Infertility Mindfulness In Just 6 Words
There are times on this journey when our minds and bodies are literally screaming for relief from the pressures of trying to conceive. Even our struggles before the days of “TTC” start to look like a day on the beach when we have gone a few rounds with the pain, disappointment, and heartbreak that can clutter our path. Pile on well meaning loved ones that say the absolute wrong thing at the wrong time, or our perilous social media feeds that include a predictable parade of pregnancy announcements and “just born” pictures, and it’s easy to slip into negativity.
So how do you get out?
Let me start off by saying that there is an important distinction between “escaping negativity,” and “denial.” Denial is a deceptively seductive place that seems like a cool spot to hide out for a while, but turns into a dangerous, spider infested cave, full of creepy crawlies. It will catch up with you. Give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. It’s key to the healing process.
Escaping negativity is about infertility mindfulness. What’s that? It’s the conscious decision to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, surroundings, and fertility situation without judgment. The negativity we feel is often the stinking by-product of how we judge our thoughts, feelings, and infertility. When you think or feel about your infertility, listen close to the judgments that quickly seem to materialize all around. Watch how easy it is for things to spiral. Presto! Negativity.
6 Words To The Rescue
I am more than my infertility.
Battle negativity with this simple TRUTH. (Somewhere in your heart, you know these 6 words are true.) Next time you have a thought or feeling about your infertility, challenge yourself not to judge it (or yourself.) Instead, acknowledge that thought or feeling for what it is. Punctuate it with, “I am more than my infertility.” Check it out:
“I feel like such a failure…I am more than my infertility.”
“I had another negative pregnancy test…I am more than my infertility.”
Smile as you say it. Try just shouting those 6 words on their own when you need an immediate boost! Knee deep in the depths of despair, speaking this truth may take some effort, but it’s well worth it.
When you get into the habit of acknowledging that you are MORE than your infertility, it will get harder and harder for you to stay in a negative frame of mind. Kindly empower yourself with the richness and strength of all that you are!
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With Love + Respect,
Rosanne
© 2014 Rosanne Austin, From Maybe To Baby