EP87 Fearless Femme: The Case For Living Your Fertility Journey LUXE

What if the idea that this journey HAS to be about rigid rules, misery, pain, sacrifice, and suffering is all wrong? What if the smartest path to your baby has nothing to do with those things at all? In this episode, I am going to make a case for a seismic shift in the way you live your journey. It’s time to live your fertility journey luxuriously. Skeptical? Just lis-ten.

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 87, Fearless Femme, the case for living your journey, lux. Hey mama, OMG, I am positively thrilled to be with you this week as we begin a series of episodes that are going to absolutely rock your paradigm of what’s possible on this journey.

What we are diving into is a belief and philosophy that, frankly, I’ve fought for a very long time on my journey. And when I learned to embrace it without apology, it put me on a trajectory that made bringing my boy home a certainty, a certainty. There is no question in my mind, not a single question at all.

And this is a really, this topic has been on my heart for, for a while because One of the things that women come to me all the time about is this whole concept of femininity, like, ah, how do I do this journey? Feminine. I’m a lovably type eight control, freaky professional who is killing it in her career.

And what I’ve been rewarded for up to this point was being in my masculine, getting shit done and, and kind of doing things in a very masculine energy. So how the fuck do I get into this whole feminine thing? And so. This concept that we’re going to be talking about is, is complex. There’s many layers to it, but it has a direct connection to concept of femininity.

It’s going to be all about receiving because what do we know about conceiving? It’s all about receiving, and we’re going to get into that in just a second, but there are many, many facets, which is why we are doing. Multiple episodes that are going to be touching on topics that really feed and support this idea of fearless femme on this journey.

And I’m going to be making a case for living it lux. So, this idea of living your journey luxuriously is a massive paradigm shift. Yes, you heard that right. Luxuriously, living this journey luxuriously. This journey can in fact be lux if you let it. Now I completely understand that when you hear me say the words luxury and journey and specifically meaning this journey in the same sentence, there’s something in your brain that kind of goes screech.

What? What? What are you talking about, Rezaan? And I totally get it. The idea that I’m proposing here is kind of punk rock in comparison to the commonly accepted Summers Evad consciousness of misery you are often sold on this journey. And it’s total and complete bullshit, so we’re gonna shake that up. So I’ll start this Teaching by stating in no uncertain terms that the idea you have to live your fertility journey as a prisoner to guilt, shame, not enoughness.

That’s too good for me. That’s for other people lack scarcity. Penny wise pound foolish decisions and endlessly living as a hostage to your past, your mistakes, or the draconian view that this chapter in your life necessarily requires austerity, starvation like sacrifice, or that going for your dreams is somehow fucking selfish is complete and utter bullshit.

Just take that in for a second. All of the lies that you have been told about how you are supposed to live this journey and how being on this journey necessarily has to fucking suck is a load of fucking horseshit. Reject it, rebuke it, rebut it. All of that. In fact, I would argue that living your journey with those Thoughts running the show is a virtual guarantee that you will stay blocked, stuck, and keep your success, the success you truly crave, out of reach.

Living your journey that way will eat away at your resilience and tenacity like a family of rats until there’s nothing left but bitterness and regret. It’s a fuckin setup. All of those things I mentioned are someone else’s baggage. And you know the cool thing about someone else’s baggage? You can choose not to carry it.

Drop it like a lady boss who doesn’t have the time to wallow in misery because she’s catching the next direct flight to Mama Town. That’s what you get to do. We know that This baggage is someone else’s because they are judgments. Remember what I just said. We’re talking about the idea that you have to live this journey as a prisoner to guilt, shame, not enough, that’s too good, that’s for other people, lax, scarcity, penny wise, pound foolish decisions, and endlessly being a hostage to the past, your mistakes, or a draconian view of how this journey necessarily, quote unquote, has to be.

Is someone else’s story. They are judgments. They’re just bullshit stories that get weaponized and used to keep women small and struggling on this journey. Living in the confinement of those ridiculous judgments only amplifies the very real pain that we face on this journey, which is why I stand for a seismic shift in the way women live this journey.

I stand for the proposition of living at Lux as fuck. My definition of luxury in this context is a bit tongue in cheek because what I refer to as luxury is actually fairly basic when you really think about it. Compared to the way that far too many women live this chapter in their lives, it is definitely luxurious.

I define luxury on this journey as being lavishly supported physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually, okay? Listen to what I just said. The definition as I use it on this journey in the context of this journey is being supported lavishly, physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

That means you get to have a full and complete experience. You get to have it all, baby. You get to have space for your entire experience in this journey. This is critically important because having that support means you are in receiving mode. Remember conceiving is all about receiving. When you are open to receiving the support you desire physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually, we know you’re in your feminine bingo, right?

That’s kind of where you want to be when you’re trying to conceive. You are trying to do the most divine feminine thing you can possibly do, and that is create, carry, and give birth to a new life. That requires you to receive on a practical and metaphorical level. Luxury isn’t frivolous. It’s an attitude.

It’s a way of seeing yourself. It’s about seeing yourself as worthy. And honoring your desires. Everyone’s definition of luxury is going to be different and that’s perfectly awesome. The point is to embrace it, celebrate it, and feed it. And let’s get something else straight. There is a deeply feminine part of you that absolutely fuckin loves pleasure, beauty, attention, pampering, being spoiled, loved, adored, celebrated, and cherished.

Get out of the closet and admit it! There is something that you love about all of that, and it looks different for everyone, but just come clean with yourself. There is a deeply feminine part of you that loves all of these things, and here’s why. These are all life affirming things. These are all life affirming things.

Affirming things. They make you feel alive, connected, and so high vibrational. When you allow your desires to be met here, it feels like anything is possible. Anything. Your attitude is completely different when you stay in a Ritz Carlton versus a fuckin Motel 6. You can’t deny it. You are well advised to lavish these things on yourself because they literally put you in alignment with this baby that you desire.

These same things that you desire in your heart of hearts to whatever degree you desire them, you know you will lavish upon your child. See the vibrational match? Like attracts like. You can’t tell me that you won’t do the things that will celebrate your child’s beauty, give them attention, pamper them, spoil them, love them, adore them, celebrate them, and cherish them.

You want those same things for yourself. And the sooner you embrace that, the sooner you meet the vibration of this child. Feed this fearless femme inside of you like attracts like. This fearless femme inside of you is wise as fuck. And if you’re living your journey begging for crumbs, you’re gonna starve her out.

You are literally sending out exhausted energy that’s like a giant billboard on the side of the baby making highway saying, Hey, don’t stop here. There is nothing for you. We’re starving over here. Live your journey luxuriously. You are trying to conceive and carry your baby. There has never been a better time to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

Give yourself the chance to really be alive again. Mama, you are trying to call in life. You must do and engage in life affirming activities. Give yourself what you want. Ask for what you want. Demand joy in every aspect of your life. Find members of your Bump Squad that embrace Quality of life over rigid rules.

Get coaching, eat the chocolate, take the trip, buy the shoes, get the massage, do the treatment, take the nap, wear the lipstick, buy the fabulous bra and panties. Have the second orgasm, sleep in, say full bodied hell yeses. Have the courage to say no. Claim what’s yours. Live this journey luxuriously with no apologies.

This is what Gus, God Universe source, wants for you. This is why this ship feels so good. Don’t buy somebody else’s guilt ridden bullshit story that if you want things, it means you’re fucking greedy. No, it means you are here to live a full life and that includes pleasure. That includes all of these life affirming things that we’ve been talking about.

Treat yourself like the coolest, most wise, famous mom on the planet. Do this for you. Do this for your child. Lux is not about the money you spend. It’s about the life you live and the life you will call in. Get that in your brain. There is nothing grabby, greedy, or stingy, or any of that bullshit about living this journey.

Lux. It’s about the life you live and the life you will call in. And it doesn’t surprise me one bit that Asher came to us when he did. My husband and I were saying massive hell yeses to ourselves and living our journey with so much joy. We finally got over and rebuke that bullshit idea that we had to spend another day on this journey miserable because it was sending Rasher the wrong message.

It was sending our boy the wrong message that we are tired as fuck. We have nothing, you know, to look forward to in our lives. And we’re all about lack and scarcity. That is not the kind of home we wanted to bring him. And we’re like, Hey baby, we’re rolling out the red carpet for you. Mom and dad, we are happy.

We are living a full life. And because we’re living a full life, there’s nothing but room for you. There’s so much love. There’s so much possibility. Think about the way you are currently living this journey and ask yourself, is that like, is that going to send out the welcome wagon to this baby? Or are you telling this baby there’s no food in the cupboards, right?

There’s no joy here. There’s no happiness here. Really think about that because in the cycle, just prior to conceiving Asher, I hadn’t felt so alive in years. We had never felt so alive in so many years. It makes perfect sense that he came when he did. Conceiving him had nothing to do with diets, lotions, or potions.

It had nothing to do with any of that. It had everything to do with me. The place where he would grow and thrive for 39 joyous weeks. And I see the same transformation in my ladies and their own outrageous success. So take a moment right now. And think about how different a day in your journey would feel if you lived it luxuriously.

Having your physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs met. You know, maybe one of those things that you need to do is connect with Gus. Maybe that’s a part of your life where you’re starving and you’re not engaging in the luxury of being connected to your fucking creator. And being in gratitude and thanking Gus every single day for the blessings and the goodness that you do have in your life.

Take that in because that’s actually luxury when you have that kind of connection, you know If you need to listen to the three episodes I did on faith turn that shit up because it’s all connected. It’s all connected And maybe having your physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs met. Maybe that looks like having a weekly in home massage.

Perhaps someone coming to help you prep your meals for the week according to your meal plans. Reading for pleasure. Making consistent time every week to be working on your mindset like the ladies in my Fearlessly Fertile Method program do. Maybe for you, it means connecting with Gus, as I was just saying.

Going out on dates with your partner, investing in yourself, booking a weekend getaway, or whatever your fearless femme desires. That is some full fat livin baby! Full fat livin isn’t it? And isn’t that the greatest thing ever? Like, when we live that sort of full fat, like, awesomeness, it’s like, our lives become silky and full and just luscious.

That is the point that when you think about how you can make your life luscious, just so full of joy, so feeling so well taken care of and all of this goodness, doesn’t that feel a hell of a lot more fertile than being in like austere starvation mode on this journey? Who the fuck says that you can’t live your journey that way?

Just remember how much more fertile you felt just entertaining those thoughts of living full fat on this journey. Live your journey lux, baby. So here’s an exercise to take this screed to the next level. Embrace lux. One, take an honest look at the way you live your fertility journey now, my love. Is it the journey of a woman who is merely surviving, hanging on, trying to get through each day?

Or are you luxuriously thriving? Be honest. Step two, what comes up for you as you think about living lux? Does it have a negative connotation? Have you been holding your nose this whole time as we’re having this conversation? Do you make it wrong or selfish to have luxury? Be honest here. And here’s why.

Because the stories you tell about having the things you desire and feeling the way you desire to feel will reveal exactly what’s standing in your way of having those things. Know your stories, baby, because then you know what to do about them. Or at least you know where to start. Step three, ask yourself, how do you, as an individual, regardless of all the bullshit you may have been raised with, all the bullshit that your, you know, maybe lack and scarcity friends or relatives or even your partner might have, separate from all of those stories, how do you choose to define luxury?

And then last, Text the link to this podcast episode to someone you think could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me. Now, think about this, doll. What if instead of starving the joy and vibrance out of your journey, you learn to live it luxe? Just think about that right now.

Which do you think is more of a celebration of the feminine? The exact feminine energy you need to tap into in order to bring this baby home. You can’t get around it. You gotta, you gotta tap into your feminine. And she’s gotta be fed. She’s gotta be fed. Well, she cannot be fucking starving. Think about what you were saying to this baby by living in a mindset of austerity and lack.

Think, really think about how different your results could be 12 months from now if you learned how to thrive. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases, mind and body. So they don’t have to look back on this chapter in their life with regret.

And that includes taking care and engaging and learning to leverage their fearless femme. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for this revolutionary program. Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToNaby.com and apply for time with me there. I’m going to teach you everything I have taught every single one of my successful miracle mamas that you’ve heard on this podcast.

I’m going to teach you that loves. My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true and their results as you heard here, speak for themselves. Because if you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, baby love, you got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success.

Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast. Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you when it comes to your dreams. Keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.