EP83 The Smartest Thing To Focus On

If you don’t know which direction to go next on this journey or like at any given moment you are juggling knives, let me teach you where smart women put their focus. When you bring yourself back to “this” focal point, fear, freakout, and agonizing over statistics and probabilities falls away.  With “this” as your focus, you are unstoppable.

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 83. The smartest thing you can focus on. Two, three, what? Good morning, Asher. Good morning, Asher. What’s on your, what’s your plan for the day? I’m going to go to school, try this out. What are you trying out?

Oh, that’s a microphone. That’s a microphone. You want to say hi to the ladies? Hey, ladies. You want to sing Old Macdonald? Old Macdonald had a farm, E I E I O Had a farm and had a pig. Old Macdonald had a cow, Old Macdonald had a horse. E I E I O. What about Baa Baa Black Sheep? Baa Baa Black Sheep, I’m in the world.

It’s so, yes, so beautiful. One for the next and one for the past year. One for The music just stopped. Baa Baa Black Sheep, I’m It’s so, yes, so beautiful. One for the next and one for the game. Baa Baa Black Sheep, I’m in the world. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Be it is. Are you excited about Halloween? Yeah. What do you want to be for Halloween?

I’m going to be a firetruck for Halloween. Oh, you’re going to go trick or treating? Yeah, I’m going to go trick or treating with me. Yeah, of course I want to go trick or treating with you. What’s that? That’s a microphone. You like it? Hey, hold on. Yeah, yeah, I like it. Okay, cool. Well, go finish your breakfast, baby.

I love you. Love you. Have a good day. Have a good day. Okay, go down and eat your breakfast. Hey mama, I am so glad you are here and I brought my special guest on to this week’s episode Asher Douglas because I have a single objective for our time together this week I want to help drag your ass back to reality We get so wrapped up in shit that really doesn’t matter on this journey Like what other people think how many times we failed or what the quote unquote statistics say and you know What what’s real is that you?

As a woman, right now, listening to this podcast, you can’t fucking wait to have your own moments like that with your child. Singing crazy, twisted songs about old McDonald’s farm and whether or not you have any wool, okay? Like, that’s the shit that actually matters on this journey. And you know what?

Sometimes we need a reality check to snap us back to what is, in fact, real. You are a woman. With a desire in her heart to be a mom. And that desire is there because it was meant for you. Anything else is a distraction. It’s bullshit. It doesn’t matter how many times you failed. It doesn’t matter what other people say or what other people think.

And if you have any doubt about how much that stuff doesn’t matter, just re listen to every podcast episode with one of my ladies in it. They beat crazy odds. That’s how much all of that distraction bullshit doesn’t matter. And let’s be honest, ladies. Every single day on this journey, we tell ourselves bold faced lies like we aren’t worthy, we are fools for following our heart, or what we desire is for other people.

And we get our heads wrapped around the axle of whatever bullshit comes our way in this journey, which ultimately detaches us From why we are on this journey to begin with, it’s time to stop that shit. You got to be smarter about your time. That’s why we’re talking about the smartest thing you could possibly focus on.

You are better served to use the time you have left in this year wisely. It isn’t going to give you the stamina or resilience that’s required to be successful on this journey to be focusing on things that just don’t fucking matter in the end. Okay. I’m going to love you enough to give it to you straight.

You’ve got to be able to take a punch and shake it off and keep going. You’ve got to have that ability to keep putting one foot in front of the other. And the only thing that’s actually going to ignite that within you and is sustainable within you is going to be the smartest thing you can focus on. At that.

is love. Love, baby! The smartest thing you can focus on is love as you live this journey. The love you have for your dream, the love you have for your family, and the love you have for yourself. Yes, that actually fucking matters. The love you have for this child and that experience you want to create. I mean, seriously, if there was any part of you that was absolutely melting as you listened to that conversation that Asher and I had, like, that is the part of you that knows This is why you can’t wait to have that moment.

This is actually why you are enduring the crazy shit that you are enduring on this journey. It is love. And, you know, that’s what’s going to keep you taking whatever this journey sends your way and saying, bring it bitch, nothing’s getting between me and what I know in my soul is mine. Isn’t that why you are on this journey?

Love? Isn’t that what’s truly behind all of this? Don’t forget that. Do not forget where your focus actually belongs. You long to have your own old McDonald moment with your child. You can’t wait to have that kind of conversation, right? You can’t wait to dress them for school, or have their first Halloween, or whatever else it is that you dream of.

That tiny little kid voice is what you long to hear. And think about it, how different would your journey be today if you focused on the love for this child instead of the bullshit that fills your head and distracts you from what’s real. The only thing that’s real is love in this life, baby. Everything else is, is subject to interpretation.

It’s, it’s, it’s debatable about whether or not it actually fucking matters. And it’s all a matter of perspective. What is eternal is love. And check this out. It’s only when our ego gets involved that we get thrown off track. It’s only when we get into our ego and what we tell ourselves not having a child yet means that we fuck shit up.

It’s egoic, selfish nonsense. It’s the same egoic, selfish nonsense that will lead you to see yourself as a victim on this journey, which is the most repulsive kind of low vibe energy that you can bring to it. So let’s illustrate this point. Let’s compare two thought patterns side by side. Okay, here’s the first one.

Imagine that you’re approaching this journey with the following conversation in your head with this child. Hey baby, I love you sweetheart. I know you aren’t here yet, but here’s what you need to know about mama. She’s eating clean. She’s got faith. Her mindset is strong. She isn’t cutting corners on her treatments or the support that she’s getting for her body.

My darling baby mama is ready for you. Mama loves you. Mama trusts you. I know you’re on your way and I can’t wait to love you so much. I just want to scream. I can’t wait to meet you baby now. Compare that thought process with this. Nothing ever works out for me. I’ve failed so many times. My life sucks.

Nobody understands me. Money is for other people. I can’t afford that. That’s for rich people. Everyone else has kids, but me, I’m getting left behind. My life is not complete. Just get this kid here so I can get off this fucking journey. I’m tired of doing all the things. The statistics aren’t in my favor.

I’m too old. This baby is gonna save my marriage. This baby is gonna get my partner to stay. My stepkids won’t get all the attention now. My partner’s ex won’t have all the power. Does any of that sound like love? And ooh, I know that last part may get under the skin of some of you. And if so, good. I respectfully submit that putting the responsibility of fixing your situation on a child is not love, baby.

So that is, do not let that distract you from what actually matters. Don’t do that to yourself. And do not do that to this child. You are better than that. Clean up your intentions, my loves. It’s going to do you so much good in the end and it’s going to remind you of who you really are and what you really have in your heart.

Now, my darlings, you have a chance to decide today what you are going to lead your journey with. Love or something else. One feeds your soul and the other will eat you alive. And don’t say I didn’t warn you. Focus on love, baby. Focus on love. It’s the smartest thing you can possibly focus your attention on.

So here’s an exercise to take this to the next level. Mind your focus. Step one. Take an honest look at where your focus has been. Are you focusing on the love you have for this child? Or are you focused on something else? What are you leading with on this journey? Love or something else? To make a decision to be smarter, right?

Smart women mind their focus. It’s the smartest thing you can possibly do is to focus on love. We can all use being a little smarter, right? Who the fuck doesn’t want to be wiser and smarter about the way you live your life? Mark your calendar that today is the day you will start leading with love on this journey.

Let the love you have for this child be the guiding principle from which all of your decisions are made. From a place of love. Is it time to let some relationships go? Is it time to level up your bump squad? Is it time for a new physician or other practitioners? Perhaps is the most loving thing you can do is stop listening to the news or stop watching the news.

Maybe you need to step away from that shit. If something is negative, maybe it’s time to step out of it and away from it. Is it finally time to start working on that mindset work you’ve been wanting to do? You know, whatever you decide, let the choice be made from a place of love, not fucking lack and scarcity.

All that is, is something else. Lack and scarcity is not love. Lack and scarcity is something else. It is firmly in the something else camp. When you make choices from a place of love, the most incredible things start happening. Love is in alignment with this child you desire, and you just may be surprised at how much faster they find you.

And third text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me. What if you could honestly look around your journey and say, fuck, I am totally ready for this baby. My mind is strong, my body is strong, and my heart is open.

For reals, doll. How might that propel you to new and better results? You can’t deny it. Mind and body work together. And mindset is a skill set. Think about it. Where could you be 12 months from now if you had this piece of the puzzle firmly in place? My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind and body.

So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. There’s nothing more expensive. Trust me. I work with women who are committed to success to apply for your interview for this revolutionary program. Go to my website. www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview with me there. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. And it’s up to you to decide whether or not you’re willing to settle for that shit. Let’s fix it and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset. Change your results.

Love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

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