EP19: Conceiving Is About Receiving

Could you be sabotaging your success on this journey due to your ability to “receive?” Learn how the often overlooked skill of receiving can stall or derail your efforts to become the Mom you were meant to be.

Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 19. Conceiving is about receiving. My darlings, I am back! The past couple of weeks have been an absolute whirlwind of excitement, cross country travel, my book going bestseller internationally, and my inbox being flooded with people asking me about my book and wanting to get into my coaching programs.

It has been crazy, and by no means am I complaining. It feels great, and I’m super grateful for this experience and all that I’ve learned in this process. Now, while considering everything that has manifested in my life since the beginning of the year and during the launch of my bestselling book, I happened upon a thought that I want to share with you this week.

It’s something quite apropos and something that I struggled with throughout my own journey. And I’m sharing it because it has become an integral aspect of my own success. Not only with having my son, of course, but also in other aspects of my life. It’s an idea that rarely gets discussed on this journey, much less in our lives.

And I truly believe that it’s one that will be central to any kind of success that you create on this journey or in your life. It’s the reality that conceiving is all about receiving. Conceiving is about receiving. Receiving physically. And metaphorically, the physical aspect for us as women, well, that’s fairly obvious.

We receive the sperm or embryos that go on to develop into our babies. It’s middle school biology. Simple enough, right? It’s the metaphorical piece that trips us up. Majorly. And unchecked can create ridiculous blocks between us and our babies. Now, if there’s part of you that’s worried that I’ve gone off the rails into woo woo land, slow your roll, sister.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love the woo. I can go super woo. But we don’t have to go there for this. Unless, of course, you want to. Ah, for now, we’ll just keep our feet on the ground and talk about why the inability to metaphorically receive on this journey can be detrimental to your success. For the vast majority of us, the physical aspect of this journey is kind of the easy part.

We can wrap our heads around it. I know my ladies, we have a high threshold for all kinds of pain. We go to doctors, get poked, prodded, and have foreign objects inserted into our bodies. We figure that this is just a necessary part to getting the job done. We are comfortable with the idea that basic physical attention to our bodies is what’s going to get us across the finish line.

But what happens when getting pregnant the old fashioned way, or very basic entry level treatments, fails? We freak out, because it means we’re going to have to step out of our comfort zone and receive Receiving in our context here means what we allow ourselves to have on this journey. Be it treatments, various kinds of support, supplements, money to fund our next steps, time in our calendar, help, and you name it.

Receiving in our context here is about having the ingredients we need to accomplish our goals. Receiving is about allowing ourselves to have whatever resources we desire to be successful. You see, most of us have set limits about what we can receive. We say to ourselves, if it’s covered by insurance, sure, we’ll take it.

If we don’t have to drive quote unquote too far, we’ll go for it. If we stay within a certain price range, which, as a side note, isn’t usually based in reality, No problem! If it’s not too weird, great, we’ll take it. If we don’t have to do it too many times or fail more than is acceptable, awesome! Or, if we can just DIY it, yippee!

This is what we do. We set limits on what we can receive. We have all kinds of arbitrary limits that we set about what we are allowed to receive. Sometimes without even knowing it or ever really questioning the basis for those limits. Can you see how what you’re open to receiving can have an impact on you conceiving?

We figure that we are open to receiving. Maybe you’re listening to this and you’re saying to yourself, I don’t know, I do receive, I allow myself. But the reality is, is most of us only allow ourselves to receive up to a point. And deviation from those limits can get our hackles up. We start telling ourselves stories that the resources we desire, well, those are for other people, not us.

This is particularly true for my lovably Type A, control freaky high achieving women. The women I serve. We get so used to doing things on our own, our way, and get so invested in what other people tell us is the right way to do things, that it’s only when things get crazy that we stop and ask ourselves, is there a better way, and do I need help?

I see this all the time. Incredibly accomplished women literally painting themselves into a corner and blocking the support that can help them get a result. faster and smarter than they ever could on their own. Stories about time, money, chances, age, and the way things are supposed to happen can absolutely block us from receiving the things that can help us conceive on this journey, whatever they may be.

And I bet if you really take a look at the stories that you have running in your beautiful mind right now, I think you’ll see the fingerprints of this. All over your journey. So let me ask you. Can you imagine how different your journey would be today If you allowed yourself to receive all of the things that could help you get pregnant Mind and body what if you just lean back and said to yourself?

I am open to receiving what will help me get my baby, whatever the fuck it is Can you even imagine the freedom and the license and the agency it really gives you on this journey? Conceiving is all about receiving love. And look, this is a lesson I had to apply on my own journey, and when it came to getting my book out into the world.

When I did a closer inspection on the way that I had been living my journey, it was obvious to me that I had to look at myself. Because all the crazy external, physical shit I was doing was not getting me the result. When I started doing the work on myself, I could see the minefield of blocks I had created for myself and the bullshit stories that were keeping me stuck.

Once I began addressing those things, in a blink of an eye, I began to see incremental results. It’s unlikely that I could have been able to do that as quickly and as effectively as I did without being open to receiving the coaching and education that my mentors provided. As a recovering Taipei control freak myself, I had been so caught up in doing shit myself that it wasn’t until things went so far off the rails that I realized getting help made sense.

I told so many of those stories that we talked about earlier about how smart I was and how I could figure this out on my own, but you know what? My results spoke for themselves. And I’m not exactly the most patient woman in the world. So, I had to open myself up to receiving, and the result was tremendous.

And, look, it wasn’t just me. If you’ve read my book, you’re familiar with the accounts of women around the world who have applied the principles I teach, and that by changing what they think, they empowered themselves to change their results, often quicker than they thought possible. They allowed themselves to receive what they knew was missing.

This doesn’t just apply to having my son or my ladies having their babies. This also applied to my book. Most people would love to write a book. Some do, but only a tiny percentage actually finish and then get that bitch published. Like when I got serious about breaking down the blocks between myself and my son, I had to do the same with my book.

So I hired the most amazing team and birthed a book, baby! I allowed myself to receive the support I needed to make my dream come true. I received the support of an amazing launch team of big hearted women all over the world. And we went number one internationally, baby. So, a little shout out to my launch team.

You guys rock! Going back to our topic at hand of Conceiving is about receiving. This is what’s possible, my loves, when we allow ourselves to receive. We can make the most incredible things happen. Are you going to open your heart fully to receive whatever you desire to hold that precious baby that you know in your soul is meant for you?

Will you receive or will you block it? Love, if you are doing everything you can to get pregnant and nothing is working, you’ve got to look at this topic of receiving. So, here’s an exercise to help you take this to the next level and explore it further. I want you to take a moment and evaluate. How willing are you to receive?

Could that be getting in your way on this journey? Ask yourself, what are you not seeing, doing, or allowing that can literally be blocking your success? And love, if you are in a place today where you are doing everything you know to do to get pregnant and nothing seems to be working, and you’re starting to worry that you might be sabotaging your success here, and most importantly, you are committed to turning the ship around, it’s probably time we had a conversation, love.

My ladies are women who learn the skill set for thinking like a success on this journey. They learn to think, believe, and act like women who succeed, and that’s why they win. Enrollment in my new Fearlessly Fertile Method program will be opening soon. It’s some of the best work I’ve ever done and we are going to be conducting interviews to get in very soon.

Yes, interviews. Go to my website www.FromMaybeToBaby.com to apply for a breakthrough session there. That’ll give us an opportunity to chat and see if the program is a fit. My methodology has helped women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Let’s make sure that you don’t have a gaping hole in your fertility strategy, my love.

Till next time my darling, change your mindset, change your results. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.