EP4: Fertility success faster? Try this counterintuitive move.

What if one simple, powerful, yet counterintuitive move could bring you closer to fertility success faster? It’s the exact opposite of every impulse you have in your body right now AND it could make all the difference in the world.

Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes.

For your fertility journey. It’s time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode four. Want fertility success faster? Try this counterintuitive move. My darling woman, conventional wisdom would have you believe that if you want faster results, you have to move and do things faster.

But, as you might have come to realize, conventional wisdom doesn’t always apply to baby making. Mother Nature and the divine are not confined by our rules and defy them on the regular. Today, I’m going to challenge you to consider something that may feel very unconventional and downright, you guessed it, counterintuitive.

I am inviting you to slow the fuck down and rest for a minute. This notion is even more important if you are amidst a treatment cycle or planning for one. Let me be clear. This isn’t the same thing as the just relax bullshit that people who have never spent a day on this journey love to spew. Telling a woman to just relax is some disingenuous nonsense.

Being a mom is part of your life purpose, why the fuck would you ever want to relax or take some half assed approach to your desire for that? Seriously. That being said, what I am inviting you to do is simply slow down and get your bearings. I totally understand that with the near constant fear mongering about time and a fertility culture rife with notions of lack and scarcity, Your immediate response to this proposition may be, Rozanne, what the hell are you talking about?

I can’t slow down, are you crazy? The clock is ticking! And to that, babe, I hear you. I lived far too many years on my own fertility journey under the proverbial gun. Leapfrogging from one treatment to the next, and one diet, supplement, or miracle cure to the next. At a breakneck pace. I was so exhausted, depleted, and heartbroken over working so hard and still quote unquote failing that at times I wondered if I should just give up.

I bet you can relate. This, woman, is what happens if we don’t take a minute to slow the fuck down. Now, let’s make things crystal clear. I am all about a woman putting her stiletto heeled foot on the gas when it comes to her baby. But, you have to point your shit in the right direction, or you will crash.

This is why taking a minute to slow down is so smart. I’m not talking about an idiotic, indefinite hiatus. Maybe a month, maybe a week, or even a weekend. The greatest thing about this is you decide. You were born with millions of eggs. They will still be there and taking some time to breathe can only be to your benefit.

It’s not like your body, mother nature, or the divine are particularly worried about our calendar, our arbitrary timelines, or our negatively skewed notions about age. Do you really think it will make a difference if you wait a weekend, a week, or a month to do your next treatment or actively try again?

But on the other hand Taking a minute to step out of the fertility frenzy gives you a chance to clear your head, interrupt the patterns that are not getting you results, and start thinking like a woman who makes success inevitable. It’s the perfect time to take a step back and look objectively at where you have been on this journey.

And here are some critical questions to be asking when you take that moment. What’s working? What’s not? How’s your bump squad or fertility team functioning? Do you need to add a few people to the team? Might you want to uplevel the team to include more people who actually believe in you and have more original ideas about helping you achieve your success than just regurgitating statistics and tales of woe?

Is it time to look at different alternatives? Maybe it’s time to take a look at the 347 different supplements and virtual obstacle course of practices you are doing and reevaluate your approach. Do you really need all that shit, or are you just taking a shotgun approach? Perhaps you’re allowing yourself to be fear factored into doing shit that doesn’t even feel right to you.

This is the point of taking some time, mama. Taking a minute to reevaluate this approach It’s an investment in your commitment to being a mom. You know, another thing that you may want to take a look at is, is it time to make the next level of investment or start making smarter investments, rather than doing the short sighted, penny pinching dance to the lame o tune of, I can’t possibly spend that much.

Maybe it’s time to invest bigger and take the leap, instead of doing shit by halves, which is not going to get you anywhere. Being a mom is part of who you are, love. If you are going to invest money, invest it in shit that actually matters. and give yourself an opportunity to take an inventory. What really feels right to you?

What do you know instinctively you need more of? Okay, these are the kinds of questions that smart women ask on this journey. Taking a minute also helps you turn down the noise because chances are you are being so inundated with other people’s opinions that you might not know the status of your own.

You may have completely lost touch with what actually matters to you and what actually feels right. You might be so run down you can’t tell up from down. You may find it’s also time to take a break from the people around you. I’m talking about your friends, family, or anyone else. who is around you on this journey.

Not because you don’t love these people, or not because they don’t have something to contribute, but because, as the mama to be, you need to get your head straight. Can you see all that taking a minute can empower you to do? Smarter, strategic, bullshit free choices lead to better results, faster. Ask any woman who has beaten the odds.

My love, my ladies rise above the fertility frenzy. They know taking time to slow down gives them the clarity to be deliberate, decisive, and strategic on this journey. That’s why they’re so damn successful. Decide that you will be one of them. Here’s an exercise to help you with that. It’s called slow down to speed up.

We’ve all heard the cliche about not seeing the forest for the trees, right? Might that be happening on your fertility journey? What are you not seeing because you’re approaching this journey like a sprint instead of the undeniable marathon it is? Can you imagine having the clarity that would empower you to be deliberate, decisive, and confident as fuck in your choices?

Could it help you get what you want faster? You bet. Take some time to really look at where you’re at on this journey. Give yourself a timeline. You know, could you take a day, could you take a weekend, could you take a month to just take a step back from your journey and really think about what’s next for you.

Look at what’s working, look at what’s not, look at where you might want additional support to help you get what you want. This is what smart women do. They ask better questions. They ask, how can this work for me? What are the adjustments that I can make to help ensure my success? So bust out your journal, get out a piece of paper, hang out, and just be with where you’re at on this journey.

Take a bold and honest inventory of what you’d love to change, shift, or uplevel on this journey. It’s so worth the time I love. To learn more about me, my coaching practice, my amazing client success stories, and my online courses that are changing the way women live their fertility journey, go to www.FromMayBetoBaby.com.

Till next time, change your mindset, change your results. Here’s to being fearlessly fertile. Love this episode of the Fearlessly Fertile podcast? Subscribe now and leave an awesome review. Remember, the desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. When it comes to your dreams, keep saying hell yes.

Rosanne offers a variety of programs to help you on your fertility journey — from Self-study, to Live, to Private Coaching.