EP18: Invested or Interested?

Does it feel like you are just treading water on your journey—doing the same old thing and getting the same old disappointing results? Learn how powerful wisdom from the NFL can help you snap out of that rut and breath much needed new life into your journey.

Hey Gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 18. Are you interested or invested? Loves. I’m going to keep this week’s podcast, a lean, mean fighting machine. My publishing team and I are working overtime to get everything ready for my book launch next week.

It is a super exciting time, and over the course of this book writing process, what I want to share with you this week has come up again and again. It’s the concept of being interested or invested in your success. I wish I could take credit for this, but this concept is not of my creation. I love learning about elite athletes and the changes they make in their own life.

That take them from being good to crushing at excellence. I was listening to an interview a few weeks ago with a quarterback, Nick Foles, talking about Doug Peterson, the coach of the Philadelphia Eagles football team, which Nick used to play for. He talked about how coach Peterson motivated his team and looked at winning.

In the locker room, coach Peterson would ask, Are you interested in winning or are you invested in it? This is a huge distinction my loves whether in sports or in our lives Or, of course, on this journey, that nuance can spell the difference between victory and final defeat. So let’s talk about that.

Interested. What does it mean to just be interested? In my world, that’s being a looky loo window shopper. Always looking, never buying, slow to the draw. Waiting for that shit to go on sale and saving a few bucks that won’t mean anything to you over the course of a lifetime instead of just pulling the trigger and having what you want.

Someone who is interested in success considers the possibility of winning but hasn’t made the decision to win. Someone who is interested in winning. Well, more often than not, spend more time on the sidelines wishing and hoping than getting any real time on the field where the game is actually won. Now, let’s contrast that with the person that is invested.

Invested is all about, Fuck yeah! I’m doing this! Burn the ships! There’s no turning back! I am going for it! These are people who are out on the playing field rain or shine doing what it takes and making no excuses. These are the people who commit to finding a way. They gravitate toward those who believe in them.

They surround themselves with people and coaches that can help them get there. They have the raw materials for success. They just need to be shaped into an arrow headed straight for victory. Now, being invested, I totally get it’s a scary thing. It means we are all in. It means we risk looking foolish or downright stupid at times.

The people around us might not get it. The odds might be against us. But doesn’t that make an even stronger case? For giving this journey and what you want on it, everything you’ve got, why not leave every bit of you on the dance floor? I can tell you, two years on the other side of my journey, cause my son’s gonna be two in a couple weeks, being a mom is so fucking worth it.

It is so fucking worth being invested. And leaving everything you’ve got on the field, baby. Besides, what does anyone’s opinion about what you were doing or how you were doing it, what does that have to do with you and your dreams on this journey? Having helped women around the world make their mama dreams come true, I can tell you that the women standing in the winner’s circle were invested.

They were not messing around, and they were willing to be the last woman standing. Because of that, today, they stand there holding their babies in victory. And the coolest thing ever is a whole bunch of them are going to be sharing their story with you in my book, which drops on Amazon on June 27. So keep an eye out for that.

So why the hell not take a stand, my loves? There is something, you know, I’m not sure exactly what it is, but there’s something about the nature of this journey. Maybe it’s because it’s intimate by nature, or because it preys upon our sense of self worth. Whatever it is, it sucks away our willingness to be fierce.

Now, allowing that to be the case on your journey is some self sabotaging bullshit. Because the reality is, the time to be invested is now. You’ve gotta give it all you’ve got! Why the fuck hold back? Why risk five years from now, looking back on this journey, and you’re still doing the same thing, getting the same old results?

The only difference will be you’ll be 5 years more bitter and 5 years full of regret. Women who are truly invested in being a mom cannot afford to hold back. They can’t afford to live with the searing pain of regret. Woman, invest the money. Make the call. Send the email. Get the 3rd, 7th opinion if you have to.

Hire the coach! Set up the appointment. Say hell yes! Stop listening to other people. Listen to that thing in your chest called a heart. If I am getting under your skin right now, Good. It’s because I give a shit. It’s because I love you. It’s because I want you to know what being a mom feels like. You deserve that.

So yes, if I’m screaming, if I’m yelling at you, Please. The tendency on this journey is to shrink back, dim our light, and not be bold in what we ask for. Who the fuck has time for that when you’re trying to have a baby? I also think that holding back on this journey comes down to some good old fashioned societal misogyny.

Good girls are supposed to be polite, keep their mouths shut, be nice, consider other people’s feelings, blah, blah, blah. While the sentiment is nice, that is complete and utter bullshit. When a man wants something he fucking goes and gets it We applaud him as a go getter a man who gets the job done, right?

How many times have we heard that it’s 2019 ladies time to put on your big girl panties and rock your fertility journey Ask for and get what you want There’s also that bullshit story that we don’t want to ask for too much out of fear of being disappointed. That lame, boring strategy has been disproven time and time again.

Disappointment is disappointment. When you are invested and take bold action, at least you can take pride in knowing that you had the ovaries of steel to take the leap in the first place. That is the way a woman who succeeds on this journey thinks. I am coming at you hard this week because I see way too many women shrink back when the reality is, with the clock ticking, they need to be grabbing their journey by the shirt and shaking it.

It’s either hell yes or hell no, my loves. There is no room for hell maybe in the winner’s circle. Remember what I taught you in episode 17? So here’s an exercise to help you really start to get this into your bones. Are you interested or are you invested? Be honest with yourself. Are you invested or are you merely interested?

Knowing the truth here is critical. If you’re more of a window shopper about being a mom, own it. Give yourself a break, honor the fact that you’re just really not in it with your whole heart. It takes guts to tell yourself the truth. On the other hand, if you are invested, be fucking invested. Make the decision that this week you’re gonna start acting like it.

Call yourself out when you start to shrink back and act like you’re only interested. Evaluate your actions. Are they the actions of a woman who is invested? Look, if you’re in a place today where you are invested but you don’t know where to go from here and you want to have the playbook of a woman who achieves incredible success on this journey, let’s have a chat.

My ladies are women who leave no stone unturned and they do not look back on their journey with regret. They think, believe, and act like women who are invested and that’s why they win. Access to private coaching with me will be changing very quickly. So if you wanted to get the chance to coach with me one on one, the time to do it is now.

Go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for a breakthrough session there. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Let’s see if working together makes sense. Till next time my darlings, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast?

Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.