Feeling anxious about the ticking clock? Do this.

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Love, I am sooooo excited to spend a little time with you today as we talk about one of the most anxiety-unleashing hot zones on the fertility journey…TIME.

I bet that from the moment you realized that your fertility was engaged in an agonizing version of “hide and seek,” you started looking at your calendar (and watch) with a higher degree of urgency.

With each passing month, you might have started adding an extra exclamation point to the question, “when is IT going to happen for me?!”

Perhaps you have blown through dozens of ovulation predictor kits, thermometers, and even for a millisecond toyed with the idea of getting your own ultrasound machine so you could predict the exact moment when you would ovulate!

I’d venture to guess that you’ve played the zero sum game of telling yourself that, “if it doesn’t happen this month, ” OR “if it doesn’t happen this round of treatment,” you will never be a Mom.

I’d even be willing to bet a pair of my stilettos that because of the stories you tell yourself about TIME, you’ve even tormented yourself with some version of freak-out phrases like, “advanced maternal age,” “it’s too late for me,” and “I must have missed my chance.”

Rosanne, can you relate?

It doesn’t help that our culture is one that favors instant gratification over divine timing and graceful patience, but you don’t have to buy into that B.S. ( B.S. = belief system, hee-hee!)

If you are sick of tormenting yourself over becoming a Mom according to a certain timeline, or by a certain date, do this:

Change the date.

Let me say that again: just change the date.

Exhale and change the date.

Your partner, your body, your mind, your spirit, your faith, your family, your friends, and the child who will have the honor of calling you MOM will thank you.

Miracles happen when we are truly ready to receive them.

This isn’t spiritual or religious dogma–it’s just a simple fact. I bet that you have tons of examples from your own life of how you are sooooo glad things happened when they did…and not a moment sooner.

Change the story you tell yourself about time.

Mindset is EVERYTHING on this journey.

Lots of love,

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Intrigued? Here’s an exercise to take this to the next level…

Change the story you tell yourself about time.

Get out a piece of paper and write-out the lies and half-truths you tell yourself about time. (Yes, you have to get some paper. Want things to change? Do the work!)

Notice any resistance that comes up for you when you try to call these buggers out for the nonsense they are!

Our stories tend to be self-perpetuating and they hate to be put out of a job, so they parade as “truth,” and rational thinking–when all they are is part of some crappy B.S.

When you get real about your “stories,” you give yourself a path to freedom from them.

Write out what’s possible for you if you just “change the date!”

Give yourself a loving and spacious new timeline!

Love yourself enough to rock the tick-tock of your own clock, not one that fear, jealousy, lack, or negativity tries to shove your way.

Stretch yourself. Remember, it’s about progress, NOT perfection.

Want extra accountability? COMMENT on this blog and tell me how it’s going.