Do you ever feel like while indeed you and your partner are on this journey together, the two of you are having wildly different experiences?
When my husband and I were knee deep in our journey, there were times when we’d be sitting at our clinic and I’d want to check him for a pulse, because he was so freakin’ calm.
I, on the other hand, was slightly wild-eyed, edgy, and habitually scanning the waiting room, sizing other women up for their fertility! (Yes, I claim my shame!)
This disparity carried over into the meaning we individually attached to the subject of going through fertility treatment.
For my husband, it simply meant that we were seeking medical attention in order to achieve a goal.
For me, the very fact that we were struggling with our fertility meant that I was an unlovable, worthless failure, who was paying the price for daring to want it all–a successful career, the love of my life, and a beautiful baby.
There were so many times I wanted to scream, “how can you be so calm while our lives, our hopes, and dreams are falling apart?!”
While the reasons why men and women might experience this journey differently are myriad, one thing is clear…it impacts us differently–no better, no worse, just differently.
So what can you do to get your man to understand?
I’ve created something to help you start the conversation–particularly when it comes to getting his buy-in (not permission–seriously, it’s 2017) when it comes to getting the coaching support you desire.
If nothing else, this can be a powerful catalyst for a conversation you dearly need to have with your man.
Over the years, I have found that men who truly embody the empowered masculine want nothing more than to support the woman they love to be happy and healthy.
In fact, they revel in it!
This week, give your man a chance to understand–the rewards can be amazing!
Lots of love,
Intrigued? Here’s an exercise to take this to the next level…
Tell your man the truth about what you need.
Quit selling him and yourself short. Let him know the impact this journey is having on you.
Share your needs from a place of empowerment and expectation that he wants you to be happy.
Understand that telling yourself you need his “permission” to get what you need on this journey is just an excuse. Be the woman who loves herself enough to take a stand for what she desires…and gets it.
If you know you desire additional support on this journey–tell him. If the “Get Your Man To Understand” page resonates, let him see it.
Stretch yourself. Remember, it’s about progress, NOT perfection.
If this exercise has made a difference in your day, comment and tell me about it. xoxoxo