EP17: The Power of Hell Yes

Could you be blocking your success with indecision and wishy-washiness? Learn what that looks like and how standing in your truth, the real truth, can catapult you toward success on your fertility journey—faster and smarter than you think.

Hey Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 17. The Power of Hell. Yes. Hello, my precious ones. I’m delighted to be with you again this week. I wanna share an idea with you. In this episode, that really proved to be a game changer in my life and on my fertility journey.

It’s the power of hell yes! How often do you find yourself just kind of ho humming through decision making? Or even worse, saying yes when you mean hell no, or saying a pip squeaky self effacing, things can’t get that good for me no, when you really mean, hell yes, hook a sister up, please. If that is what you find yourself doing, I’m here to invite you to consider doing things differently, because Life is too short for that bullshit, and it will block you from having what you really, really want.

It’s either hell yes, or hell no. Hell maybe is for suckers. It’s for people who have not made the decision they are all in. If you want success on this journey, you can’t afford to mess around with wishy washy indecision. There’s frankly no excuse for it. You know in your heart EXACTLY what you want, my loves.

The only reason you would fuck around with Hell Maybe is because you are scared. YOU know your truth. Put ya back down, then start spinning. When we look back on all of our Hell Maybes, and we’ve all said them, and the angst that they leave in our wake, it would have been so much easier to just say, HELL YES!

Or, hell no, deal with the consequences and move the fuck on. I want to inspire you this week to quit doing that shit. Have the guts to stand in your hell yes. Or, hell no. If something’s not a hell yes for you, it’s a hell no. Simplify your life and your journey. Why expend resources like time, money, and energy on shit that’s just sort of meh for you?

You gotta look at what is causing you to hold back in this area. You deserve to be a powerful decision maker. Is it obligation? What other people think? Not knowing the next step or fooling yourself into thinking you need to think a little more about it. None of those excuses are you in your power, my love.

Wishy washiness and hell maybes are not going to work. You’ve got to stand up straight, my darlings. Know your mind and cultivate the belief in yourself to expect that you will speak your truth. You’ve got to demand this of yourself. So often we back down from our truth because we don’t want to hurt or inconvenience other people.

While that intention is great, the real truth is your inauthenticity hurts both of you, it’s miserable for you, and undoubtedly will end up creating friction in the relationship you have with the person you think you are sparing. You’ll end up resenting them and being pissed off at yourself for continuing to hide.

Telling yourself you need more time to think is just a stall tactic. My darlings, you already know what you want to do. Go for it. The people around you will live, and they will get on with their lives as well. Some of you may want to quibble with me about nuance and how things aren’t always that simple.

While I might agree with you in theory, I will disagree with you in practice. The only one that’s actually holding us up in decision making is us. The inability to trust your decision making is a telltale sign of dun dun dun, perfectionism. That shit will paralyze you and nothing will get done. And when it actually does, It will be a slow, painful, miserably expensive process for you emotionally and financially.

Because I’m willing to bet that 99. 999 times out of 10, you would have been happier if you had just gone for what you wanted in the first place than pussyfooting around it. I’m here to encourage you to trust yourselves, my darlings. You ever notice how when you choose the cheaper option instead of what you really want, it always feels cheap and it always feels second best?

That’s what we’re trying to prevent here. You have got to trust your instinct. Your instinct is fed by the wisdom and the infinite intelligence of the divine. Time to trust yourself, baby. The other thing I want you to notice about Hell Yes and Hell No is how they feel energetically. Both feel so amazing.

Want to know why? It’s freedom, baby! It’s owning what’s real for us and being okay with it. We let our spirits soar out from the depths of repression and soul sapping judgment and we stand the fuck up. You don’t have to be mean about your hell nose. Just say them quickly, without explanation, and move the fuck on.

It’s better for everyone. Indeed, it takes a level of bravery to claim our hell yeses and noes. But that’s what being alive and being on this journey is all about. It takes guts to live a truly great life, and why the hell not do that? Life is short! And who the hell wants to live with the regret of knowing you didn’t spend your time where it really mattered doing things that get you closer to your goal, babe?

Remember what I said in episode 16. This journey is preparation. This is our time to shape the women and mothers we want to become. We don’t want our children to be buried under stupid made up obligations that we all know are lame. We want better for our kids. We want better for ourselves. We want our children to stand up for themselves.

When you cultivate the power of hell yes in yourself, you can model that for your babies. When you say hell yes, you bring all of your power to the table, my darlings. You can feel how great it is knowing that you are all in. When we show up to things in our lives with a giant hell yes, we are about a zillion times more likely to succeed because, you guessed it, you are giving it your all with excitement, joy, and that certain je ne sais quoi that is so magnetic.

Take a moment. Let’s do this together right now. Just take a moment to say, Hell yes! Feel how good that is in your body to even say it. Hell yes! Now, just do that with hell no as well. If, just imagine something that you don’t want to do right now, and just say, Hell no! It feels so good too! It’s a no and that’s it.

No hemming, no hawing, just hell no. Hell yes and hell no are how we start to create certainty in our lives and on this journey. We know our minds and we stand by what we believe. No more unnecessary detours with spinning and indecision. Make a fucking decision and put your whole heart into it. With your hell yes or hell no.

Love and trust yourselves enough, my darlings, to let your yeses be hell yeses and your noes be hell noes. Your dreams and you are too important to settle for anything less. So here’s an exercise to get you started. Practice your hell yeses and hell noes. For the next seven days, be intolerant of wishy washiness in yourself.

Simplify. It’s either hell yes or hell no. Then notice what’s different. If you are ready to get out of your own way on this journey and create amazing success on your fertility journey and live it with zero regret, it’s time for us to have a chat. Access to private coaching with me will be changing rather dramatically very soon, so if you wanted a chance to coach with me one on one, the time to do it, my darling, is now.

Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for a breakthrough session there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Let’s see if working together makes sense. Until next time, gorgeous ones. Change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying, Hell yes!

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.