EP89 Fearless Femme: Make Your Fertility Journey Easy…Like Sunday Morning

What if instead of struggling, you could live your fertility journey with ease? Learn a sim-ple and systematic approach to dismantling the stronghold “struggle” has on your jour-ney, so you can UPGRADE to living it with ease. There is massive, baby-making power in dropping the drama, Mama!

Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the fearlessly fertile podcast episode 89. Fearless Femme. Live your fertility journey easy. Easy like Sunday morning. Okay. No more singing. Like, I’m sure you’re traumatized right now just even hearing that, but Mama, it is so good to be with you again.

I just love this series of episodes we’re doing on becoming a fearless femme, and I hope you love them too. I just gotta ask, how with all of this, you know, living your journey lux and having a worthy wardrobe, are we shaking things up and dusting off the cobwebs? I sure as fuck expect that we are, because you deserve to be alive on this journey.

Live your journey lux. And remember, I define luxury on this journey as being lavishly supported physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Part of that includes giving yourself the gift of ease. What if you lived your journey easy? Easy like Sunday morning. And if you don’t know the reference I’m making, get out your music service right now and search the Commodores easy.

Lionel Richie is so fucking good, actually. Faith no more does a really cool version of easy as well. So see which one appeals to you, but in either case, do it because a very well may become your theme song for the next week. And I’m telling you seriously, let the idea of easy become your battle cry. And we’re going to talk about why.

Now, I get that there may be part of you shouting, as usual, What the fuck, Roseanne? How can I make any of this easy? I’m stressed out, strung out, wiped out. I’ve got all this pressure coming at me from all different directions. I’m worried about time, the number of quote unquote failures I’ve had, what the people around me might think, the statistics, and I agonize over whether I’m doing any of this right.

Eh, stop. I totally get it, love. But think about all of those things that are creating the pressure. If you look at them carefully, they’re kind of made up. They are merely a matter of perspective. So let’s take them one by one as we create a way for you to begin living your journey easy. So we’ll start off with time.

Here’s what you got to know. Your timeline is arbitrary. Just because you wanted to have a baby by 40 doesn’t mean you can’t have one at 41. Got any doubts about this? Just re listen to episode 84 with Maren. And the idea that you have about when You have your baby, all of that’s made up. So, what you want to do is make time a non issue.

Age and number of years of trying has no meaning other than that which you choose to give it. You get to make shit easy on yourself by taking the position that your baby will get here when they Already, this is about your baby, not you, love. And I love you enough to say it. Quit indicting yourself over the question of time.

It’s totally out of your control. Set your watch to, my baby will come at the perfect time. Got it? Now let’s talk about the pressure and lack of ease that we create when we agonize over our number of quote unquote failures. This doesn’t mean anything either. You can see failure in many different ways.

This can simply be an invitation to take another approach, or you can figure that each quote unquote failure is a step closer to your baby, because no one fails all the time. There are a hell of a lot more no’s than there are yes’s on this journey. So, the more no’s you get may be a signal that there’s a big fat fucking yes right around the corner for you.

You are way smarter to count your failures as evidence of how badass and gangster you are when it comes to holding fast to your dreams, as opposed to seeing yourself as a loser for your failures. Most people don’t have the titanium ovaries you have to keep going. So next time you freak out about failure, make shit easy on yourself and say, Woo girl!

I am one step closer to momma town! That is way easier than wallowing in the shit pit. Let’s talk about the other thing that can really rob us of ease on this journey, and that’s what other people think. Here’s what you gotta remember. Most people aren’t thinking about you, love. They aren’t. They’re thinking about themselves.

Within the context of you, it’s human nature. People bring their judgments and biases, and that’s totally cool. But that’s their problem, not yours. It’s not your job to make other people happy with your choices. They’re grownups. If they lose one minute of sleep over what you are doing, that says way more about them than it does about you.

The only people that would give you static about your journey are people that need to be taught some boundaries. Maybe it’s time to lay some down. Make shit easy for yourself here and put more attention on what you think. Let’s also talk about statistics, okay? Do yourself a favor and listen to every episode with one of my ladies.

They beat incredible odds. Make sure you listen to episodes 8 and 70 as well with Dr. Siegel and Dr. Kiltz. Blow your fucking minds. Make shit easy, mama, when it comes to statistics. Decide that you’ll beat them. Make it real easy. Just decide you’re gonna beat the odds. Awesome, right? Now, the last thing we’re gonna talk about here with regard to the questions and the The saboteur stories and all that shit that causes us to have a lack of ease on this journey and causes us to think that ease is impossible on this journey is this overarching question of am I doing any of this right?

Make shit easy and just say yes, I am doing this right according to what I know today. Open your heart to the idea that things can be better. Can I do this better? Is way more awesome of a question than the indictment laden, Am I doing this right? The implication is that you are kind of a fuck up and don’t know what you’re doing.

Quit devaluing your instincts. I’m willing to bet that you’ve got the physical shit down. Because that’s the first thing that most women do on this journey. Great. Can it get better? Sure. There’s always room to be better. That’s the awesome thing about being human. Now, ask yourself about the way that you think on this journey.

My guess is that there’s also room for that piece of the puzzle to get better. I know a killer program that can help you kick ass when it comes to that. And man, baby, when you get that shit in order, it’s crazy. What happens again? Just listen to the episodes with my ladies. That shit will give you goosebumps.

Make shit easy, ladies. Getting a gold medal in suffering on this journey isn’t going to do shit for your fertility. In fact, the anecdotal and scientific evidence strongly suggests otherwise. This is why I’m inviting you to consider making your journey easy. A critical aspect of ease is dropping the drama.

Don’t get involved in it. An untrained mind will throw you all kinds of drama. Funny how until we discipline our mind, it will act like a gang of catty bitches competing for head cheerleader on the misery squad. Make your mind obey you. Not the other way around. Condition easy. It’s important for me to also point out something that I think may get in your way of living your journey with ease.

And it’s the idea that living your journey easy means that you don’t give a shit. None of that’s true. Nor does it mean that you are denying the very real challenges you might be facing today. Living your journey easy means that you are not going to expend your precious energy on shit that’s made up.

Arbitrary, and not the whole truth. I have said it before and I will keep saying it. On a planet of almost 8 billion people, you can be certain there is another woman on this planet who faced similar issues on this journey and is now holding her baby. Strip your journey of the drama, mama! I can tell you after my own very lengthy journey, which included 84 failures, I can honestly say that the drama I created for myself was horrific.

I made every time I quote unquote failed mean that Asher was never getting here. What I know from having studied my own journey and the journeys of my ladies around the world who beat insane odds. Is this, the less power I gave my failures to define me negatively, the easier I made it to light the way for Asher to find me.

I realized that struggle was optional. If you’re addicted to struggle or you think shit just has to be hard, you gotta evaluate that story for actual truth. It’s simply a perspective. It is not truth unless you make it. So get off the struggle bus, love. There’s a huge difference between struggling and persevering.

It’s a very important distinction. And when you allow yourself to live this journey with ease, you are being judicious with your energy and attention. They are precious resources indeed. So love, here’s an exercise to take what you’ve learned here to the next level. For one fucking week, choose easy. Easy like Sunday morning, baby.

And the first step is to make note of what comes up for you when you think about living your journey with ease. Do you even think it’s possible? Your answer will be quite revealing because once you are aware of your judgments about living your journey with ease, you can catch your saboteurs when they come up over the week.

As you do this exercise, the second step is with every choice you make for the next week. That is a full seven days. Mama run that choice through the following inquiry. If I was going to make things easy on myself, what would I do? Simple. No spinning required, no drama. If you were going to make things easy, what would you do?

End of story. You already know what you would do if you were in drama. I would invite you to do things differently. It’s totally your choice, love. But that’s the point. Give yourself the opportunity for one fucking week to choose easy. If I was going to make things easy on myself, what would I do? You just might find an entirely new and far more productive way of living this journey than in struggle.

And third, text the link to this podcast to someone you know could benefit from it. Screenshot this episode and put it in your Facebook or Insta story tagging me. Love, what if you could absolutely change the trajectory of your journey by living it with ease? I’m talking about creating your own certainty.

Confidence and peace. What would that do for you? Your health, your relationships, the way you make decisions, the way you show up to this critical chapter of your life. What if you could become that woman who just knows her baby was coming? Not only is this possible, my ladies do it all the time. My fearlessly fertile method program is for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months and say, hell yes, to covering their bases.

Mind and body. So you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret. I work with women who are committed to success. To apply for your interview for my revolutionary program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true.

Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you’ve got a gaping hole in your strategy. Let’s fix that shit and set you up for success. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the fearlessly fertile podcast subscribe now and leave an awesome review.

Remember the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.