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Women who beat the odds on the fertility journey possess a unique set of qualities. Learn what they are and how you can start unleashing them within you TODAY.
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Hey Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.
I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Transcripts provided by Transcription Outsourcing, LLC. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 14. Be the woman that beats the odds.
Love, I am super excited to spend a few minutes chatting with you today about something that absolutely makes my heart sing. I’m actually getting ready to host some of the most extraordinary women in the world this week here in Boise at my Fearlessly Fertile Breakthrough Retreat. These women inspired this week’s topic on being the woman that beats the odds.
Let me tell you exactly how they did that by giving you a little context. What’s a little different about the way I do retreats is that I carefully study each woman prior to the retreat So that I can honor the unique needs and interests of the group as a whole and also address their needs individually This means I can serve my ladies in a way that is so much Higher level than if I just taught the same shit Over and over again at each retreat.
That’s boring for me and a disservice to them. In reviewing the welcome packets of my ladies, I was just blown away by their passion, drive, and commitment to their vision of becoming a mom. It makes sense that they would have those qualities, right? Any woman who is willing to invest in herself, interrupt the predictable same old, same old pattern of her daily life, Take a few days off work, leave her home, city, state, conquer any fears she might have about solo travel, cross the continental United States and an ocean, like my ladies from the UK are doing, is, when you think about that, that is a woman who’s got some hell yes in her spirit.
Wouldn’t you agree? Think about how many excuses each of these women could have made and the bullshit stories they could have told themselves about how impractical it is, at a time like this, to go to Boise, of all places, for a retreat. Think about how instead of trapping themselves in someone else’s treatment timeline.
They said fuck it I’m doing this for me. My next cycle or whatever else is going on in my life can wait. I matter. I want this I’m doing it. Think about all of the lack and scarcity stories about money They could have talked themselves into because that’s the easiest lame excuse most people turn to, right?
But, these ladies didn’t fall for that shit. These are lovably type A, control freaky, professional women who have the guts to follow their hearts. That, my darling, is what makes these women extraordinary. They are the kind of women who don’t back down. They double down. They pick themselves up. dust themselves off and straighten their crowns to keep putting one foot in front of the other on this journey.
They certainly do not settle. And they want to be with other like minded women as they make their dreams come true because they understand that you must surround yourself with people who lift you up on this journey. So much of the world outside doesn’t get it and whether they intend to or not, they, they often try to bring you down by tamping down your expectations.
And they have purposely chosen a group of high vibrational women rather than a sewing circle of people that just want to feel bad for themselves. These are the kind of women who may be scared shitless, but they find it within themselves to do it anyway. Now look. None of these women are perfect, nor do they have to be.
None of us are. That’s not the point. I want you to understand that this isn’t just me bragging about the women I have the honor of coaching. I’m telling you about them because they are the embodiment of what it actually takes to be the woman that beats the odds to become a mom on this journey. I want you to know that this shit actually exists.
The idea of being the woman who succeeds on this journey isn’t some esoteric concept. It isn’t some rah rah, self help crap. Women all over the world are doing it every day by choice. For every woman, the qualities that culminate into being the woman that beats the odds will manifest a little differently, and there will be nuance.
Across the board, however, these qualities are predictable and consistent. The work we do together is about breaking down the barriers to those qualities so they have full access to those gems. When a woman has such access, she is unstoppable. She doesn’t have to worry about whether she is actually doing everything she can to get pregnant.
She knows she is. Mind and body, a critical lesson here, which may seem a little counterintuitive, but bear with me because if you lean into this, it can literally shave off years of misery on your journey is this successful women allow themselves to be the woman who beats the odds before it actually happens.
Let me say that again. Successful women allow themselves to be the woman that beats the odds before it actually happens. This means they live their journey now in the way a woman who has beaten the odds would. They aren’t waiting until they’re holding their babies to be the woman that crushed the statistics.
They aren’t waiting for physicians or other experts to give their blessing to be confident about their prospects. They are giving themselves permission to be confident now. They show up as the one badass bitch in the room that knows exactly where she’s headed and isn’t going to let anyone get in her way.
Being the woman that beats the odds means she is focused on how this can work for her. She’s not getting stuck in the weeds over the shit that isn’t working. She is being that woman with a solution. Now. Okay. Sometimes that can be a little bit confusing of a concept, but I really want you to play with that and lean in successful women on this journey, allow themselves to be the woman who beat the odds before it actually happens.
You just show up completely differently when you do. It takes a great deal of courage to make this leap. Because this runs counter to what most of you will hear out in the world. You are more likely to hear things like, oh don’t get your hopes up, don’t count your eggs before they hatch, oh so apropos.
But all of that mess, it’s just nonsense, because the reality is In order to be the woman who succeeds, you’ve got to allow yourself to be that woman. Now, the big takeaway here is that in allowing themselves to be the woman that beats the odds, the woman that actually does this empowers herself to transform her results.
This isn’t magic. It’s actually logical and linear. When a woman allows herself to do this, she learns to think differently so she can show up differently, therefore create new results. It’s basically Newton’s third law of motion. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. You show up differently, your results, by law, must be different.
It’s a law of nature, not some hocus pocus, airy fairy, self help bullshit. It’s simply a fact. Let me demonstrate this concept even further using the example of the women coming to the retreat. They had to be the woman that gets herself to the retreat before they actually get to Boise. Because the woman that gets herself into the retreat didn’t get immobilized by excuses.
She signs up, books her flights, packs her bags, gets on a plane, and gets her beautiful ass to Boise. They literally had to be that woman when they said their hell yes. So by being that woman before they even get to Boise, they Basically guarantee they’re going to get to Boise. And this is what happens when you clear the mental blocks that keep you from showing up like the woman who beats the odds.
You give yourself the chance to actually be the woman that beats the odds. Does that make sense? Think about the opportunities you miss, the solutions you don’t see, and the risks you don’t take. by failing to develop these qualities within you. And the most exciting thing about all of this, my love, is they exist in you already.
You simply have to drag them out, sometimes kicking and screaming. Having had to do this work myself, I know that this is a huge leap of faith. It will make you uncomfortable. It’s scary as shit. But isn’t your dream of being a mom worth it? Seriously. What the hell do you have to lose? Tolerating mediocrity on this journey is bullshit.
You and your dreams are better than that. Nobody sails through this journey without pain. That doesn’t mean you have to martyr yourself in any way, but it does mean that you have to show up as the woman who is open to the challenges and the heartbreak because she knows in her soul that the payoff is fucking grand.
Okay? You’ve got to allow yourself to be the woman that beats the odds before you actually beat them. Some may say this is hard, but my response to that is, how bad do you want to be a mom? The women that want it bad enough do the work, and that’s why they end up in the winner’s circle. They put themselves there.
So here’s an exercise to really play with this idea this week. I want you to ask yourself honestly, Are you being the woman that beats the odds? Are you tolerating your own bullshit excuses? Are you letting temporary setbacks dictate the course of your journey? Are you playing small? Are you wallowing in mediocrity and complaining instead of being the woman who finds solutions?
Are you letting your blocks run you, babe? Or are you going to be the woman who covers her bases, doesn’t let her thoughts and beliefs sabotage her, so she can look back on this chapter of her life with not a fucking shred of regret? And if you’re ready to be that woman, you’ll be very excited to know that my team and I will be announcing an entirely new suite of programs very soon.
It’s super exciting. We are changing a few things. in my coaching practice because it is my intent and decision to serve even more women than ever before as they take a stand for being the mom they know in their soul they were meant to be. So stay tuned, my loves. If you want to learn more about me, my coaching practice, my online courses that are changing the lives of women across the globe, or read my amazing client success stories, Check me out at www.FromMaybeToBaby.com or see what I’m up to on Instagram at RoseanneAustinFertility. Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.
When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.