck in the idiotic notion that there’s only so much good or so many babies to go around. Thinking highly of yourself is part of how you get out of the lack and scarcity mindset that fuels the why me and jealousy that has you comparing yourself to other people and feeling stabbed in the heart whenever you see pregnant women.

When you think highly of yourself, you can be like, Fuck yeah, that woman is so blessed to be pregnant. She’s so beautiful. And, my blessing is coming too. She can be blessed, and so can I. My baby is coming. Can you imagine if you felt that way about yourself? Seriously, think about it. How different would your journey be if you did?

If you go back and listen to all of the women that have been on this podcast, you will hear that they all have this in common. They had the guts to think highly enough of themselves to keep going, to trust their instincts, to say, I am worth it. I will do the work. I will change what I believe about myself.

I am willing to look beyond what’s directly in front of me. And I will see beyond that. I will trust me. All of those women you’ve heard from are so fucking generous and have the biggest hearts. Can you see the power of having a high opinion of yourself and what it can do for your journey? When you have a high opinion of yourself, my love, you can go toe to toe with any expert or statistic and say, Okay, cool.

I hear what you have to say and I receive that information. But that information has nothing to do with me or my potential. I’m not defined by numbers of the past. I know me and I trust me. Can you even imagine approaching your journey that way, how different your outcome could be having a high opinion of yourself and what you believe means that you will take completely different action than someone who doesn’t love or trust themselves.

What do we know about action? It directly impacts your results. Remember thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. It’s logical and linear. When you hold a high opinion of yourself, you can see beyond your past and statistics. You make choices that feel right to you, not decisions that people who don’t know shit about you try to shame or bully you into.

You hold loving thoughts of you. Therefore you will make loving choices and take loving action in furtherance of what you hold dear. My darling woman, let go of the generations of misogyny that has set up women to think that we have to compete against each other. We have to cannibalize each other. We have to push each other down.

All of us have worthy dreams and aspirations. Give yourself a chance to feel this. Let go of the old programming that says, if you think highly of yourself, that you must be stuck up or that you think you’re better than anyone else. It’s hateful bullshit that is meant to hold all of us down. Fuck that.

Own your dreams, mama. Own your value. Own your unique beauty. Own your truth. Own your accomplishments. Own the desire in your heart to be a mom, it’s there because it was meant for you. You’ve got to understand that true respect, unshakable love and respect for yourself doesn’t come from outside of you, it comes from within.

So my love, here is an exercise to take this rant and rave. To the next level, cultivate a high opinion of yourself. One, take an honest look at the way you think about yourself today. Do you see yourself as someone that deserves respect? Are you proud of your accomplishments? Do you look at what you’ve done so far in this life and on this journey and think, fuck, yeah.

Two, write yourself a love letter. It may be the most important love letter you ever write. Tell yourself why you love you. Write it like you are your biggest fan. Lay out your case counsel for why you deserve to be held in high regard by you. What other people think doesn’t fucking matter. Most people are too tied up in their own mess to really care about you anyway, right?

So use that reality to your advantage. You get to love you regardless of what anyone thinks. Now, once you’re done with that love letter, read it every day for a week. Let that be the first thing that you read in the morning. It’s going to feel dumb. It’s going to feel silly, but notice what happens and then send me an email telling me what it was like.

It’s awesome. Just some insider information there. And then third, text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me at Roseanne Austin fertility. If you are ready to start thinking, believing, and taking action like the smartest fuck woman who beats the odds, I got you boo.

Remember thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. Everything starts as a thought. Your mama making success begins with what you’ve got going on upstairs. Mama, what if you could hold a high opinion of yourself, regardless of your past quote unquote failures, age, or any other bullshit that’s blocking your success right now, how might that propel you toward new, better results?

Mindset on this journey is a skillset. Love learning how to do it is surprisingly simple and repeatable. Where could you be 12 months from now? My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.

I work with women who are committed to success to apply for your interview for this revolutionary program. Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview with me there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves.

If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success till next time. Change your mindset. Change your results. Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.