EP1: The Fearlessly Fertile Philosophy

Wish you could be “fearless” on your fertility journey? Rosanne shares the Fearlessly Fertile philosophy and why it is a game changer for any woman who desires to achieve success on her fertility journey.

Transcript
Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Transcripts provided by Transcription Outsourcing, LLC. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 1, The Fearlessly Fertile Philosophy.

One of the questions that I get from women all over the world is, what does it mean to be fearlessly fertile? What is that all about? Well, let’s dig into that right now. The fearlessly fertile philosophy, one of the key drivers behind that. In fact, the unifying theme behind the notion of being fearlessly fertile is centered on a core belief that the desire you have in your heart to be a mom, it’s there because it was meant for you being a mom.

It isn’t a hobby, it isn’t a nice to have, it isn’t something that you’re just working on during the weekends. It is literally part of your purpose. Part of the reason that you are here on this planet is to be a mom. Now, indeed, it is not your only purpose, but it is one of the key factors in your life.

And the fearlessly fertile philosophy is centered on taking that as seriously as you would any other calling in your life. And this philosophy presupposes that every woman can take responsibility for what she thinks and believes, and therefore has the power to impact her results. And I see this day in and day out because one thing that has become clear after coaching women all over the world to success on their fertility journey is that when a woman takes control of what she thinks and believes, she can make the seemingly impossible possible.

I see this. over and over and over again. Women who have been living their fertility journey in fear and doubt and negativity and as a complete and total slaves to statistics and other people’s opinions, when they turn it around like that, they start to see different results. They not only look at themselves differently, they see themselves within the context of their fertility journey in a completely different way.

And I totally get that on first blush, the notion of being fearless on this journey seems like an impossibility because there’s so much at stake. But the reality is, is that because there is so much at stake, because becoming a mom is part of your purpose, You can’t afford to mess around with fear. You can’t afford to put all of your hopes and dreams in the hands of fear, doubt, and negativity.

You’ve got to be the one person in the room that believes bigger than anyone else. And this becoming fearless, it’s not about never ever feeling fear again. Taking control of your mindset is not the same thing lobotomy. What it is about is developing resilience within yourself to be able to look beyond current circumstances and evidence to the contrary.

It’s about being so deeply connected with what you know to be true, you can drown out the noise. That is what being fearlessly fertile is all about. It’s about being able to filter all of the negativity, all of the fear mongering, all of the opinions, all of the statistics that people love to throw your way, all of the tales of woe and heartbreak that people love to sling, and saying, yes, and.

It’s about keeping your eye on the prize, and not allowing other people to smear their fear and all of their bullshit all over you. Because you’ve got a job to do, you’re not leaving without your baby. This is part of your purpose. Now, when you live your journey this way, everything changes. Everything.

Because the kinds of decisions that you’ll make, you’re going to be making them with more discernment. Because you’re not just choosing, you know, the color of upholstery on a couch. What you’re doing is making choices that are going to impact part of your life’s purpose. Think about that. When you treat what you are doing on this journey with respect and treat yourself with respect and treat the truth in your heart with respect, you’re not just going to be looking for bargains, you’re not going to be looking for the cheapest thing you can get, you’re going to be looking for the very best People to bring onto your bump squad your dream matters so much that you are going to only be selecting the people that truly believe in you.

You’re going to be selecting people that absolutely are as devoted to your dreams as you are. Because that’s what it’s going to take to achieve success on this journey. You have to believe bigger than anyone else, and you cannot get distracted by the noise. Because there’s a whole lot of it, right? You know, you’ll hear one piece of advice one day, and then the next you’re going to hear something that’s the complete opposite.

There’s loads of contradiction, and frankly, a lot of people are guessing. And the one constant in all of this is you, my darling. You are the common denominator amongst all of this. So, when you take control of what you think and believe, you can be fearless. You’re not taking on other people’s doubt.

You’re not taking on other people’s negativity. You are staying focused on the vision that you have for your life and for motherhood. Becoming fearlessly fertile is a game changer. And think about it. Think about how differently you will show up to this journey every single day, putting one foot in front of the other, when you are deeply connected to the vision that you have for yourself.

Okay, that doesn’t mean you’re going to be perfect, nor do you have to be. It is simply you becoming so resilient and so connected to what you know to be true that come hell or high water, no temporary setback, no temporary heartbreak is going to distract you from the end game. And that’s the kind of ferocity that separates women who are just dabbling on this journey and women who are in it to win it.

And look, that’s how unapologetic, if you want success on this journey, that’s how unapologetic you have to be, is you have to be so clear about what you want and what you desire that nobody is going to knock you off of your game. That’s what it means to be fearlessly fertile. And that doesn’t mean you leave people behind or you have to be mean or unreasonable.

It’s just being resolved. You know exactly what you want and you’re not leaving without it. Again, that’s what it means to be fearlessly fertile. And ask any woman who has achieved success on this journey. She found that within her. And that’s what I want to challenge you to do as well. So, take out a piece of paper, open up your journal, get something to write with, and I want you to commit right now to thinking about what would be different for you on this journey if you could live it fearlessly.

If you connected so deeply with your purpose that you are no longer going to be settling for anything less, you’re not going to be taking second best, you’re not going to be tolerating anyone being on your journey who doesn’t believe in you. Or that isn’t as committed to helping you get what you want as you are.

You know, think about that. What kind of choices would you make differently? If you approach this journey as if it is part of your life’s purpose to be a mom, how would your choices be different? Would you change some of the people that are on your bump squad? Would you perhaps have different boundaries with the people that are in your life?

Think about that. Think about how different things could be on this journey for you if you lived it fearlessly. And ask yourself, how different would a day on this journey be if you were committed to the belief that, Hey, I may not know when, I may not know how, but I know my baby is coming. It doesn’t matter what’s happened in the past, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, I’m not leaving without my baby.

That, my darling, is the kind of resolve that helps women make the seemingly impossible possible. And now, I want to challenge you to think of one thing that you would do differently if you were fearless. Just pick one thing. One tiny step in the direction of becoming fearless on this journey and give yourself permission today To really go for it.

Let go of any judgments. You don’t have to be perfect And look when we’re trying out a new way of being Expect that it might be a little awkward before it goes completely smoothly. No matter what just give yourself this chance Give yourself the chance to be fearlessly fertile. Till next time, my love, love this episode of The Fearlessly Fertile Podcast.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.